I admit it.
I did date a couple of professional daters (PDs) during my search.
Here are some ideas on how to avoid my mistakes,
and how to detect such a girl if you screw up, and do go and see her.
HOW TO AVOID PDs:
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TIP # 1: Choose a good agency. The agencies that "look" best
on the internet are likely
using scammed money to build a better site, with more whistles and bells
and with girls that all have that Hollywood look. They often employ a technique
called the TOP 100 list or Most Popular list to drive clients to their PDers. So the
first tip is simple--go with the smaller agency that has fewer girls and has pics
of girls that are are non-professional. And an agency that will allow you to have
the girls phone # and email address.
TIP # 2: Avoid the girls listed at the top of the list. Sure, they look the hottest.
But many of these girls play a special role for the agency.
Guys write to them, or at least they think they are. The agency makes big bucks,
sometimes $5 per letter, from you and you write her frequently.
But in reality,the girl is a PD whom you will only see if you make the trip
to the FSU to meet her.
In the meantime, your letters go to a terp that handles ALL of her
letters. So in all probability, you are writing a surrogate!
PD's won't give you their mobile or home number or private
email, but hide behind agency rules that "protect" them.
TIP # 3: Look at your picture. Look at her picture. She is a "10." And she is
"into you?" LOL
She says she loves you, yet has not met you?
Are you an 8, 9 or 10? If not, she is likely a PD. A beautiful girl
can land an equally attractive, and affluent man. She will not go too far down
the ranking for you.
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HOW TO DETECT IF THE GIRL IS A PD WHEN YOU GET THERE
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The scam reaches defcon 2 when you buy a "trip" from
the agency to visit the girl you have been writing. Most trips, like the one sold
by Confidential Connections in Ukraine, cost the guy from $1000 to $3,300 for the week and includes airport pickup, hotel, terp and unlimited meetings with your chosen girl (the PD).
Only now does the girl does become directly involved with your "case." She is briefed by the agency on the things you have "talked about" together
and about you as a person. She'll meet you at the airport and
will look like a million dollars. In all likelihood she is married to
a local guy, so now she is operating as an actress. She does this frequently, so she is very good at holding your hand, flirting with you,
gazing into your eyes as you make the
drive from the airport to the hotel.
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TIP # 1: You have written this girl for months. You have sent her flowers
and other gifts.
She has told you in emails that she loves you. You expect her to sleep with you and even paid for her breakfast in your package.
But she goes home early the first night, say 9 p.m., and pecks you on the cheek. She tells you she will see you at noon, but will show up at 1:30 or so. You spend the night thinking of her and are all alone most of the next day. Finally, she shows up and you have lunch and she takes you to see a tourist attraction. She begs off at 8 with a headache. The routine
is followed all week long, and you are miserable and kick yourself for not having a backup plan. But she is so pretty and she showed such affection for you in your letters, so you stay the course. But it does not get better...
TIP # 2: She takes you shopping. You buy her jewelry and clothes to try to win her over. Yes, you get your first real kiss! But it cost you
several hundred more dollars. PDs make
their money off such shopping trips. Many have an "arrangement" with the store whereas they return your gifts after you leave for money.
TIP # 3: You have not made love to her. She has come to your hotel room and you have made out with her. But she stops you before you can go all the way with her by telling you that she is a good girl. Interesting....she seems to "be into" you but she will not make
love to you. It's the fifth day of your seven day trip,
and you know that most FSU girls will
make love to you about this time if they truly are crazy about you and see a future with you.
Warning: PDs will only kiss you. One step more than prostitutes. But no further. You are business to them, NOT a man they are attracted to.
TIP # 4: She takes you to look at engagement rings,
even thought engagement is not a FSU
concept. You notice that the rings are more expensive than in the US.
You know that these
girls only make about $250-$300 a month. How can rings cost $3000? They don't-- it's a special price, just for you. :-)
TIP # 4: She keeps making excuses why you can't meet her family. Her mom is out of town and her dad does not like Americans. Or her father is very ill. The list is endless, but the bottom line is that you don't meet her family. his is a good sign that she is a PD.
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As I said, I did this agency gig with top 10 girls twice. I even made a second trip back to meet one of the girls, who when to defcon 1 with me by giving me her home #. She kept trying to route her around the agency for emails, but she refused. She knew who her long term
source of income was-- the agency. Finally, I got smart and had a Private Eye investage her.
Turns out she was married!
Just now, I took a look at her old agency. She is still the # 1 out of 1000 girls there, and is HOT as ever.
The other girl I did an agency visit with was a ritual stranger to me, even though we had exchanged over 100 letters in 4 months. But my terp seemed to know everything about me... hmmm....
This time I did have backups, and I dumped this beauty after the first day, and just had fun dating hot girls from the agency all week. Later on, a friend of mine married a girl from the agency.
She told him this girl had never written a single letter and was getting married to a UA man.
But she was glad to spend a week with an American stranger who thought she loved her, because the gifts were really nice.
So there you have it: 3 tips for not getting involved with PDs in the first place,
and 5 tips to help you
confirm she is a PD in case you do make the trip to meet her.
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What does it mean?
***If you are an experiences traveler, don't use an agency. If not, use a smaller and honest agency. And don't go for ONE GIRL but write to lots of agency girls.
***Don't write for months, a real girl will want to find our more about you quickly. Go within a month of writing her.
***Don't bother with a top ranked girl. Most of the girls in the FSU are beautiful, so drop down the list a bit and you'll be more successful.
Good luck! As for me, I found my girl after 2 years of searching. And guess what?
She is not only beautiful, but honest and loving as well.
