So what has to happen for one to leave the board?

[Maxx2]

We all have seen people come and go. So what do you think needs to happen for someone to walk away from a board they frequently use? Also I would be interested in know why Donna left. I heard she was tired of dealing with the idiots. I hope I wasn't on that list.

Maxx

[PeeWee]

We all have seen people come and go. So what do you think needs to happen for someone to walk away from a board they frequently use? Also I would be interested in know why Donna left. I heard she was tired of dealing with the idiots. I hope I wasn't on that list.

Maxx

I think that you answered your own question, Mad Maxx. I belonged to a forum 5 years ago when I first started my hunt for the wily RW. I spent a few months participating and then, like Donna, left because I was tired of dealing with the idiots. It is that simple. The other reason might be that those that leave may have gleened all they felt the could from the postings, or they got married to a RW left because they had what they wanted.

Peewee

[Leslie]

I reckon most people leave because they lose interest and get sick of posting the same (obvious) advice time after time. 

Donna certainly tired of the constant arguements she provoked.  The dorks would not leave her alone.  She posted something and the dorks would generate 20 30 pages of mostly personal insult.  Donna is one strong RW.  She generally picked up the rocks and hurled them back.  If you stick around you will find out that there is a never ending supply of dorks.  Soon you just can't be bothered.  You have discussed the same issues time after time.  So you stop.   

LP tired of dealing with the "MOB Losers" on the boards.  He excuse for not posting anymore is that ALL the people who post on the boards are dorks.  Not true.  Maybe 80% but not 100% 

Basically you either get yourself banished (difficult on RWD because Dan maintains a light moderation policy) or you decide not to post anymore. 


 

[GreginGa]

I've always enjoyed trying to help someone that is going down this road. Whether it's by giving them info on a calling card,helping rent a cheap flat in kharkov or Kiev,finding a great cheap place to eat in Kiev or whatever....I've met probably a dozen people over the years from RW forums. Some I consider friends and some I was ready to get the hell away from as fast as I could.

I dont feel obligated to try and help people,but people helped me.....I've exposed scammers for some guys and set some guys up on dates with girls I knew in Ukraine. I think some guys get made a fool of and you never see them again. I guess I'll always try to help people. I enjoy it. Telling a grown man to wake the hell up aint easy at times. Some take it personal. Some say "man you were right on with that girl"   I really admire Maxx on this board. If he hasnt helped people realize this aint as easy as it looks then no one can.. I've been married to a beautiful,talented,very intelligent and sweetheart of a Ukrainian girls for almost 3 years. I consider myself very lucky and blessed. I married way way out of my league.LOL I out punted my coverage so to speak.

[Admin]

We all have seen people come and go. So what do you think needs to happen for someone to walk away from a board they frequently use? Also I would be interested in know why Donna left. I heard she was tired of dealing with the idiots. I hope I wasn't on that list.

Maxx

Maxx,

There are some people who have passions which are outside the theme and objectives of a board like RWD. And a few of those have great difficulty containing those passions within reasonable bounds. Witness the number of people here who want to debate politics which have nothing to do with the theme of RWD. Those with the passions like to call everyone else "idiots" - when, in fact, it seems rather idiotic (to me, at least) when someone comes to RWD and intentionally brings in a topic such as the current Bush administration's role and responsibilities in Iraq - which, of course, has absolutely nothing to do with the theme of the board. [Note: I am only using this as ONE example - there are many examples of this sort of behavior]

From a simple perspective of logic - it seems completely non-sequitor for a person to bring a non-RW agenda here to debate. Yet, many do just that - AND - they have the arrogance and audacity to accuse others of being 'idiots'.

Anyway - Leslie is correct that I am none too keen on banning people - though I have been forced into banning a few. Donna opted-out as a result of my private comments to her that her political commentary had, IMO, crossed the line. She has, I've noticed, been back for a visit or two (or more), but has not posted since that time.

- Dan

[Michelangelo]

Perhaps some of us "get our girl" and then vanish because we don't DARE let her see our posts here about our prior exploits into the FSU dating scene, nor what we wrote about HER 

Hmmm...or maybe I will be reincarnated as "Shakespeare?"  :-)

If he shows up next year, you will know the truth about him... 

[catzenmouse]

Michelangelo you might just be in trouble already as she can find this place now if she wants to...

 I've always been of the opinion that if you cannot say something to someone directly then you should not say it behind their back. I know that I have had to explain what I was saying at times when Elena reads here but I told her in the beginning that she could read/ask about anything I've posted here. Mostly she's not that interested in RWD but occasionally she will have a few comments that I am happy to pass along here.

 Re: Topic, I feel that I owe a part of my success (so far) to others that have helped me in the past (on this and other boards) and if I can give back a little bit then I consider that to be a valuable use of time and effort. I've also met some very good people here, some are friends (and I am not one who takes that word to mean acquaintance) and some could become friends in the future and some I know that if I ever met them in person I would say "Hi, I'm Bob nice to meet you" then leave as fast as my little horse could carry me... .

 Overall, we are a community of like minded individuals in one area that impacts a very large part of our lives and in that area we have a bond and the ability to share, help, rant, beat, and get to know each other. Sometimes it is painful but for the majority of my time here I do enjoy the company and discourse.

