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When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« on: January 02, 2015, 06:50:41 PM »
Hey everyone!

I am just curious-- when your wife finally arrived and (I assume!) you picked her up at the airport, what was the first thing you did together as a couple?

How was your first week together? What did you do?

(Note: Please exclude "sleeping")

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2015, 08:55:40 PM »
I am sure everyone's agenda is different.  In our case it was move wife and daughter into the house.  This was more involved that I had predicted.  Here are some events that happened for us....
1.  Wife had to thoroughly clean the entire house even though it had been done by professional house-cleaners.
2.  Move many of my clothes into boxes to make room in drawers for her clothes.  Same for daughter.
3.  Find solution for storing about 100 pairs of women's and children's shoes.
4.  Enroll wife in ESL classes.
5.  Enroll daughter in kindergarten.
6.  Research requirements for wife to obtain drivers license.  Get copy of license manual from DMV.
7.  Wife thoroughly explores kitchen including every gadget I had purchased over last 20 years.
8.  Get new smart phone for wife and configure for Russian language.
9.  Set up Wi-Fi so wife and daughter can chat on Skype with family in Ukraine.
10.  Throw our my worn clothes and underwear and purchase new.
11. Together we located local Russian speaking families and befriended them.  They now shop together.  Was a good idea.
12.  Answered a thousand questions about the house and the appliances, etc.

Probably a boring list, but seems to be what you asked for.  Surprising to me, my wife wanted to stay home and had no immediate desire to go out and explore the area.  Food stores and playgrounds were her primary interest for the first week or so.


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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2015, 09:50:24 PM »
Think I took the day off work and showed her the area an we went to the beach. Then I put her to work painting the house I had not been able to finish in time  >:D

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2015, 10:41:05 PM »
Forgot to mention giving my wife her housewarming gift when she arrived.  A new vacuum cleaner.    :)

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2015, 10:58:21 PM »
I married Betsy in Bila Tserkva, Ukraine.  She came to America on a fiance visa.  The first thing we did when she arrived on her fiance visa is - we fought.

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2015, 11:23:19 PM »
I married Betsy in Bila Tserkva, Ukraine.  She came to America on a fiance visa.  The first thing we did when she arrived on her fiance visa is - we fought.

Not good.  What did you fight about?

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2015, 11:57:51 PM »
Take your pick!

It doesn't matter.  She was right about 90% of the time.  And when she was wrong nothing but thebfacts realized unassisted by me solved anything.  If you love her, you hang in there.  If not, you get out.  Either way, when it comes to a woman, she better be worth it because when you give it to her, she has everything and I mean everything.

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #7 on: January 03, 2015, 05:23:25 AM »
Take your pick!

It doesn't matter.  She was right about 90% of the time. 
Considering your postings here, that is not surprising.
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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #8 on: January 03, 2015, 05:24:52 AM »
Took some days off to show her around the country, and help her settle by letting het get the things she needed.
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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #9 on: January 03, 2015, 05:29:58 AM »
You forgot the most important thing Shadow; to de-putinize her when she first arrived in your country.  ;)

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #10 on: January 03, 2015, 06:28:03 AM »
You forgot the most important thing Shadow; to de-putinize her when she first arrived in your country.  ;)
Contraryt to some I believe everyone has the right to their own opinions and values.
You do not hear me about your love of sheep... :P
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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #11 on: January 03, 2015, 07:20:00 AM »
Showed her around our house. She had almost no English then but was surprised. Nothing really special to an American but it was on 4 levels with basement and she at times was actually getting lost. Correctly thought it was more than 2 people needed.

We now have a condo.

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #12 on: January 03, 2015, 04:15:28 PM »
Met her in Miami and had a three day holiday in Key West for her and her daughter and son to unwind.

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #13 on: January 03, 2015, 04:48:22 PM »
Considering your postings here, that is not surprising.

Lol!

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #14 on: January 03, 2015, 05:45:09 PM »
I showed her how the appliances worked and then we drove around town and saw the sights. We went to the supermarket, shopping mall and anything we thought she should be familiar with.
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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #15 on: January 03, 2015, 05:57:50 PM »
Spent a relaxing weekend in Seattle.  Then drove south and answered "yes" every time she pointed to a small city, "village", and asked if that is where we lived. :D

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #16 on: January 03, 2015, 09:23:05 PM »
I had booked a hotel room for two nights in the airport city.

It was fairly late when she arrived; 9 PM or so as I recall and she had been up for over 24 hours.

So I asked her if  she wanted to pick up something quick to eat and get to bed (for sleeping) or go out to the nice nearby restaurant.

She said:  I want to have sex first, then go to the restaurant.

I argued, but she won.

Next day, went to 2 interesting sites in the big city.

Third day, drove on to my town.

Don't remember doing anything special at the house, but suppose she toured through, etc.

Her adjustment (4 years ago) to USA was quick and fairly painless (for both of us).
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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #17 on: January 03, 2015, 09:49:58 PM »
Don't recall, I guess we were in love back then... :couple:

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #18 on: January 03, 2015, 11:31:11 PM »
Don't recall, I guess we were in love back then... :couple:

What do you mean 'back then'?
Hopefully you are still in love.    :D

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #19 on: January 04, 2015, 01:46:28 AM »
What do you mean 'back then'?
Hopefully you are still in love.    :D

One would hope so, considering the number of little I/Os that have popped out!

