Am I to young?

[poseidon84]

I am interested in FSU girls. The reasons?
They seem more mature then swdish girls, they usually attract me more then blonde swedish girls. And I also love the russian language and the accents it gives on other languages.

But I am "only" 22 years old, am I to young to find a girl?
Alot of the girls you see on the sites are 18-23 years old. But they are looking for 30+ guys :S
Shall I wait until I am 30 or is it okay for me to date girls in FSU?

I think I can attract ladies because I am healthy, hard working and a nice man that is romantic. And the people I have met in Belarus has also said that they consider me to be a good man because I am th person I am.

What do you say guys, am I to young?

[BC]

I think you're probably too young to be searching for a wife using an agency or other MOB introduction practices.

You're also probably suffering from the 'grass is greener' regarding the blondes.

You mentioned maturity, but I think a lot of aspects in FSU life may form personality characteristics that could be interpreted as being mature..  but in the end, inside a RW I think you will find the equivalent of her peers elsewhere.  It's just that in her environment, mature traits may be more of a necessity and immaturity a supressed luxury.

I'm 46 and thinking back to my younger years can only think 'boy.. I wish I knew then what I know now..'

But there are things you can only learn by experience and that is what you should be seeking above all else - experiences, plain and simple.  Travel as much as you can, meet and maintain contact with folks you meet travelling, learn their languages and ways.

You are at the perfect age to explore the FSU or anywhere else that interests you without lugging around a heavy MOB agenda, take a well provisioned backpack instead.  Take your time, keep your eyes and mind open and you WILL meet your mate sooner or later, maybe here, maybe there.  In the end the more exposure you have the greater your chances will be.

Unlike many around here including myself, you have the majority of your life in front of you.. an enviable 'head start'.. use it wisely and above all enjoy yourself!

Do hang around though.. there is some good info you can use here and I'm sure many of us would enjoy reading about your experiences.. even if we can only dream about replicating them.

[poseidon84]

Thank you for those words, I agree with you that some exploring off FSU would be nice. Think I will do some planning now to see if I might go on a trip next year. Would be fun '

And I will stay here asking question from the "old" folks  only kidding with you. But I will be aorund reading and asking questions

[Shadow]

Poseidon,
You are young, but that does not mean you can not find your life partner. The women registered are looking for 30+ because there are not a lot of 22 year old guys around to look for.
The good thing is that you do not have to be in a hurry to create a family, take your time until you know it is right.

[happyguy]

Poseidon

I don't think you are to young.I am younger then most of the man on this board.(I am only 26)Even knowing that, I decided to search for a women in the FSU.I didn't use an agency instead i used this site. http://freepersonals.ru/

I found the site to work well if you know what your looking for.But be careful, it has seems to have a lot of scammers on it.I was able to meet a great girl from Belarus on it.Who i visited last month and will be seeing again in January.

I met a lot of other interesting and great girls on that site.From talking communicating with them.I learned many where looking for younger man and would preffer them to men over 30.

There is a problem with that site.The girls are located all over the FSU and the world.So it might be hard to find a couple in the same city you would like to meet.So if you are not a write one,visit one type of guy.This site might not work for you.

Searching for a women in the FSU and being under 30 is the exception not the rule.But i think you might have any easier time finding a real women to spend your life with.Not just a women who will marry you because of where you live.

I guess what i am trying to say is, take your time.Write to many girls.If you like one, visit them.They may or may not be the one.Just keep an open mind and have fun.I hope you will come away from your search as happy as i did from mine.

[docetae]

I am interested in FSU girls. The reasons?
They seem more mature then swdish girls, they usually attract me more then blonde swedish girls. And I also love the russian language and the accents it gives on other languages.

But I am "only" 22 years old, am I to young to find a girl?
Alot of the girls you see on the sites are 18-23 years old. But they are looking for 30+ guys :S
Shall I wait until I am 30 or is it okay for me to date girls in FSU?

