How much personal info on an agency profile is too much?

[Max]

I would like to get opinions on how much personal information (or information on the exact type of woman you are looking for, such as if you want a working woman or a housewife, smoker or non-smoker, or even her preferred age and height) should be provided on a profile that you create in one of these agency sites.

What is the balance between the amounts of info needed for a woman to write or reply to your letter, or convince a woman to write you, vs. excessive amount of info that could work to your disadvantage?  In other words, what is considered to be too much info that a woman can use to pretend to be your exact match?

Thanks in advance,
Max.

[TexasBoar]

I'm not terribly experienced, but I have a profile up on freepersonals.ru that's garnered a decent amount of interest and response, and one very suitable "penpal."

The only provisio I appended to mine was under "what I was looking for in a partner," where I drew the line at one child under five, max.  For the rest, I was basically just honest about who I was, and what my interests and hobbies and so forth were, but not overly specific.  And I tried to keep it short! Some I've seen write entire novels---guess they're weeding out all but the most fluent English speakers, lol.

~Boar

[Max]

Hi Boar, and thanks for your reply.

Were you concerted much that, by exposing too much info upfront you might end up with ladies that tell you exactly what you want to hear based on the specifies of your profile?  Or shall I ask, did that every happened?

I don’t mind weeding out the ones you are not interested on, but the flip side is that you may end up with the ones that will waist your time and you might lose the one that you should be focusing on.  Just hypostatically speaking…

Max.

[TexasBoar]

Well, I just thought it was more important to present a picture of who I am as a person, really, and the things I like to do.  I suppose some poor desperate woman somewhere might be motivated to say "oh, I like cigars and architecture and old motorcycles too!" just to rope me in, but it doesn't seem likely.

I just treated it like any other internet dating profile, really.  My feeling was, don't mention money/possessions, do mention a preferred age range and any dealbreakers, don't try to look like someone you're not, do present yourself in the best possible light, keep it short (they're translating it, after all) and sort the rest out in correspondence.  It's a free site, so it didn't cost me anything to give it a shot . . . a pay-by-the-letter agency, might be a different story, but most of the guys here say to stay away from those anyway.

~Boar

[BillyB]

Max,

I think too much info in a profile can limit potential prospects. When I wrote to hundreds of women, I didn't pay attention to everything they said in their profile. I was 11 years older than one woman desired and 4 years younger than another woman desired but they still wrote to me so they stepped out of their boundaries. If I accepted their boundaries, I of course would not have written them.

As far what to say in letters, I tried to find out the interests in the ladies before they found out about mine. It was on my mind that some of the women would play me and mimic my likes.

[Max]

Thanks Billy & Boar.

[Son of Clyde]

You need enough information to be able to narrow down your search. I think age, smoker or non smoker, religion, any children, education and appearance (eye color, weight, hair color) is not too much to ask. Any extremely personal information would be too much.

[CaptB]

The basics as clyde pointed-out......except "appearence". I know from personal experience that RW's are turned-off by talk of "physical features".....especially with a stranger. If having, blond, tall, slim, athletic.....is important......you can find that on the RW's profile and/or photo without bringing it up.....on your profile. A little about your work, your town, hobbies/interests, education etc.

Most of the women I have dated were 5'6" to 5'7" (either attraction or luck of the draw).............................my wonderfull wife is 5"3". Don't put in too many restrictions or deal-breakers..........you can sift through and sort these out later.

Capt B

[Manny]

How much information is too much?

It would depend on if you were a sex tourist or a wife hunter.

There are MANY women available, why withold information for her only to find it out later and blow you out and waste ££'s and time?

Why not be straight up to start with? If you only want a X height, X size blonde housewife (for example) why not say so? It will filter out maybe 90% of women if you are very exacting but the 10% that remain you know fall in to your criteria and accept your demands/opinions/you.

If you are an older guy for example only seeking women of between X and X age and X and X size - why not say so? Many maybe will laugh and move on but a few will say "maybe" and take a closer look. You only want ONE woman after all dont you? You have the potential pool of thousands so why waste time? If you are fat but wealthy say so (in discreet terms) then you dont fool anyone! There is someone for everyone!

If you hoodwink her she will leave/divorce you surely?

The old caveat "if you cant do it at home you cant do it in Russia" applies here. If you are an older chap who may have a few extra pounds and be follically challenged for example - dont hide it, the proportion you bat above your "home" station is directly proportional to the level of GCH you will encounter.

Yes you can find a good woman, a good wife and a foxy woman in Russia but stay real! Tell the girl the truth! She may be your future wife! Will you lie to her forever?

Like with any local girl, just be YOURSELF!