Where to Look for a Potential Wife

[TheHorseman]

It has been suggested in another thread that I can't get a woman to marry me because of where I live and my life style (Cowboy).  As I am sure by now a lot of the members know I have written a book about going to Russia and meeting women.  I don't by any means suggest that I am any type of expert in the field, but I have learn a thing or two.  If anyone that does buy the book and doesn't agree that there are enough valid point to make it worth the $9.95 that I ask for it.  Please let me know and submit any changes or add on's and I will be happy to comply.

But If you do live in an area like I do and have a life style simular to mine it shouldn't discourage you from searching for a wife in Russia.  This is a cut from my book on the subject.  I hope it will help someone.

Where to Look for a Potential Wife

No matter where you go in Russia, you are going to be like a kid in a candy store.  There are so many beautiful women it is hard to know what to do.  As with being realistic about what you are looking for, you should be realistic about where you look.

Where you live will make a big difference in where you should look for a potential wife.  If you live in a bigger city like New York City you can pretty much go anywhere in Russia to look for women.  To Russian women life in the big city is preferred over the smaller cities or small towns.  Life in the country is very hard there and they don’t understand that things are different here in America. 

If you live in or around a city like Oklahoma City you will want to find a woman that is used to the small type cities and towns.  Finding a woman that is used to a simpler life will make the transition much easier for her.  She will not be expecting big city things and when she sees that you have a good life she will be happier.  Take along a video or pictures of your home and city.  This will help to show Russian women about your life.

There are many smaller cities within 100 km / 65 miles of Moscow and St Petersburg.  Though they are close to the larger cities they still have the small town feel to them.  You must remember that 65 miles to someone that doesn’t own a car is often like a 300 miles to someone that does.  They do have busses that go to the city, but the cost and the time involved to travel can make it very difficult for them.

[Michelangelo]

It has been suggested in another thread that I can't get a woman to marry me because of where I live and my life style (Cowboy). 

Will, consider the source and ignore it. You and I both know he is very wrong.

Plus, Oklahoma is a beautiful state.  Rural life is great.

So, ignore him, just as i did when he trashed the words I wrote about my fiancee in the same thread. Or, to quote him, my "sexcapade." Yes, I had to count to 100 three times not to resond to such dirty words about the girl I'm engaged to marry, a girl I have known for 8 months and who I love and have sent a lot of time with.  Shame on him.  But I'll ignore him, because...

It's a great big wonderful world, and I choose to think positive, and not dwell on mindless, and incorrect, criticisms.

These words, from God, are an inspiration and guide and direct us to peace and tranquility:

...whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.  ...and the God of peace will be with you.

[TheHorseman]

I totally agree and I am not trying to transfer it to a different thread.  I happen to think that it is a good point to make.  People shouldn't worry about where they live.  But in the same sense they should take into concideration that Russia women will take it into concideration.

After I went to Belarus and met the women in Gomel I saw that as a potential problem.  Her reaction to where I lived spurred me to change my direction the next time. I think that this might be something to think about.  I did before I went back.

Thanks for the moral support. 

Will

[Bruno]

I live in a little village from 5000 people and it was never a problem for my actual girlfriend... I have propose to live in a near city ( Gent 250000 people ) but she have refuse... She was charmed by my little village.

A western village is not a russian village... here, we have school and college, 3 supermarket and a lot of other shop... the near city is 7 km from village, the major city Gent is only 25 km... the sea at 50 km...

The problem is that russian women associate village to russian village who are isolated, without confort, without shop, without modernity... It is your job to explain her what she can find and what she will not find in the place you live... exchange the criminality of big city against the calm ambiance of a little village can be a plus if other commodities are existing.

[Michelangelo]

You are correct again, Will.

It is important to consider the area the girl lives in if you want her to live in and enjoy your area.  

The misinformation or darts aimed at you in that other thread was that girls will not want to live in rural Oklahoma or a ranch environment. Not true. Thousands of FSU girls would leap at such an opportunity.  In fact, I know three FSU girls who absloutey love to ride horseback. 