I think I can attract ladies because I am healthy, hard working and a nice man that is romantic. And the people I have met in Belarus has also said that they consider me to be a good man because I am th person I am.

What do you say guys, am I to young?

You are not too young, but just be sure to know what do you want for life. I don't know yet between 30 and 40 (I'm 32) but between 20 and 30, all people I know, me included have evolved a lot. Not something bad, but I think definitely differently than when I was 22.

And be careful about scammers or other women who want just good time with a man who can offer them what they can not afford on a regular basis. This can hurt your feelings.

About the age difference, I guess you will have a lot of success. From my short experience of one year now, I get a good response rate just because I was looking for a woman between 26 and 31, not younger. 

Good luck !

[poseidon84]

I know that so far the most frequent word I use here is thank you. but still thank you. you seem to be such a nice bunch of people

[prince_alfie]

Best of luck!

I think that maturity will play a bigger role than age in most cases. If you feel like you can be responsible for a wonderful family, then go for it. Visiting FSU would be ideal especially now that you have a lot of energy (and perhaps time too) to travel around that an older guy (soon to be 30) may not have the opportunity.

[Bruce]

If I were you I would be concentrating on a career \ education right now.  Vacation in foreign countries to broaden your perspective, mature and learn about yourself.  If and when you meet a girl who can hopefully stand the test of time with you consider the consequences of marriage carefully prior to taking the plunge.  You have a long road ahead of you.  Think before you leap.  

[docetae]

To add to what Bruce has said, be ready for travel but do not look asap for a long relationship ... Just try to have fun and if you meet the special one, you will know it and will keep contact with her. Nothing replace experience.

[TexasBoar]

Shall I wait until I am 30 or is it okay for me to date girls in FSU?

Date, yes.  Marry, no. 

You've gotten some good advice here already, and I agree.  Have fun, don't bother with MOB agencies at ALL---use local contacts and regular free singles sites---and let what happens, happen.

~Boar

[BillyB]

poseidon84,

Of course not all women want a man 8+ years older than her. Bride.ru has women that are looking for men aged 18-20 so in some cases you're too old! If you're ready to settle down and marry, make damn sure that young woman of yours is ready too. Lack of maturity and wisdom in the early years of adulthood can help lead you to divorce.

[PeeWee]

Add it up. It seems that many RW are married by age 22 so it would not be too young for them. If your search for an RW lasted 4 to 5 years, as mine has, then by the time you are 27 she will be here for you. I'd say start now but be smart about it. It is too easy to get scammed.

Peevee

[Pacifer]

I would say you're too young, because there is a big chance that neither you nor your future wife would be really mature enough to handle an international marriage. You have significant cultural difference, language barrier etc to combat in addition to your young age. You see the matureness of older couples works as a stabilisator for the other negative factors (cultural difference etc), but if you lack that it's more difficult to make it work.

So unless you have a compelling reason to do it, I would think twice before forgetting all the hot Swedish girls. I really would explore the local marriage "market" more before going East.

But hey, it's just my small advice, and of course it can work out. Just the risk is significant higher. And if you're really interested in the FSU culture, why not go there, just as a tourist, and learn, and make the cultural difference less beforehand. From Sweden you can travel for almost nothing to FSU.

[Julia G]

 I think your age is very good, most men I got in contact with while search were too old for me (before I met my dear 26yo guy ) and there`s really lack of young guys in international dating and there`re lots of young girls who would prefer younger guys but can`t find cause of their little number. And marriage...girls under 23-24 won`t be in a hurry with it, so you`ll have your time for such important decision.

[poseidon84]

Thanks Julia, was nice to hear a girls point of view

[Bruno]

But I am "only" 22 years old, am I to young to find a girl?
Alot of the girls you see on the sites are 18-23 years old. But they are looking for 30+ guys :S
Shall I wait until I am 30 or is it okay for me to date girls in FSU?

