Help: I am getting too much attention from women

[adventureh]

Hi Forum,
For "the heck of it" I decided to register at elenasmodel and fdating one week ago. It has been a crazy experience.
In my own country (Denmark) I have quite some online dating experience and would describe it as difficult in the sense that is is difficult to get the attention of girls, it is difficult to get a meaningful, long conversation (without her just replying very shortly) ... and basically it is a struggle to establish contact at all. Here I am talking about girls who a living 5 miles away.

On the beforementioned 2 websites, everything is opposite: There are so many cute girls interested in me - there are even girls writing me first. The problem is, that I have started conversations with 20 or so girls already and I almost cannot keep track anymore. It looks like a luxury problem. They write long letters and have truly looked at my profile text very deeply, since they discuss my contents - so they are not scams. I find them all lovely and reply with long letters too. The last week I have spent too many hours on these site, looking and writing letters - I guess I am hooked on the attention I get. Now I fell like an ass because I have to weed out in the girls only trying to write with the true hotties - this is actually not my style as the other not-so-perfect-looks girls are also attractive. There is just too much information flowing in my head and all the letters from the girls that I am afraid that I will repeat myself, make mistakes etc :-). I know it sounds crazy. Does anyone have suggestions on how to move on solving this problem? :-)
Adventureh

[Gator]

First, stop looking for any more women.   

20 is not too many as a starting point.  Ask some serious questions about life (such as goals, values).  Soon you will be able to reduce the number.  Get their phone numbers and start talking with them by Skype.  It will not be long before it becomes clear that only a few of the women are interesting, fun, and make you feel at ease.  Conversation is very important (coming from someone who married a RW with weak English skills).

 

[Steamer]

Hello Adventureh,
Try to know exactly what kind of woman you are looking for. Looks, personality, hobbies, likes and dislikes, everything. Don't get stuck on looks alone. Once you have that image go for that and do not deviate. If you just go on looks alone you'll be looking forever because they're all beautiful.


That  should help narrow it down a bit.

[jone]

Hello Adventureh,
Try to know exactly what kind of woman you are looking for. Looks, personality, hobbies, likes and dislikes, everything. Don't get stuck on looks alone. Once you have that image go for that and do not deviate. If you just go on looks alone you'll be looking forever because they're all beautiful.


That  should help narrow it down a bit.

Steamer is absolutely right.  Imagine being with someone for the rest of your life.  Make the entry level your standards for attraction.  But instead of being immersed in that, make it a barrier to entry.  Then get down to the real business of sorting through:   Any obvious faults:  Alcoholism, smoking, too old, too young.

Finally, I would give each woman the final test before deciding to meet:  Is she kind and is she wise?  Looks fade.  We age and adjust.  A kind and wise woman is someone you can love for a lifetime.  Good luck.

[bagalia]

Yes Adventureh. The answer is staring you in the face. Buy a ticket and go see them.

It is nice that you are getting such attention though I wonder what you are paying for this. You can write ten more deep letters and go or you can go and discuss the same amount in an hour or so. You can become attached before you ever meet or you can meet and perhaps become attached. 20 women is enough for about 5 days of interviews though 25% could drop out at the last minute and then you have a few days of time to spend with the one or three best choices. Your chances are good at finding one out of twenty.

[BillyB]

They write long letters and have truly looked at my profile text very deeply, since they discuss my contents - so they are not scams.

There can be a scam at any site. How do you know it wasn't Vlad, the employee of the month that read your profile deeply, that you're trading love letters with? Elenasmodels is a reputable site but there have been some men that came here with complaints. FDating is probably not as reputable as Elena's

I guess I am hooked on the attention I get.

That's the company's goal or you got some girls really interested in you.

Now I fell like an ass because I have to weed out in the girls only trying to write with the true hotties - this is actually not my style as the other not-so-perfect-looks girls are also attractive.

Why feel like an ass? Having choices in life is better than having no choices. By writing many women, you have given yourself choices.

The problem is, that I have started conversations with 20 or so girls already and I almost cannot keep track anymore.

I've wrote thousands before finding my wonderful wife. The girls, assuming Vlad isn't writing you, are going to quickly weed you out and you should weed the girls that are not compatible out. When you get to a point you enjoy what a girl has to say through mail/messages, progress to phone and Skype. You think those long letters are an indication they really like you? You'll find out how much they like you when you ask to call them on a regular basis. Figure out if you can have nice conversation with them before deciding to visit. If you can't have a nice conversation with them on the phone/Skype, you certainly won't have a nice conversation when you're face to face.

[AC]

  to the forum, and good luck.  Do whatever those guys above say, they are the experienced ones.