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6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« on: December 10, 2020, 06:27:24 PM »
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Six of the most common tendencies in relationships that many couples think are healthy and normal but are actually toxic and harming what you hold dear......

1. The Relationship Scorecard
What Is It?: The keeping score phenomenon is when someone youre dating continues to blame you for past mistakes. If both people in the relationship do this it devolves into what I call the relationship scorecard, where the relationship devolves into a battle to see who has screwed up the most over the months or years, and therefore who is most indebted to the other.
 You were an asshole at Cynthias 28th birthday party back in 2010 and it has proceeded to ruin your life ever since. Why? Because theres not a week that goes by that youre not reminded of it. But thats OK, because that time you caught your partner sending flirtatious text messages to a co-worker immediately cancels the opportunity to indulge in some useful jealousy, so its kind of even, right?
Wrong.
The rest here.......
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« Reply #1 on: January 03, 2021, 03:10:24 PM »
Very rarely do you have this with an FSUW. In my experience she ]
tells you how, what, why and in detail what you aren't doing correctly
in her opinion as clearly as she knows how. I never have to worry about
my wife, dropping hints. She makes sure I know what she wants me to
know.

2. Dropping Hints and Other Passive-Aggression


My last American girlfriend was passive aggressive. One time she called
me up on the phone to give me the silent treatment. That was our last
phone call ever.

« Last Edit: January 03, 2021, 03:12:34 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #2 on: January 05, 2021, 01:50:29 PM »
Many of these toxic relationship things don't exist in a Russian
Woman's psyche. 

3. Holding the Relationship Hostage

What Is It?: When one person has a simple criticism or complaint and blackmails
the other person by threatening the commitment of the relationship as a whole.
For instance, if someone feels like youve been cold to them, instead of saying,
I feel like youre being cold sometimes, they will say, I cant date someone
who is cold to me all of the time.

FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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« Reply #3 on: January 05, 2021, 01:58:22 PM »
I am still waiting for the relationship advice on having a wife who

1. knows everything

2. Or the advice re the stubborn girl who is going to do something
that you warned her would blow up in her face and cause X, Y & Z.
Then sure enough she does it anyway and X, Y & Z all happen in
spades even more spectacularly than you imagined.

FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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Re: 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #4 on: January 05, 2021, 02:21:01 PM »
I am still waiting for the relationship advice on having a wife who

1. knows everything

2. Or the advice re the stubborn girl who is going to do something
that you warned her would blow up in her face and cause X, Y & Z.
Then sure enough she does it anyway and X, Y & Z all happen in
spades even more spectacularly than you imagined.
Bill, here it is - straight from the JB handbook - "Get a hobby in the garage"...

You're not living anything I haven't and it's useless trying to tell them..🙄

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Re: 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #5 on: January 05, 2021, 02:35:19 PM »
Bill, here it is - straight from the JB handbook - "Get a hobby in the garage"...

That's a classic, that rates up there with
"There are 101 generally accepted theories that men have developed
about women in the last 50 years.... Unfortunately they are all wrong."
 


You're not living anything I haven't and it's useless trying to tell them..🙄


I know, I can just look in Angel Eyes eyes and know what she is going to do.

FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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Re: 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #6 on: January 05, 2021, 03:05:04 PM »
That's a classic
It was JB's private advice to me very early on, long before any potential issues were raised.

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Re: 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #7 on: January 05, 2021, 05:35:03 PM »
I am still waiting for the relationship advice on having a wife who

1. knows everything

2. Or the advice re the stubborn girl who is going to do something
that you warned her would blow up in her face and cause X, Y & Z.
Then sure enough she does it anyway and X, Y & Z all happen in
spades even more spectacularly than you imagined.

Do any of you remember when my gal set an acre of dry grass on fire ?
We barely got it stopped before reaching the woods.

Yes, I had warned her this could happen.
Winston Churchill.  The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.

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Re: 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #8 on: January 05, 2021, 11:14:06 PM »
Do any of you remember when my gal set an acre of dry grass on fire ?
We barely got it stopped before reaching the woods.

Yes, I had warned her this could happen.
No doubt followed by a vigorous oratory of how she did everything "correctly" and it was all the fault of the stupid climate in this stupid country...💃

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Re: 6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Normal
« Reply #9 on: January 06, 2021, 05:38:03 AM »
No doubt followed by a vigorous oratory of how she did everything "correctly" and it was all the fault of the stupid climate in this stupid country...💃
Yes, as I understand it, there were bad consequences for persons at fault in FSU.  So they are quick to claim: "not my fault"
Winston Churchill.  The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter.

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« Reply #10 on: January 06, 2021, 04:42:18 PM »
Yes, as I understand it, there were bad consequences for persons at fault in FSU.  So they are quick to claim: "not my fault"

My wife does it as a joke. She accidentally spills something on me, and looks
at me directly and says "It wasn't me!!"

Or I can get into bed and snuggle against her and she will say
"who is it!??" pretending that it could be anyone of the many
men who might hop into her bed.

FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

 

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