Expectation and hope

[Slumba]

In the absence of matrimonial disputes (custody, division of property, alimony), in most jurisdictions in North America, a divorce can be obtained after the parties have lived separate and apart for a year.  I think most parties (both men and women) probably haven't worked through the issues that lead to a divorce in less than a year, probably, in less than two or more.

In the USA, it varies by state, and, there are plenty of ways to delay it.

This site has good information:  http://realworlddivorce.com/  and click on each highlighted state.

Examples, based on a few people I know from the forum:

PA: 2 years of separation (starts from date of filing, unless both parties agree on when the separation occurred as a fact) ; typical divorces can take up to 4-5 years (read the info on false domestic violence charges in the link for PA at above site, for which the woman is never charged with perjury)

MI:  there is not a separate legal state of separation, from what I can tell

CA: legal separation, can be converted into a divorce at any time

[Boethius]

Your link is all about property/alimony/custody disputes.  So, within the first few sentences of my qualifier.


Were I looking for a spouse, I would not consider a man in the throes of a custody dispute.  It usually will have an impact on me, because there will be a bitter ex in the background that is going to impact my life.

[Olena55]

I have no purpose of the USA. And the love isn't measured by the size of a purse or standard of living. I want the only man whom I will love also merits and demerits. Also there is no difference in what country he lives. I feel sorry for girls who choose as reason a purse and the country and every night appear together in a bed with the man, which for them the ATM.

[Boethius]

True enough, Olena.  However, my point is not about money.

[BillyB]

It is interesting to me to learn your opinion and to receive council

You are truly in luck today! Some may say it's not luck but destiny that you have found us. There is no better place on the internet to receive council as the members here are experts at administering council.


I've never Skyped with a woman so don't give up on men who refused to Skype. What I did do is offer to call them often and exchange photos of my life. If a man refuses Skype, he should offer a method you two can further discover each other before a meeting. So, yes! A man can be serious about marriage with a RW even if he doesn't Skype. I married and if it would be legal to marry more than one woman, I'd marry you, Natalia, Svetlana, Nastya, and a few others. There should be no lonely women in this world!


Welcome to the forum Olena. I don't know why you deleted your posts but I can read what you wrote based on other posters quoting you. You have real concerns and your experiences with Western men are valuable for us to hear. They should not be deleted.


Sex is like air and food to men. Without it, we die. It is strange men are asking for guarantees of sex before visiting you or other women. I guess it's because they have to invest thousands of dollars to visit you. We've heard of men expecting guarantees of marriage too. A prostitute at home is cheaper than visiting a RW and even prostitutes in the FSU will guarantee sex but I suspect some of these men do not want to get involved with prostitutes since it disgusts them that they have slept with thousands of men. Do not get involved with men who ask for guarantees. Sex is important to us but we should not insult women by asking for it before meeting.


How is your personality with men you communicate with? Keep in mind, you have lots of competition and if you show genuine interest in a man, he will increase his interest in you. I will gladly call a woman who is happy to hear my voice on the phone over a woman who is more beautiful and not as happy to hear my voice. When you identify a good man, try to keep his interest by being happy and optimistic when you're talking to him on the phone or Skype. Always be a lady and show good manners. You want to attract a good and serious man. Doing this will help you.


As far as smoking goes, I don't smoke unless I'm on fire.

[BillyB]

Sure there are plenty of divorced men. However, how many of them are more or less interesting? I am not even saying 'desirable'. Lots of them would probably be those whom you would not want to give a time of your day.
Therefore, no, the alternatives are by far not numerous. There are not many interesting guys out there who are looking for a new relationships. This is life.

Sadly you're right Lily and it's beneficial to the men who have their act together. They can have their pick of a woman or women. I used to think it was easy for women to get a man. Sure any woman can get a man to sleep with them but securing a quality man is much more difficult. It's really not that difficult for a single man to beat his competition if he keeps his health and hygiene in order, is responsible, improves his character, personality and has good communication skills with women.

[ML]

It's really not that difficult for a single man to beat his competition if he keeps his health and hygiene in order, is responsible, improves his character, personality and has good communication skills with women.

Jeeeeeez Billy, what man would want to do all of that?

Too difficult and too time consuming . . . and soap is not free, you know.