Influence Your Luck

[PeeWee]

KenC,
Yes, you are right. Good points.

Hindsight is 20/20, which means that looking back, it is now easier to see a better course of action. There is still the possibility of going over there to her city and seeing where it leads. We'll probably make a decision in about a month.  I think I can sum it up by saying that I chose the 'right' woman, but did not look close enough at her connection with her home and her parents. Yes, visiting her in her city would have given me some insights, no doubt about it. Part of the problem is that Larisa and her parents were all surprised by their own need for each other, surprised they missed each other so much. Also, there is the psychology of her parents- they had lost a young daughter, before Larisa was born. I can't imagine the degree of guilt or possessiveness that might involve... 

I still wonder why what with all of the effort and expense that you now have invested into your relationship that you would take the trip to her home. It may not take more that a meeting with the parents. They become comfortable with you, you gain their trust, and they now feel more secure in allowing their pride and joy to wander from the nest.

Peewee

[Jumper]

KenC said:

I have to say that I admire your ability to look at the bright side of your adventure. With all my criticisms of your actions (and we all know there has been many) I'm going to offer some more advice to you. If you still truly believe that Larisa is the woman for you, then damn it, go for it. Don't wait for her to decide whether or not you should visit, call her and tell her you are coming. Get your butt over there and do whatever it takes to win her over. And win her parents over. It's not too late to get this right. I just know that finding the right woman is like finding a needle in a haystack. And when you do find the right one for you, you must do everything in your power to "make it happen." Maybe, just maybe you will succeed this time. Maybe it will take even another trip, So what? It is never too late to get it right. Good luck to you.

Actually that is what i've been thinking all along..and wish you luck Doug.
whatever you decide.
KenC