Hi there!

[Patagonie]

So at this point, I've read everything except the appendix. I see no reason why I shouldn't try this-- higher marriage success rates, smarter, and prettier people live there.

As I said, I've had a lot of experience dating on U.S. dating websites. I've nearly tried them all.

In the book, there is a simple formula for sending out a message to a woman you like & intend to visit. It goes something like:
Why you are interested in communicating with here
Aspects of here personality
Aspects of my personality
What we may have in common

With my experiences on U.S. dating websites, this seems like a formula for failure. Does it really work? Has anyone here sent out introductory messages like this?

For example, here is a message I sent someone on fdating.com:
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Your red hair caught my attention. But then I saw you work in Higher Education, and speak English. I also work in Higher Education, so I thought we might have some things in common.

I also saw that you are looking for a reliable, loyal, and kind person, and I'm pretty sure that's me. Also, I'm practicing learning Russian, but I'm not very good at it yet. I've only been at it for a few weeks.

Can you tell me more about yourself?

I hope to hear from you!
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Now, I was previously criticized for being unconfident. However, I do not think this is the case. Based on what I've read, the above message sounds appropriate. Would you agree?

Thanks,
-Rob

The message, is not so bad for contacting a russian woman.
But unfortunately, i think that your profile, has too much disadvantage for this journey, just IMO.
You focus, as many, too much on internet and you have no experience with dating, internet isn't dating.
Go to Russia or Ukraine and spend one week, just to smell the culture, that is my advice.

[CanadaMan]

Because of my lack of success at dating in the United States, Canada, and Romania, I have decided to move my search to Ukraine / Russia...

And, worse... I can't move my search elsewhere. I'm pretty much at the end of the line with the Ukrainian / Russian dating website. I have been steadily increasing my search radius to find the right person... but unfortunately, Earth is the only planet with humans on it, so I can't do some sort of interplanetary dating service.

You've only touched the tip of the iceberg iceshaft.

Try South America, or Asia or East Asia. There are tons of available women and dating sites there.

You've still got a long way to go before you exhaust planet Earth!

And, I've also read that there is a 80% success rate with international marriages.

Links? Success for the first week, maybe.
More than 10 years? Not true.

However, in my older age, it seems that my main interest has backfired on me...

If you are in your older age at age 27, how will you describe yourself when you reach your 40's or 50's?


As for messages to send to prospective dates, how about trying this:

"Gun-loving, video-gaming software engineer seeks same in partner.

P.S. This is an automated message showing off my reverse engineering computer skills.
If we hit it off I'll show you my cool algorithms (if you agree to show me yours).    "

[Russian123]

CanadaMan, your message is short and smart, but it is useful only if iceshaft is looking for a software engineer. He probably isn't...
He is probably looking for a good-looking girl first and furthermost.
I think such a message can scare good-looking girls with different educations/interests.

[CanadaMan]

CanadaMan, your message is short and smart, but it is useful only if iceshaft is looking for a software engineer. He probably isn't...
He is probably looking for a good-looking girl first and furthermost.
I think such a message can scare good-looking girls with different educations/interests.

Of course. It was very much a tongue-in-cheek post. 

[BillyB]

Where's the 'troll ignore' button?

If Iceman isn't real, the way I see it, somebody else reading can use the advice.

Hey :-)
 Do FSUW look poorly upon people who play videogames? For example, I once read a book that once said while dating on match.com, or okcupid, one should not mention anything about videogames at anypoint.

 I am actively making home-made video games right now for android and PC. I used to mention it because I thought it would give off a signal that I am a smart person and can support a family.

You are smart. You can support a family. Are you mature? Women want to bed men, not boys.

I own guns. I enjoy shooting. If I've met someone, when should I tell them?

Can you live without your guns? If not, tell the ladies before going out on a $5000 international first date. Last thing you want to do is waste over a year and thousands of dollars getting hooked up with a woman that hates guns and is on the opposite side of the political fence.


When communicating with ladies and exchanging photos with them, I sent them one photo of me holding my hunting rifle in the woods. That should tell them I own a gun without me having to say any words.