[TheHorseman]

I agree Michel

The little Russia girl staying with me freaked out about how beautiful OKC is.  And she is from the small city I went to teach in. Oktyabrsky is a quaint little city, but it is still small enough. 

I happen to live right outside the city and though this area is growing quickly there isn't really anything within walking distance (Except the school)  The grocery store is 2 1/2 miles.  But I am only 20 minutes away from the city. 

I have a nice place, 8 acers, a big house, garage w/garage apt., and a Gramma house next to mine.  My land is like a park, I have been working to make is this way for years.  I have a big barn and arena and I just got all my fences painted white. Not to fancy but very comfortable.

I hated St Petes,,, put me in mind of NYC.  I couldn't wait to get out of there.  This is one of my reasons for wanting to start a business in Oktyabrsky.

Bruno your village sounds great.

[lindochka]

But I wouldn't recommend looking in a large city and hoping to find a woman who would be willing to live out in the country. I've spent a pretty fair amount of time in small-town Belarus -- the largest of these small towns (pop. 25,000) has one restaurant whose primary source of business is things like wedding receptions and New Year's office parties, a couple of small open-air markets, no real stores. There's even less to do in smaller towns! You'd be hard-pressed to persuade a Belarusian city girl that country life in the US is far different from what she thinks of when she thinks of country life, even though I'm sure you have all the modern conveniences that FSU women associate with city life. Trust me, she's thinking outdoor plumbing!

OTOH, a woman from a small town would likely find your set-up ideal -- all the peace and calm of life outside a big city, and all the comforts and conveniences that are available only in big cities over there. My FSU female friends and relatives, including the ones who went to university in the capital, prefer the slower pace of country life but many of them wish they had access to some of the stuff that's only available to city women over there.

[Bruno]

Bruno your village sounds great.

If think that if a American visit Belgium, he will find that the whole country is only one big city... with same green place between home...

When i have visit US, i was surprised by people using one full day of road for go fishing... me, in one full day, i have quit my country, go over all the France and will be in south of Spain... Same the more big of the European country is more little that Texas...

EDIT : My previous russian wife was only wishing life in big city... I have choose to live in little village only after the divorce... The place where you live is certainly something to speak with your girlfriend in a early stage of the communication.

[Turboguy]

My former Fiancee came from a city of about 2 million or so and was here living in a town of 8500 and loved my town.  She liked to lack of hustle and the peace.   My current # 1 gal comes from a  city of 1.5 million or so and she has visited me here and also likes it.   I don't think it is that big an issue for a lot of them.  Yes, there are big city gals who want nothing esle.  Just find another.

[PeeWee]

My former Fiancee came from a city of about 2 million or so and was here living in a town of 8500 and loved my town.  She liked to lack of hustle and the peace.   My current # 1 gal comes from a  city of 1.5 million or so and she has visited me here and also likes it.   I don't think it is that big an issue for a lot of them.  Yes, there are big city gals who want nothing esle.  Just find another.

Turbogay, you still hanging out for that lady who came to visit you last month?

From what I am hearing is that, like tropical fish, if you don't put these ladies into the proper environment that they not thrive. Some like a big area with lots of places to hide. Others like to be with schools of their own kind, they feel safer. Some like bracish water some like warm water. It seems much the same, doesn't it?

Peewee

[Sohkay]

The city vs. country scenario is one I frequently go over in my mind and discuss with zaichik moy. I live in a beautiful waterfront location...but I have to drive to everything. The other really big issue is that there's absolutely no kids around here for the little zaichik to play with, and lord knows, she's a social animal. I'm thinking of giving up the waterfront, as lovely as it is, and locate in a central city location where everything is within walking distance and there's more than enough potential playmates for the little one. From the selfish perspective, it would free me up from playing taxi driver and from the unselfish perspective, it would give my girl more freedom and independence, to walk to the store, a job, cultural activities. Gotta' tell you also, I kinda' like the idea of walking to all the things we need. It's a healthy lifestyle. Then, long weekend camping trips, or even better yet, a nice 35 to 40 foot boat to live and play on for the weekends. The waterfront location I live on right now is really quite stunning, but I feel my priorities changing to what would be best for my future family. The zaichiks currently live in a "suburban" location just outside a larger city. My girl likes both city and country.
Any thoughts?

