Hi! I am Marta

[Marta7]

Or, she may find you.

I am ukrainen. You need I am. I started working on the farm from the second month of stay in the United States. I washed the tractors, cleaned the garage after the tractors, I spraying  pesticides weeds I was mowing the grass, I cleaned the house, I cut through the woods to the mother of my husband. For 8 months I got an American driving license, I am a student 8 months already. I live in the us only 1 year and 6 months years. And my man was cheating on me with another American. She's writing to me- You have no husband....you have a master....you're like a slave who was bought for sex (and I was told by said husband that he'd prefer to make love to me) we used to make love in the boat even! Was awesome . And+ how you can't move because if you do it sends an electric current through him? Oh wait....I forgot....you're not good enough to make that happen , and + I am the best....at least in bed is what he told me last week , and - Yes ma'am....he has to because you are worthless in bed also just like everything else lol oh....except your craziness. ....you excel there! 91% lol, and- Here's the thing you need to learn about American's. ....we protect those we love....when people like you are a threat to them in anyway, we will ALWAYS protect them!, and- I don't have sex....I make love....there's a difference and it is why you suck at it  ))), and - Of course he did! You're coocoo (crazy), stupid, greedy, and idiotical he says .

[Marta7]

Or, she may find you.

You need I am. I started working on the farm from the second month of stay in the United States. I washed the tractors, cleaned the garage after the tractors, I cpraying pesticides weeds I was mowing the grass, I cleaned the house, I cut through the woods to the mother of my husband. For 8 months I got an American driving license, I am a student 8 months already. I live in the us only 1 year and 6 months years. And my man was cheating on me with another American.

[Marta7]

+1

I do not agree with you . Sorry. Women leave men, even if it is funded, if the husband does not respect wife, cheating, humiliation , beating, even if he has a lot of money, I was with my husband, I was forced to flee because my life was a physical threat. We women want respect, support.

[Marta7]

We women like you men are excited, and want to give love, care, support. And the same thing we want from you men.

[GuppyCaptain]

Easy fellas. Give her a little respect for trying, mmmmmmmkay? I'm fairly certain that she's more coherent in your native language than you are in hers.

[JayH]

 

To the forum!

 

[HoundDaddyLee]

Welcome Marta. Happy to have another women on the forum. We look forward to your insights from the FSU perspective.


HDL

[Faux Pas]

Hi Marta!

Welcome to RWD. We are glad you're here 

[Marta7]

Hi Marta!

Welcome to RWD. We are glad you're here 

Hi everyone.

[aymoon]

welcome Marta ...
your story is very sad and funny for me because i looking for a good wife from Ukraine and Russia for a long time (more than 3 years) although I've all traits which any girl wish for
and I'll care of her
but i couldn't find my girl till now and you said you passed on cruel experiment with one of men who don't care about you for only sex
this mean it's hard for human to get his/her wishes in life
Regards

[Morty]

welcome Marta ...
your story is very sad and funny for me because i looking for a good wife from Ukraine and Russia for a long time (more than 3 years) although I've all traits which any girl wish for
and I'll care of her
but i couldn't find my girl till now and you said you passed on cruel experiment with one of men who don't care about you for only sex
this mean it's hard for human to get his/her wishes in life
Regards

Your fundamental mistake is one too many men make which is thinking Slavic women are some magic bullet for a good wife. The reality is you can find the same core values that make a good Slavic woman special in Italian girls, Swedish, Romanian, Japanese -wherever. And you can find the same bad traits many western women have in Slavic women - some girls in Odessa make Las Vegas showgirls seem like jehovahs witnesses. So limiting your search you won't find what you truly need which is someone you feel comfortable with, have a strong underlying bond of friendship and is your soulmate.

The danger a lot of men face is created by false marketing that has western men put Slavic women on a pedestal, and the simple fact is that they leave themselves o-en to scammers and such because they want to believe the myth and ignore red flags that they put down to 'culture'.