22 years old mean nothing... one 22 is not the other...

About date, you are free to make what you will... but if you think about marriage, some problem can appear !

Why do you think that girls around your age seek men around 30 year old ? These girls wish build a family... family mean responsability... Do you think that a young boy of 22 always on the school is a potential husband ? Maybe a lover, a date but not yet the stability needed for family...

But maybe you have already quit the school and start your adult live... but again, you are young, you have second class job until you have build enough experience for reach the top...

At the administration side, don't forget that you need a minimum income for sponsor your bride... if you cannot make it yourself and need someone other for sponsor due to lack or low income, forget it... these minimum income is not 50% of what you will need during the first year with her...

Of course, maybe papa is very rich, you don't need work and he fill your wallet weekly with some thounsand $$$... in so case, you will not have problem for attract scammer, GCG and other bad beast... a lot of knowledge will be needed to find the diamont in the pack of sh!t...

Too much maybe for give you a good reply... your age is only one little parameter... you financial side, your job stability, your own living place, your maturity are some more important factor that your age...

[TexasBoar]

Bride.ru has women that are looking for men aged 18-20 so in some cases you're too old!

Not to resurrect and re-beat to death that poor long-suffering "age gap myth" dead horse, BUT . . .

While some sites and some profiles do list Westernized age range preferences, one thing I've noted is that the lower age in most women's stated preference seems to be about where an AW of similar age would put her cutoff point.

IOW, lots, maybe most, 21-22 year old FSUW put down 25 to "X" for "age of partner" . . . now, the "X," most seem to agree, can often be a matter of agency pressure or just her knowing the realities of who's likely to show up.  Desperation, coercion, whatever.  But the LOWER number? Why fudge there? Most 21 yo AW on internet dating sites would set that as the OLDEST man they'd consider dating.

I think they really DO prefer older men.  Just not always as MUCH older as we'd sometimes like. 

~Boar

[BillyB]

I think they really DO prefer older men.  Just not always as MUCH older as we'd sometimes like. 

Every woman is different and but I consider most FSU women more ready to accept an older man compared to her Western sisters. On gal came on another forum and said she had a profile on bride.ru. I read it and asked her why she would consider men 30 years and older and she was like 19-22(I can't remember the exact age). She said that her experience with younger men are that they aren't ready for marriage. Her own reasoning and not the usual agency hype.

[Julia G]

I think they really DO prefer older men.  Just not always as MUCH older as we'd sometimes like. 

~Boar

When I got in search I put lowest point 18 (I was 18 then myself) and wanted to find a guy not more than 10 years elder, maximum was 15-years age gap, but it could be accepted only in case of really outstanding personality. In result I found a very outstanding personality in my 26yo guy.

[happyguy]

When I got in search I put lowest point 18 (I was 18 then myself) and wanted to find a guy not more than 10 years elder, maximum was 15-years age gap, but it could be accepted only in case of really outstanding personality. In result I found a very outstanding personality in my 26yo guy.

Julia

That 26 year old man you keep mentioning is a very lucky man.Believe me when i say, i think he knows it. :kissing:

[happyguy]

your age is only one little parameter... you financial side, your job stability, your own living place, your maturity are some more important factor that your age...

These things are important in any relationship. Wheather it is with a local girl or an international one.

[poseidon84]

I do have a stable job with good pay, I am on my way to buying a house now
My dad is not rich, but have always told me to work hard. So that is what I do now. I work hard and I try to study some subject at the university while I work.

And the girls here prefer guys around their age. And the girls around my age prefer to not have seriuos relationships. And those who prefer serious relationships are already involved in one

And I can also add that the girls here that I have gotten along with well are the ones older then me
So if it is true that the girls in FSU is a bit more mature, or atleast tries to be, then it might suite me well.

[prince_alfie]

Privet Julia and happyguy! Nice couple 

[happyguy]

Privet Julia and happyguy! Nice couple 

Thanks prince_alfie