Ken

[Michelangelo]

Michelangelo you might just be in trouble already as she can find this place now if she wants to...
Ken

I was joking, Ken.  What I wrote about my fiancee is positive and good and would not get me in trouble.  But I've already learned NOT to talk to FSU girls about old flames!!!

So it's best she not "find" this place :-)

[catzenmouse]

I was joking, Ken.  What I wrote about my fiancee is positive and good and would not get me in trouble.  But I've already learned NOT to talk to FSU girls about old flames!!!

So it's best she not "find" this place :-)

 I will accept $1000 in small unmarked bills no smaller than $20s and no larger than $100s as a donation to keep this information secret...

 100% in agreement about old flames! Surest way to a verbal beating that would make any clue bat experience here look like a pillow fight!

Ken

[Michelangelo]

Just a grand, Ken?  What a bargain :-)

Much less expensive than dating an FSU girl :-) 

I'll overnight your money; addressed to "Bob." 

[catzenmouse]

Just a grand, Ken?  What a bargain :-)

Much less expensive than dating an FSU girl :-) 

I'll overnight your money; addressed to "Bob." 

Thanks Dude!

 I may be cheap but I sure ain't easy...

[wiz]

I reckon most people leave because they lose interest and get sick of posting the same (obvious) advice time after time. 

Hi Lesley and others

I have not disappeared but I have been away holidaying in Greece with a Russian woman for 10 days. I had a very good time.........and she went happy back home and have not stopped e-mailing me or talking on the phone. More later.

Now busy sorting out my business etc at home.

Next Friday I am off to Kiev, so expect a report later after my return.: ))

Regards to all
Wiz

[calcowboy1]

Most people who become married no longer have the time to spend on the boards. 

[bobs12]

I run a forum of my own, people just drift in and out. I think it's typical for special interest forums - as said above, you join to get the info you need, then there's no reason to keep coming back. Some people get addicted to forums and stay forever, or stay because they've made acquaintances, or because they like to cause arguments

[Voyageur]

Honestly, I enjoy to read this forum. But I am so busy with my married life that I really have no time to post. Recently, we were on vacation and I was also working from a remote site with no internet access for a few weeks and had no time or oportunity for even reading this forum. But I enjoy reading about common situations that arise and try to help someone when I can. Sometimes but it is difficult to have meaningful posts without getting into to many details about a private relationship, I have also found.

[Stirlitz]

It depends.

I left this board in February 2005 because of the reasons given here. But things change. RWGuide.Com which I used to like more has experienced great changes and at the moment I am missing the old board. Perhaps RWD can substitute it for the time being. So I am coming back although probably I am not going to be too active.

[Turboguy]

I for one am glad to see you back.  I hope the time being lasts a long time.  I thought you were a wealth of knowlege when you were here before.  Sometimes you need to have a bit of a thick skin to hang around RWD but the benefits are worth it.

[Stirlitz]

Thanks. I learned that. And, this web site has this wonderful ignore button — something I am missing at RWGuide.com now.

[Captmonk1]

I'm just looking forward to updates of you and your wife...mainly pictures though... 

Glad to see you here Stirlitz. I always enjoy your posts!

Brad

[Michelangelo]

Thanks. I learned that. And, this web site has this wonderful ignore button — something I am missing at RWGuide.com now.

Thanks for your help when I was in Ukraine last year, Stirltiz.  I'm glad you are back. But hey, wha'ts with the gun? You are  scaring me!    cheers, buddy.

[Rvrwind]

Indeed, Welcome Stirlitz. I know we have butted heads a couple of times, but overall I think we have agreed on many subjects. I have always respected your opinion as a Russian Man with a head on his shoulders that isn't filled with Vodka!!! LOL.
I look forward to your input as usual, but gotta agree, that gun is intimidating, LOL.

[Bruno]

I look forward to your input as usual, but gotta agree, that gun is intimidating, LOL.

Richard, these gun is needed... Igor need to protect himself against the new type of bodygard from mafia.

 

[PeeWee]

I know nothing about guns. What is it?

Peewee

[Stirlitz]

Don’t worry about the gun. Look below the photo: I remind that I am a nice guy. The gun is for Jerks who would try to bother me, but they have to remember that I can shoot back. And, since I am an Archer by zodiac, I shoot well.

I'm just looking forward to updates of you and your wife...mainly pictures though... 

We are getting along well although sometimes spark. Being married is not a cup of tea. Sex is also a problem. When I just got married, my friend asked me, "So, do you have trouble f… legally?" (By legally he meant that as spouses it was legal for us to have sex). There is something to it. For me it is the race is over, I can relax… and do nothing! I did it. Wrong attitude but not easy to rid of. When I had girlfriends we had sex like rabbits — because they were girlfriends, I had to make the most of it. Now that I am a husband, I know that she is mine and will always be there, so I am lazy — I can take my time. Don’t laugh please. This is all subconscious. It was quite a surprise for myself to realize that what my friend had told me of was not a joke.

As for photos, not many new. Also my fault. That is all I have:

http://photofile.ru/users/stirlitz/1346509/

[Manny]

Hey Igor,

Dont relax too much mate lest she be bored and before you know it she will be on a plane to the states clutching a K1 application form.

And your pic with the gun, although a bit James Bond is better than the one you have on the other forum you just shamelessly plugged.