A girl I'm writing to made an important statement - if she ever took money of a man her family would disown her. By the same measure you have women who make a career out of no sex prostitution. The difference isn't one of traditional Ukraine culture, it is just a good moral upbringing that you'd likely find in any woman brought up and probably attending your local church, volunteering in a homeless shelter or looking after abandoned animals.

It's easy to get caught up in the tits and are show portrayed by big agencies and overlook character, if you ask me why I adore my girl so much it's because she is highly altruistic with a strong sense of social responsibility. But these are traits shared by girls I dated in many countries but the slammer is that the harshness of life in the FSU means I've met more hard nosed materialistic women who treat guys like arm cards than any country I ever visited. A measure of this is that I first visited Ukraine in 2000 and it has taken 16 YEARS to find someone with such strong values.

Don't get me wrong, two friends on the plane back in 2000 hit a home run after 6 weeks, 1 woman and first visit - they got really lucky. And that[s what it comes down to, you need to be in the right place at the right time with the right woman.

Most importantly you need to go into every relationship with a positive emotional view, even if the last girl was a pro dater and took you to the cleaners if you don't go all-in to win the new girls heart she's not going to fall for you - nobody wants to be blamed for another persons conduct.

And the best advice i can give is use it only as part of your plan to find the right one, keep all opportunities open and date all women you have an interest in. Most importantly stop focusing on marriage - focus instead on finding love, because if you become fixated on the idea every girl has to be marriage materiak]l likely as not you'll miss your perfect match. Sometimes relationships that start casually without much hope firework into something bigger, focusing on the endgame means you lose sight of the journey there.

[Gator]

Your fundamental mistake is one too many men make which is thinking Slavic women are some magic bullet for a good wife...Most importantly you need to go into every relationship with a positive emotional view, even if the last girl was a pro dater and took you to the cleaners if you don't go all-in to win the new girls heart she's not going to fall for you....

Morty, your philosophy to aymoon about avoiding bad women may be appropriate, yet this is Marta's introduction thread.    Marta seems like the ideal woman, just the opposite of the bad types of FSUW you mentioned.

The irony is that although Marta has the character most men seek, Marta's husband cheated on her.  In your words, he did not go all-in, and he quite possibly has destroyed any love Marta felt for him. 

[Gator]

Hi Marta,

Welcome to RWD!!!!

Do I understand you correctly?  Your words say you came to America full of love, hope, and energy.  You did not feel entitled to an easy life, and instead you did hard work around your home.    We hear many stories from Russian and Ukrainian women, and I have not heard of any of them washing tractors.  Wow!!!!  That shows commitment. 

Also, you became a student.  You received your driver's license.  You and your husband make awesome love on a boat.  Indeed, you are not only adjusting to America, you are building a new life.  You are a serious woman. 

You sound like an ideal wife.   Then you discover your husband is cheating on you.  This must have hurt you immensely.  And the other woman wrote you, criticizing you.  This is bizarre!

Marta, your husband sounds immature.  He does not appreciate the immense step you made in leaving you family, your friends, your language, and your country to move to America and start a new life surrounded by strangers. 

I hope you and your husband can speak to a marriage counselor and somehow reconcile your differences.  If not, I wish you the best. 

I suggest that you do not become involved with another man until the relationship with your husband is over.  You need a clear head to make some important decisions.  Also, you will receive respect by demonstrating you are the mature, intelligent, dignified person.   

Good luck, and  please keep writing us at RWD.  I hope we can help you.   

[Marta7]

Hi Marta,

Welcome to RWD!!!!

Do I understand you correctly?  Your words say you came to America full of love, hope, and energy.  You did not feel entitled to an easy life, and instead you did hard work around your home.    We hear many stories from Russian and Ukrainian women, and I have not heard of any of them washing tractors.  Wow!!!!  That shows commitment. 