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When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #21 on: January 05, 2015, 09:17:57 PM »
My wife (Angel Eyes or AE) first arrived for a visit last May. I spent many hours
cleaning the car, and the house. I took apart light fixtures cleaned and reassembled
them, cleaned under the stove and refrigerator and made the house as clean as it's
ever been. I bought new sheets, pillow cases and some pink bath towels, hand towels
and wash cloths. I washed them all and put them in their respective places. 

Angel Eyes arrives at the airport and the plane was actually early so therefore I
was late. My son had procured a half dozen roses and we gave one of them to a
little old lady who has sort of adopted us. (you always give an odd number of
flowers) She brings us cookies, and various treats from time to time. Needless
to say she was ecstatic to get a solitary red rose (her name is Rose by the way).

So I arrive to see Angel Eyes standing there waiting for her bag to unload, present
the flowers and receive a hundred kisses and hugs. Angel Eyes meets my son, and
then she turns to me and jabbers at 100 mph in Russian. My max is about 25 mph.
So I turn and jabber at 180 mph in English (her max is about 35 mph) and she
laughs and we synchronize speeds.

The airport is well out of town and there isn't a tree to be seen, so naturally I tell
her that this is the Dickinson city center, and we see a shrub as we get closer to
town so I tell her that is the city tree, it's very famous and we should stop and
take a photo.

She laughs and we continue toward town.

We unload her bags, I make her some of her special tea. Which is camomile
tea with Russian honey, lemon and peeled sliced ginger. I prepared a feast
but she isn't hungry and explains that Delta was on a mission to make her
fat.

Angel Eyes become drowsy, and is shortly off to dreamland.

Angel Eyes is sleeping like an Angel when I get up at 5:30 am and drop my son
off at his work and then I go to my computer and tear into my work hoping to get
most of it done before AE wakes up.

Angel Eyes sleeps approximately 12 hours and comes to me sleepy eyed and smiling
(I am crazy about this girl) and we go in and put together some breakfast and then
properly caught up with sleep and nutrition AE starts reorganizing my world.

A little background,

A few years ago the economy in California tanked, my 94 year old Grandfather
who that year went elk hunting deep into the woods, shot an elk and packed it
out with horses had always been in peak physical condition suffers a heart
condition at 96 and is now bedridden.

He could get up and walk around but he needs his house remodeled and I drop
everything and move to Oregon to do the work for him and he dies a few months
later.

The economy sucks so I buy a camping trailer and drag it over the Rocky Mountains
to North Defreezing DaKota and I am living in a field in a camping trailer for the
next 18 months. The great advantage is that I am allowed virtually all the time off
that I need to visit Russia.

I make friends and many contacts and find a friend who is moving back to Oregon
and I jump on the house he is living in. I buy all his furnishings and take over his
lease. The land lady (Rose) loves me.

I never moved a thing. Everything seemed fine to me. I never dug into the lower
cabinets to see what was in there. I never dug around in the garage to see what
was in there. I bought all the crap my friend had left behind.

I never put anything in a cabinet below my knees because if I did I would have to
bend down and get it out of there. Nothing down in those cabinets was bothering
anybody so kind of like snakes, since they leave me alone, I left them alone.

I had visited Angel Eyes 4 times in her city over the past year.

AE wakes up fully revived with sleep and breakfast and EVERYTHING is going to
change   

Stuff I've never seen before is drug out, cleaned, disassembled, reassembled,
organized and rearranged. I started to protest but could see in an instant that
any protests were fruitless. My phone started ringing in earnest and lots of
work was still to be done, so I retreated back to my work area semi oblivious
to the frantic activity around me.

I was summoned to go out to the detached garage to help lift some old furniture
and drag it back to the house. I have given up asking questions as to what was
going on since things seemed to be shaping up nicely enough.

AE had totally reorganized a hundred things in a much better, more convenient, 
more practical and functional order and she seemed very pleased with the ongoing
result. She was happy, so I am happy.

It's time to pick up my son from work and I collect him and return to find that AE
had put together a tasty feast while I was away. We all ate and my son who
ordinarily treats housework like puss from plague victims pitches in to help with
the dishes.

Life is good.  :D
« Last Edit: January 05, 2015, 09:27:12 PM by 2tallbill »
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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #22 on: January 05, 2015, 09:56:18 PM »
How old is your son?  Is he of similar age as her daughter?  Just curious.   8)

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #23 on: January 06, 2015, 04:53:33 AM »
Forgot to mention giving my wife her housewarming gift when she arrived.  A new vacuum cleaner.    :)

I wasn't that brave. Had been married before and seen the poor acceptance of this gift. Only time I ever saw this woman complain. Showed my new wife her own walk in closet ,her own bathroom and her own dressing table. Her own private spaces in my house that I was giving up to her. She needed to feel comfortable and that she belonged. My wife who had passed away - all her things had been removed to other family members.

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Re: When your wife arrived, what was the first thing you did?
« Reply #24 on: January 06, 2015, 09:30:19 AM »
How old is your son?  Is he of similar age as her daughter?  Just curious.   8)

Not even close, him 24 her 13
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