help me understand this girl

[AC]

I wouldn't toss her out or move on yet. if you are interested in her. I would however approach her (confidently and with purpose I might add) and ask her "what's her story?".  Explain to her that you got the vibe then, you didn't get the vibe and now you want the vibe back. Open a rapport, if she's not already involved let her know that you and her are going out. You have a wonderful dinner planned and an evening she'll remember. It's your shyness and failure to launch that has her soured on you. Fix it. She's already let you know she's interested. Don't wait on her to hold her breath and turn blue

I think the time has passed for this.  He seems a bit shy to pull this one off.  Needs to get back in the saddle though.

[Faux Pas]

I think the time has passed for this.  He seems a bit shy to pull this one off.  Needs to get back in the saddle though.

There's no expiration date on women. Something about him peaked her interest once and can again if he has the cajones. As Billyb would put it, "be the man". There's nothing wrong re-approaching her, apologizing for being a buffoon and taking control of the possible relationship. Rather than just hoping something happens, make it happen. I've done it numerous times in years past, for different reasons. My success rate was fairly high

[AC]

There's no expiration date on women. Something about him peaked her interest once and can again if he has the cajones. As Billyb would put it, "be the man". There's nothing wrong re-approaching her, apologizing for being a buffoon and taking control of the possible relationship. Rather than just hoping something happens, make it happen. I've done it numerous times in years past, for different reasons. My success rate was fairly high

It certainly might be good practice for him to try.  If it is local to where he lives, why not?  I get the feeling he's too sensitive though if she turns him down again. 

[jone]

FP,

Its part of him that's turning blue.

[RoboCop]

You don't sound too confident, reading in-between the lines, you come off as way too shy. Every guy has been through dating mishaps though.

Anything can happen of course, but when a girl rejects you like that, it's usually hard to pique her interest again.

Don't think it's a cultural thing either, she showed interest and then rejected you in the same way many American girls would.

Take solace in the fact there are qualities about you which attracted her initiallly.

[lordtiberius]

What you can learn from it is that you are not in any way prepared to date women. Work on that first, then see if you have really already turned off all the 20 million or so eligible women in your country.

So date men . . . smh

Did you watch that video I posted?  If not, you are on your own kid.  FP already said what needed to be said.

[thebigif]

yup, strong interest, now strong aversion. i can't help but think that one of two is manufactured.

[JohnDearGreen]

yup, strong interest, now strong aversion. i can't help but think that one of two is manufactured.

well BigIf, If you and her were stranded on a desert island, you both would probably find some strong interests in each other.



But one of the perks of her jobs is that she meets a lot of men.  So it took about a week for her to find someone who was a little more interesting to her.   But if something(s) about her appeal to you, maybe you could wait for her new flame to cool off.   Then you might get another week of her attention.

[Lily]

She works behind a bar, earning tips. Her job is to keep you interested.

This may be the true behind her 'signs of interest".

I am amazed at how often men take it for our signs of attention where there was actually zero signs of anything romantic. A woman could have juct been in a great mood, and smiled at everyone. Or she practiced good sales skills.

Anyway, we only can make bare guesses. We never know unless you actually ask that girl straight.

[Chicagoguy]

Don't know exactly where you were but many times bar maids attract a lot of attention and flirting. Who knows their real thoughts. Probably tips ?

[AC]

Don't know exactly where you were but many times bar maids attract a lot of attention and flirting. Who knows their real thoughts. Probably tips ?

And maybe she thinks he is cheap because he doesn't tip well.  As Lily said there is simply not enough information here to do anything else but guess.

[Brasscasing]

Brass

[AC]

Boom!  Good one Brass.

 

[RoboCop]

This may be the true behind her 'signs of interest".

I am amazed at how often men take it for our signs of attention where there was actually zero signs of anything romantic. A woman could have juct been in a great mood, and smiled at everyone. Or she practiced good sales skills.

Anyway, we only can make bare guesses. We never know unless you actually ask that girl straight.

Very good point. He could have simply just over-analysed and mis-read the whole thing. No guys likes to believe they've read the signals wrong. Good insight into the female mind, and as per usual it came from a girl. Maybe us men should just give up analysing women.

[jone]

This may be the true behind her 'signs of interest".

I am amazed at how often men take it for our signs of attention where there was actually zero signs of anything romantic. A woman could have juct been in a great mood, and smiled at everyone. Or she practiced good sales skills.

Anyway, we only can make bare guesses. We never know unless you actually ask that girl straight.

I guess what a woman looks like bare all the time.

[ML]

I guess what a woman looks like bare all the time.

Shame be upon you.

[Shadow]

I guess what a woman looks like bare all the time.

Go ahead, guess.

[AC]

Go ahead, guess.

And those are the traditional women that some guys are dreaming about!

 

[Anotherkiwi]

And those are the traditional women that some guys are dreaming about!

 

They must be - they're on the internet...looking for Mr Right!

[Gator]

Go ahead, guess.

I used this photo about 8 years ago as a joke, describing it as a meeting of the Antidate leadership.  Boy, did they howl.  Dan took the photo down and redacted my post.

[calmissile]

Good one Gator.     

[BillyB]

please let me know your opinion. thanks.

She liked you enough physically to want to know you. After you giving out bad vibes most likely from lacking confidence, she was turned off. Most woman would be.  It's okay if the ladies are in awe of you but never be in awe of the ladies. Live and learn.

[southernX]

Brass

 
   yeh ill pay that one too ,

SX

[Shadow]

I used this photo about 8 years ago as a joke, describing it as a meeting of the Antidate leadership.  Boy, did they howl.  Dan took the photo down and redacted my post.

And rightfully so. I met the Antidate leadership and they do not look nearly as good.

[Faux Pas]

And rightfully so. I met the Antidate leadership and they do not look nearly as good.

 

Most of those from the ADate invasion days have dissipated except maybe pitbull. Who were some of the others?