Also, you became a student.  You received your driver's license.  You and your husband make awesome love on a boat.  Indeed, you are not only adjusting to America, you are building a new life.  You are a serious woman. 

You sound like an ideal wife.   Then you discover your husband is cheating on you.  This must have hurt you immensely.  And the other woman wrote you, criticizing you.  This is bizarre!

Marta, your husband sounds immature.  He does not appreciate the immense step you made in leaving you family, your friends, your language, and your country to move to America and start a new life surrounded by strangers. 

I hope you and your husband can speak to a marriage counselor and somehow reconcile your differences.  If not, I wish you the best. 

I suggest that you do not become involved with another man until the relationship with your husband is over.  You need a clear head to make some important decisions.  Also, you will receive respect by demonstrating you are the mature, intelligent, dignified person.   

Good luck, and  please keep writing us at RWD.  I hope we can help you.   

I am very grateful to everyone for their support and understanding . We had a family psychologist. But my husband lied , gave false information, and he gives all false information. I really struggled to keep our family together . I forgave, forgave a lot . And then he used.
He threw money on the floor so I raised. He enjoyed when he humiliated my dignity .

[Morty]

Morty, your philosophy to aymoon about avoiding bad women may be appropriate, yet this is Marta's introduction thread.    Marta seems like the ideal woman, just the opposite of the bad types of FSUW you mentioned.

The irony is that although Marta has the character most men seek, Marta's husband cheated on her.  In your words, he did not go all-in, and he quite possibly has destroyed any love Marta felt for him.

Yes, I was responding to another post, apologies for hijacking marta's thread and going off topic.

And Hi Marta!

I have a friend who is the same; she has the sort of character most guys here long for, yet they guy she fell for also cheated on her and now she doesn't trust men at all, making it hard for a good guy to win her heart.

Sadly too many good women get abused by bad guys.

[Gator]

I am very grateful to everyone for their support and understanding . We had a family psychologist. But my husband lied , gave false information, and he gives all false information. I really struggled to keep our family together . I forgave, forgave a lot . And then he used.
He threw money on the floor so I raised. He enjoyed when he humiliated my dignity .

In another thread it has become evident that you are married to Lonedrake.

I have communicated at RWD with Lonedrake for a long time.  I have never met Lonedrake; however, his posts reveal much about the man.   Lonedrake impresses me as a really decent man.  He was very serious about his marriage with you.  We were shocked and sad to learn recently that your marriage now has serious problems. 

Lonedrake has not disclosed much about the problems between the two of you.  Your marriage problems are  private and they should not be discussed here.   

I suggest that the two of you speak to a marriage counselor and listen carefully to what the counselor advises.  RWD is not your counselor and we do not need to know anything. 

Good luck, and I hope you find peace.

[aymoon]

Your fundamental mistake is one too many men make which is thinking Slavic women are some magic bullet for a good wife. The reality is you can find the same core values that make a good Slavic woman special in Italian girls, Swedish, Romanian, Japanese -wherever. And you can find the same bad traits many western women have in Slavic women - some girls in Odessa make Las Vegas showgirls seem like jehovahs witnesses. So limiting your search you won't find what you truly need which is someone you feel comfortable with, have a strong underlying bond of friendship and is your soulmate.

The danger a lot of men face is created by false marketing that has western men put Slavic women on a pedestal, and the simple fact is that they leave themselves o-en to scammers and such because they want to believe the myth and ignore red flags that they put down to 'culture'.

A girl I'm writing to made an important statement - if she ever took money of a man her family would disown her. By the same measure you have women who make a career out of no sex prostitution. The difference isn't one of traditional Ukraine culture, it is just a good moral upbringing that you'd likely find in any woman brought up and probably attending your local church, volunteering in a homeless shelter or looking after abandoned animals.