[lindochka]

Sohkay, my zaichik's from a small town but has lived, worked, and vacationed in big cities. I live in a good-sized city (pop. 1.5 million), but away from the bustle in the center of town. I've been thinking about selling my house, but I've decided to wait till Zaichik arrives and gets a feel for the place before taking any action.

Turboguy, your former fiancee might have enjoyed the "lack of hustle and the peace" a little less if it meant she had to pump water from a well near the kitchen door before washing dishes or making tea, milk a couple of cows every evening, and use a privy in the backyard, which is likely what she'd have to do in a town of 8500 over there. But I'm betting that your lifestyle is not that rustic...

[Turboguy]

Yes, PeeWee brain.  I am still hanging out with the gal from Rostov who visited me in LA for 11 days and her for a little less than a week.   I will be spending the last week in July with her.  It is my second trip to visit her.

I think they all have their comfort zones.  Not real sure what kind of water they like to swim in though.  For the most part I think it breaks down into city girls and country girls.  Maybe you can take the girl out of the country but you can't take the country out of the girl.  

Lindochka,   Yes, I have been out in the country there.  I visited a gal who lived on a farm in Ukriaine a long time ago.   The bathroom was an outhouse and when we wanted warm showers we threw some logs in the water heater.  Of course the fancy hotel I stayed at in Simferpol on that trip did not have hot water at all so it was an improvement.

No it is not that bad.  We have a population of 190,000 within 20 miles and lots of good shopping.  My house is in the city so she could walk downtown in 5 minutes and shop.   It is not a bad place to live.

[TheHorseman]

Well I am glad to see the different stories.  I think we are all in agreement that it is important to cover this topic with the women we are trying to date or marry.  For myself I am glad to say that I don't use an outside toilet, I do have a good size hot water heater (three in fact), and my well has an electric pump and the best water you ever tasted.  In fact alot of the bottled water that people drink comes from a place about 20 miles from here.

I even have a 52" TV complete with all the electronics.  All the comforts of home.

Thanks for the comments

Will

[PeeWee]

Yes, PeeWee brain.  I am still hanging out with the gal from Rostov who visited me in LA for 11 days and her for a little less than a week.   I will be spending the last week in July with her.  It is my second trip to visit her.

I think they all have their comfort zones.  Not real sure what kind of water they like to swim in though.  For the most part I think it breaks down into city girls and country girls.  Maybe you can take the girl out of the country but you can't take the country out of the girl.  

Lindochka,   Yes, I have been out in the country there.  I visited a gal who lived on a farm in Ukriaine a long time ago.   The bathroom was an outhouse and when we wanted warm showers we threw some logs in the water heater.  Of course the fancy hotel I stayed at in Simferpol on that trip did not have hot water at all so it was an improvement.

No it is not that bad.  We have a population of 190,000 within 20 miles and lots of good shopping.  My house is in the city so she could walk downtown in 5 minutes and shop.   It is not a bad place to live.

And don't forget to mention the Willy Joe Nameth Football Shire and Beergarden.

Rostov?  I have a friend who was born and raised in Rostov. She is now living in Moscow and working as a doctor...who did not recieve substandard training because she did graduate from Moscow State.

Peewee brain

[Turboguy]

I am not sure about the shrine and the beer garden.  If anyone knows anything about Beaver Falls it is Joe though.   Actually he grew up about 5 blocks from my business

Rostov is a nice place.  I have visited a lot of cities in Russia and Ukraine and it seemed to be the nicest I have been to.

Speaking of football, notice I timed my trip to be back at the start of training camp.   Hopefully we can have a rematch of last years superbowl with some better officiating.

[Louie]

PeeWee brain!!! LMAO!!!


No Offence meant PeeWee!!

[Vaughn]

Will wrote:

It has been suggested in another thread that I can't get a woman to marry me because of where I live and my life style (Cowboy).

<---My two-legged steed cries "Horsemanure!!" You just have to search a little further. And with you being 20 min outside Oklahoma City, she could have the best of both worlds...

