The pedestal preservation crowd

[2tallbill]

The pedestal preservation crowd

There are men who believe and project attributes to FSUW that they don't have
or deserve. You can find any and every type of woman in the FSU. You can find
a woman who sings like an angel as easily as one who causes the neighbors dog
to cry when she sings.

You can find FSUW who are excellent cooks or women who use the smoke alarm
as a cooking timer. You can find FSUW who would never lie or cheat you and you
can find one who would trade both your kidney's (you would die) for a new pair
of boots.

You can find a woman who can do advanced calculus or a woman who needs to
take off her shoes to count past 10. They have every type there, you can make
a few generalities, but they will be generalities. They have fat, feminist, ball
busting, women with dyke haircuts, but they aren't the norm.

The average FSUW has not taken hormonal birth control since age 16 and has
not taken antidepression meds for the last 10-20 years but you can find a totally
crazy, lunatic woman in the FSU and there is no shortage of them. I advise you
avoid cRaZy women at least as much as you would avoid kissing bleeding Ebola
victims.

What happens is men involved in pursuing women from the FSU spend a lot
of time between visits and often times get wrapped up in them projecting
virtues onto them that they don't have. Even if you spend an hour a day
chatting with one girl or another and you visit every three months, that's
still a lot of time alone with your own thoughts.

My advice is to avoid projecting either virtues or vices onto FSUW. Use your
eyes and your ears. Women with agenda's will reveal them. Crazy women
can only hide crazy for a limited time. If you pay attention you will catch the
liars lying, the scammers scamming etc. etc.

Don't set up tests to catch them, you will piss off .989841% of the good girls.

These women don't belong on pedestals, they won't respect you if you put them
on one and you want/need/require both those things for success. 
1. A good girl
2. Her respect

Udachi!

Bill

[Seeker]

I tend to agree.  We like to think of groups we can label as monolithic units.  Voting and polling is just one example.  All groups have the same mix to a great extent and whether it be for dating purposes, social purposes, vocational purposes, no group is a single category.  All groups contain the good, the bad, and the crazy.  Just look at us men! 


It makes for a better world if there is variety and as Bill stated we need to define what we are looking for and go from there.

[Trenchcoat]

What happens is men involved in pursuing women from the FSU spend a lot
of time between visits and often times get wrapped up in them projecting
virtues onto them that they don't have. Even if you spend an hour a day
chatting with one girl or another and you visit every three months, that's
still a lot of time alone with your own thoughts.

My advice is to avoid projecting either virtues or vices onto FSUW. Use your
eyes and your ears. Women with agenda's will reveal them. Crazy women
can only hide crazy for a limited time. If you pay attention you will catch the
liars lying, the scammers scamming etc. etc.

Don't set up tests to catch them, you will piss off .989841% of the good girls.

These women don't belong on pedestals, they won't respect you if you put them
on one and you want/need/require both those things for success. 
1. A good girl
2. Her respect

Udachi!

Bill

Thanks Bill, that stuff will be handy for me to recall for my Chișinău visit. I have a tendancy to put pussy in a pedestal particularly if she's attractive. I really need to not do that because as you rightly point out it's a killer for a relationship. I'm just going to have to think of a girl as an ancillary part of my life like my car or whatever rather than the main deal. The not getting too worked up about a relationship is good stuff also.

On another FSU dating forum there was this guy who had the brainwave idea of sending the girl he had met a bunch of flowers just putting on the card something like, 'from your secret admirer'. The idea being that if he was the only guy she was seeing she would mention it next when they video chatted. If he wasn't the only guy she was seeing then she wouldn't mention anything as she wouldn't know which guy the flowers were from. He thought such a manoeuvre a masterstroke I personally thought the guy was trying to be too clever for his own good and he would likely end up torpedoing his own relationship. While it had some thought behind it the problem was that it wasn't a sure fire way if knowing for sure as there could be many reasons why the girl wouldn't say anything. The flowers could have been from the guy she just says hi to in the morning when passing on her travels etc. Like you say it's best not to run tests as they don't get you anywhere and likely will just end up destroying a good relationship. Over time I've learnt that my own suspicion can be my own worst enemy and unless something is really directly obvious then it's best to set it aside and move forward on the basis that both parties are proceeding with the best of intentions basis.