It's easy to get caught up in the tits and are show portrayed by big agencies and overlook character, if you ask me why I adore my girl so much it's because she is highly altruistic with a strong sense of social responsibility. But these are traits shared by girls I dated in many countries but the slammer is that the harshness of life in the FSU means I've met more hard nosed materialistic women who treat guys like arm cards than any country I ever visited. A measure of this is that I first visited Ukraine in 2000 and it has taken 16 YEARS to find someone with such strong values.

Don't get me wrong, two friends on the plane back in 2000 hit a home run after 6 weeks, 1 woman and first visit - they got really lucky. And that[s what it comes down to, you need to be in the right place at the right time with the right woman.

Most importantly you need to go into every relationship with a positive emotional view, even if the last girl was a pro dater and took you to the cleaners if you don't go all-in to win the new girls heart she's not going to fall for you - nobody wants to be blamed for another persons conduct.

And the best advice i can give is use it only as part of your plan to find the right one, keep all opportunities open and date all women you have an interest in. Most importantly stop focusing on marriage - focus instead on finding love, because if you become fixated on the idea every girl has to be marriage materiak]l likely as not you'll miss your perfect match. Sometimes relationships that start casually without much hope firework into something bigger, focusing on the endgame means you lose sight of the journey there.

thanks Morty for your reply
I can't reply for all these words but I can say I only want to marry in a small old I don't want to marry when i become old
I love kids so much and wanna beget many kids therefor small old is a suitable for this purpose in addition to our needs for sex and love in youth period of strong

[Marta7]

thanks Morty for your reply
I can't reply for all these words but I can say I only want to marry in a small old I don't want to marry when i become old
I love kids so much and wanna beget many kids therefor small old is a suitable for this purpose in addition to our needs for sex and love in youth period of strong

Good evening to all. I don't want what you were fighting of our family situation. I just want to ask, imagine you live in a foreign country , you started your life below zero , namely the washing of tractors, chopping wood, cleaning houses, school, farm work, cleaning garages. And I did it all because I loved him and wanted our family. Now, you all do the job, knowing that you are building your family's future . And calls you and writes to a mistress or lover and tells a story. That husband bought you as a slave, that they have not sex, but love that her husband is cheating. And you alone in that foreign country . What you will do ???

[aymoon]

Good evening to all. I don't want what you were fighting of our family situation. I just want to ask, imagine you live in a foreign country , you started your life below zero , namely the washing of tractors, chopping wood, cleaning houses, school, farm work, cleaning garages. And I did it all because I loved him and wanted our family. Now, you all do the job, knowing that you are building your family's future . And calls you and writes to a mistress or lover and tells a story. That husband bought you as a slave, that they have not sex, but love that her husband is cheating. And you alone in that foreign country . What you will do ???

Good evening Marta ..
Simply .. you may ask your question to your husband  "What you will do ???" if ....... etc.
and tell him , say to him I suppose take same your procedures against you if this order happened with you so Will you be happy ?!
his answer will be no (of course) then tell him why you ask from me opposite ?!
I mean his answer will limit your situation and by your this question he will be embarrassing in front of you

ask him then back to me

Best Wishes Marta

[Marta7]

Good evening Marta ..
Simply .. you may ask your question to your husband  "What you will do ???" if ....... etc.
and tell him , say to him I suppose take same your procedures against you if this order happened with you so Will you be happy ?!
his answer will be no (of course) then tell him why you ask from me opposite ?!
I mean his answer will limit your situation and by your this question he will be embarrassing in front of you


I arrived for my husband to have our family . Am I alone here. I live in a shelter. I did not believe that such can be with me. I heard today the news that two Slavic women, American men are killed. It's awful. We dream about family happiness .


ask him then back to me

Best Wishes Marta

[aymoon]

I arrived for my husband to have our family . Am I alone here. I live in a shelter. I did not believe that such can be with me. I heard today the news that two Slavic women, American men are killed. It's awful. We dream about family happiness .

shelter How ?!
and why you can't back to your country (Ukraine) to finish this tragedy
other meaning ... What make you forcing on this cruel life !