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[bilko]

Hello Everybody

I am new to this site I have been corresponding with a beautiful Russian woman for over 17 months we have met in various countries and this year we are planning to get married, I love her and she loves me, but you read so many horror  stories, I would welcome some feed back.

Regards

Bilko

[2tallbill]

Welcome to the forum bilko,

You sound as if you've done your due diligence, but asking the peanut gallery here
is going to cause you some grief. They will ask you why are you considering marriage
with a girl you have questions about. Some of them will probably be rude about it.

NOTE: The peanut gallery is anyone who posts in a thread where they pile on the
OP AND disagrees with me, people who agree with me are bright and knowing people.

There is no such thing as a sure thing in love, however if you don't have absolute
confidence in this girl then don't get married.


Are there red flags? such as

Things that distress you that you've ignored?
Did you catch her in a lie(s)?
Does she treat some people badly?
Do you trust her?
Does she lie to others? about others?
Do you make excuses for her behavior?

If you are just getting cold feet, that is a little bit natural. Get on a plane, go see her
and get any of your worries resolved. FSUW are usually blunt and to the point so get
blunt and to the point, don't beat around the bush get to the bottom of this.

I said that there are no guarantees, however I felt 100% confident that marrying
my wife was a fantastic idea. I thought it was the best thing that happened to me
in a long, long time if not ever. I did it without reservations or worries. Horror stories
about other girls did not even slightly make me worry about my now wife.

Welcome to the forum, don't take any of the posts here personally. Nobody knows you,
your girl or your situation. Some advice will be good, some will be not so good. Sift
through the posts here and take the good advice and ignore the rest.

Udachi!


Bill

[BillyB]

I am new to this site I have been corresponding with a beautiful Russian woman for over 17 months we have met in various countries and this year we are planning to get married, I love her and she loves me, but you read so many horror  stories, I would welcome some feed back.

Welcome to the forum Bilko. I don't know what kind of feedback you're looking for. Either there is red flags or isn't in your relationship and you believe you two are in love. You mention you met in various countries. Here suggestion or yours? Did you meet her family and friends yet?

[TagUrIt898]

Hello Everybody

I am new to this site I have been corresponding with a beautiful Russian woman for over 17 months we have met in various countries and this year we are planning to get married, I love her and she loves me, but you read so many horror  stories, I would welcome some feed back.

Regards

Bilko

First welcome to the forum. Be careful what you ask for 😜 in regards to getting feed back.  With that being said, other than being together for 17 months and visiting each other in various countries, we really don't know your "story". How'd you meet? Age difference? Are you officially engaged? Etc?  Most of the people here are very supportive and understanding, but also a little judgmental.


Bill and Billy both brought excellent points. Either way welcome and I wish you both the best.

Tag

[mendeleyev]

It sounds like you've had a great honeymoon experience traveling in various countries. Unfortunately it doesn't sound as you know who she is, the woman in her natural home country environment. Honeymoons can be quite different from legitimate courtship, so my advice is for you both to spend some time together in HER home environment.

If she balks, that would not only be a red flag, but a big red wall about the size of the Great Wall of China. Walk away if that one isn't greeted enthusiastically.

[Miquel Westano]

Hello Everybody

I am new to this site I have been corresponding with a beautiful Russian woman for over 17 months we have met in various countries and this year we are planning to get married, I love her and she loves me, but you read so many horror  stories, I would welcome some feed back.

Regards

Bilko

Welcome.  You have truly hit the jackpot of knowledge here.  You are going to get lots of valuable help and advice.  Some will seem mean, some kind and some will seem like it just couldn't apply to you.  That last one can be the killer.  The minute you think, this can't apply to me, you have made a mistake all too common to people looking for advice.  Everyone will give you advice based on experiences that are either first hand or based on facts they know.  And, while they may not apply in your case, they could so at least consider them. 

The trick is to process it all and think about it all before you decide what applies to you.  Not everyone on here agrees or gets along.  But I think there is little doubt the vast majority here are trying to help.  Some of the people you find harsh may lack bedside manner and tact, but they are still taking time out of their life to help.  Don't take any criticism personal and let it cloud your view of their advice.  Process it all and make a practical decision.  Ask questions, give honest answers and accept the fact not everyone will agree, and you won't agree with everyone.  There are not many people on here who pull punches or give free passes.  But there are an amazing amount of folks on here who know what they are talking about.

Again welcome.

[Photo Guy]

Hello Everybody

I am new to this site I have been corresponding with a beautiful Russian woman for over 17 months we have met in various countries and this year we are planning to get married, I love her and she loves me, but you read so many horror  stories, I would welcome some feed back.

Regards

Bilko

Bilko, do you both have similar goals and values? If so, you'll be fine.

[tfcrew]

                                           

         17 months should be long enough...but then 15 years isn't long enough.
                           It continues [I'm saying]

[bizpat72]

Welcome to the forum and I hope you get the type of answers you are looking for. Take the time to process the information you will get.
Good luck!