Time from meet to propose

[IAmZon]

Never been in an environment where the objective of "Marriage" was so close to the initial, hello. 

When you think about it, it is very unusual.

I am of the opinion that a good and lasting marriage made without total compromise takes some time.  I think the following timeframe is fast:
1 month; friends
2 months couples
3 - 4 months serious, planning proposal and all of life what ifs - deep compatibility?
Proposal of Marriage 6; to 1 year from day of first meeting
Wedding several months thereafter.

I know all people are unique.  But does this general timeframe "fit" with what you experienced guys have seen?  Is it too delayed for this special environment?

Always appreciate your time and input.

[Gator]

You have identified a key problem with this long distance romancing.

Think about it, would you ask a woman in America to marry you after spending 7-21 days together?  Now compound that with cultural and language differences.  And add in a dose of "questionable motivations."

There is the 90-day K-1 period that some use as a trial.  However, I feel one should know the answer before she gets on a plane and changes her life and your life.  Besides, the new IMBRA law gives you only two K-1s.

One needs to know his woman, and it takes longer with a RW than with an AW.  So I would say at least 4-10 meetings together, each lasting 7-14 days.  And at least two disagreements - real conflicts about values. The greater the difference in age and other physical qualities, the more time is needed (hence, the 10 meetings).

BTW, phone calls during periods of separation do help, but they pale in comparison to living together.

[Michelangelo]

I think you are putting the cart before the horse, Riv.  Seems to me you just need to date and have fun with several FSU girls.  The engagement comes later, and should not be pushed or forced.

But you are wise in knowing it's not something that should happen quickly.

Gator is correct that when you do get serious, have at least 4 or more meetings with her before you ask her to marry you.  And yes, show you can recover from fights.

[PeeWee]

I think you are putting the cart before the horse, Riv.  Seems to me you just need to date and have fun with several FSU girls.  The engagement comes later, and should not be pushed or forced.

But you are wise in knowing it's not something that should happen quickly.

Gator is correct that when you do get serious, have at least 4 or more meetings with her before you ask her to marry you.  And yes, show you can recover from fights.

During the WWII, Korean War, and Vietnam War, lots of men met women, be they German, Japanese, Korean, or Viet while serving in those countries...during wartime. Many married and brought those brides back to the US. I wonder how much more time those lads had to get to know those women, after all they were busy fighting the war and had little time for socializing.

Peewee

[Jet]

Never been in an environment where the objective of "Marriage" was so close to the initial, hello. 

Dunno man,
My parents (AM/AW) met when Dad was 17 and Mom was 14. They spent 1 week together (with parents present) before she went back to NYC and he shipped out to the Navy.
10 years later Mom bumped into his Mother totally by chance and said "Hey if Joe ever gets into the city, have him give me a call".
Two weeks later he showed up, they were engaged 4 weeks after that and married 4 1/2 months later - only waiting because of the Catholic Holy season.

My Dad turned 70 this summer, and they are still together, more importantly, they're still HAPPY! They'll be down to spend thanksgiving with us this year.

Timeframes usually aren't "general" in matters such as these...

[PeeWee]

Dunno man,
My parents (AM/AW) met when Dad was 17 and Mom was 14. They spent 1 week together (with parents present) before she went back to NYC and he shipped out to the Navy.
10 years later Mom bumped into his Mother totally by chance and said "Hey if Joe ever gets into the city, have him give me a call".
Two weeks later he showed up, they were engaged 4 weeks after that and married 4 1/2 months later - only waiting because of the Catholic Holy season.

My Dad turned 70 this summer, and they are still together, more importantly, they're still HAPPY! They'll be down to spend thanksgiving with us this year.

Timeframes usually aren't "general" in matters such as these...

I suspect that my point was the same as yours, Jet. I think that one has to have a gut feeling for when the time is right. I knew my wife of 10 years for less than 6 months before we were married. Only movie romances happen in less than 2 hours time but to try to time frame any meeting to marriage relationship might just be impossible to do.

Peewee