Example:

"In my childhood I was very much interested in horse breeding and equestrian sport. This interest grew up with time and became my profession a few years ago! It takes a considerable part of my life now."
http://www.russian-women.net/ladies/on9371.shtml

Too young? How about: "I like to spend my free time in the country-side, gardening. I like to ride the horse..." (Seeks Partner: 42 - 65 years old)
http://www.russian-women.net/ladies/ks1843.shtml

Search engines offering keywords open up a plethora of hits. While I agree
in general that FSU ladies prefer a more urban lifestyle, the notion that one's
bound to fail based on his country setting is nonsense - I am certain that my own wife would have been happy as well had I stayed in Oregon, so long as she wasn't sheltered from the stores and job opportunities.

[PeeWee]

PeeWee brain!!! LMAO!!!


No Offence meant PeeWee!!

He is getting me back for calling him Turbogay because jb called him a homo. 

Peewee

[PeeWee]

I am not sure about the shrine and the beer garden.  If anyone knows anything about Beaver Falls it is Joe though.   Actually he grew up about 5 blocks from my business

Rostov is a nice place.  I have visited a lot of cities in Russia and Ukraine and it seemed to be the nicest I have been to.

Speaking of football, notice I timed my trip to be back at the start of training camp.   Hopefully we can have a rematch of last years superbowl with some better officiating.

I did the same with my trip. I return on the 23rd of August. I don't care about the preseason but I do want to be home in time for the regular season. I have begun my football conditioning of Lena. I have sent to her pictures of the players on the Seahawks team. Also I sent a photo of the refs who officiated at the Superbowl asking that she place a gypsy curse on them.

I have already told her how it is important not to expect Peewee to be anywhere within the realm of communicative between the hours of 10am and 8pm on Sunday and then again between the hours of 5pm and 9pm on Monday from the beginning of September until the beginning of February. I will have to remind her of this, of course, because I don't think it stuck in her subconsious when I first told her of it.

Peewee

[Turboguy]

One of the guys posted that when your RW arrives be prepaired to give up bowling, golf, football, watching any sports on tv etc.  I was prepared for any sacrifice but Steeler football when Luda arrived.

One time I was watching a game and Luda said 'This is boring'  I said if you are bored, go for a walk or find somthing to read.  It will be over in an hour.  I know Russian women are supposed to be the center of our lives but this is Steeler country.

[PeeWee]

One of the guys posted that when your RW arrives be prepaired to give up bowling, golf, football, watching any sports on tv etc.  I was prepared for any sacrifice but Steeler football when Luda arrived.

One time I was watching a game and Luda said 'This is boring'  I said if you are bored, go for a walk or find somthing to read.  It will be over in an hour.  I know Russian women are supposed to be the center of our lives but this is Steeler country.

This is why I am beginning early with her aclimation process. I don't think that I will ever see her with half of her face painted green and the other half blue but I may be able to come up with a credit card that has a $300.00 limit on it so that when I begin to hear the bitiching I can lay out the card and you know how RW love to  shop. I figure she will be gone for hours, especially if I make her take the bus.

Peewee

[Turboguy]

Maybe you can get a card that you can change the limit by phone or online.   Oh OH, Games going into overtime, I better add another $100 to the card to keep her busy.

[Michelangelo]

One of the guys posted that when your RW arrives be prepaired to give up bowling, golf, football, watching any sports on tv etc.  I was prepared for any sacrifice but Steeler football when Luda arrived.

One time I was watching a game and Luda said 'This is boring'  I said if you are bored, go for a walk or find somthing to read.  It will be over in an hour.  I know Russian women are supposed to be the center of our lives but this is Steeler country.

My fiancee is crazy about sports.  All sports.  We have text messaged through all the Ukraine world cup games and through some tennis matches too.  I think she will transfer into American Football well.  But we'll go to the games first instead of watching them on TV.

[Turboguy]

Maybe that is why they have the K-1 visa set for 90 days.   Gives you enough of the football season to see if they are going to start painting thier face black and gold or green and blue, as the case may be, or if we need to send them back and pick another who knows what is important in life.