I need some advice from more experienced men and women to this, please?

[davidgindenver]

If anyone has the time and desire to advise me on finding the wife to be please take a look at who I am and email me at davidgindenver@yahoo.com, please? I am very much excited but want to be cautious because I am very naive and trusting. Thanks in advance for anyone and everyone's help.  

Sincerely, David Gonzalez in Denver Colorado
 

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I am a:Male aged 52
Seeking a: Female
Postal:80123, Littleton, CO
Ethnicity:I'm White/Caucasian
Looks:Above average looks
Physique:Toned, I keep fit
Smoking:I do not smoke, but I don't mind if others smoke
Birthday:24 April

 

 
My photo is posted on my website http://www.investtoday.info, on the phone doing real estate deals!! I am an 8 out of 10. I am a very busy realtor in Denver that is looking for s long term relationship (friends first , of course). I am very athletic and in pretty good shape. I work out at Ballys gym 3 times a week. I am always happy, positive and looking at the glass as half full! I need someone in my life to make me whole! I am a bigtime GIVER so be ready to recieve and give back. I would like to meet someone that is kind of just like me in many ways but different than me when it comes to balancing out some of my ways. This special woman will be attractive on the inside and outside, totally extroverted, athletic, great with kids but dont let that scare you off (I will explain later), creative, professional worker or artistic, and easy going and flexible.......and good with KEEPING MY MONEY. Now........that is asking for a lot but I actually want to find someone in the next 18 months to become friends first and then lovers of course and then if all goes well in the relationship...........my goal would be to have a very long term relationship (marriage comes to mind for me when I say long term). I know she is out there and I am pretty excited about finding that special soulmate/lover/friend/ and lifetime companion. Now the hard part..........FINDING HER!! I am very open minded and extremely easy to get along with. Please do not get the impression that I am all about just money........but it is hard to enjoy the next 50 years without it. I am looking for an attractive, fun loving woman that loves kids. I have been divorced since 1995 (same year I left EDS, Ross Perot's company) and I have twins that are 15 as of Dec 7th (Brittany and Brandon) and a 19 yr old (Dion). Dion is very mature and almost ready to "fly the nest" for college but the twins are 4 years away from making my ex-wife (Diane) an empty nester. My three beautiful children are a lot of fun to "hang" with and very mature. I promise you that they would not be a problem to anyone that I meet. They live with their mother in Littleton but I can get them anytime that I want them and my three children are so very, very important to me. I would prefer a woman that is athletically inclined to work out or enjoy some different sports but as long as she is in shape now and intends to stay in shape, that is okay with me. I (not her unless she wants to) would like to be in the gym at least 3 times a week but I am open to enjoying different athletic activities with her. Now as far as money goes, I plan on making $150,000 or more annually for the next few years in order to make sure my three kids go to a good college and also be able to afford a comfortable lifestyle. Money is not the answer to all things but it sure allows one to live a good life style and help others that are close to you. I would prefer a woman that is good with finances and budgets because I am not. It is not how much money you make......it is how much you KEEP!! I plan on generating a lot of money over the next few years and it would make me happy to know that that special woman could help take care of the money! I am a very open and honest person and I am always very positive about "EVERYTHING". I always consider the glass half full and not half empty. You only live once and I enjoy working hard and playing hard so from me to you .............................. ..THANK YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING and I would love to hear from you when you have time to chat. You can email me here at MM and I will respond quickly! Please be open minded and respond to my profile with any and all questions. I am not shy at all. All questions are fair game. I am not shy about meeting you if all goes well with your due diligence regarding myself. Thanks for possibly being the special woman I am searching for.

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Where were you born? What is your ethnic origin or ancestry? List some of the places you have lived or traveled?
I was born in Hot Springs, Arkansas and lived in Arkansas until after 2 years of college. Then I moved to Dallas, Texas for 15 years and then Denver, Colorado since 1985. I have spent a year in LA (Redondo Beach) doing Y2K programming and 6 months in St Louis, Mo.... doing Y2K, 8 months in Springfield, Ma. doing Y2K and one year for a dot.com opportunity that never got funded (not good) in NYC/NJ. I also spent 6 months in Hartford CT (programming) and another year in NJ within the entertainment world (launching a new artist).

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What type of work do (did) you do? How long have you been (were you) in that line of work? Do (did) you enjoy it?
I did the COBOL/DB2 mainframe programming from 1977 to August 2002 but I got burned out at doing the COBOL/DB mainframe programming gig. I did residential real estate sales in Denver from 1985 to 1995 while I was also programming and I fell in love with the SALES and going beyond peoples expectations to make them completely happy and satisfied. I currently am a super busy Realtor/Broker in the Denver metro area doing residential sales, commercial sales, and development projects.


I  hope this gives a pretty good picture of what I am all about because I am dead serious about finding the right soul-mate. I am not shy and I do not read people very well.......so for me, I would like someone that enjoys communicating about anything and everything. Please do not be shy with me. I am an "out of the box" thinker and would love to explore "new places and things" with you. Thanks for taking the time to get to know me some and I look forward to hearing from you. Please be happy, healthy and prosperous. Again.....please email me here at MM and I will respond quickly ....



edit Self-Description
Sign: Taurus
Age: 51 - 55
Weight: 171 lbs - 180 lbs ( 78 Kg - 82 Kg)
Height: 5'9" - 5'10" (174 cm - 178 cm)
Physique: Toned, I keep fit
Looks: Above average looks
Body Art: No, I do not have any body art
Hair Color: Salt and Pepper
Hair Style: Medium curly / wavy hair
Eye Color: Deep Blue eyes
Ethnicity: I'm White / Caucasian
Annual Income: $150,001 - $200,000 US
Occupation: Sales / Marketing
Education: Some college
Where do you live: Littleton
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Drinking: I drink socially
Smoking: I do not smoke, but I don't mind if others smoke
Religious: Just "Christian"
Religion and Life: I consider myself a spiritual person
Political Inclination: Liberal on global and conservative on domestic issues
edit Relationships
Looking for Ethnicity: It doesn't matter
Relationship Status: Divorced
Kids: I have children, but they live somewhere else
Sexual Experience: I'm not homosexual, but it doesn't offend me
Age Important: Age is not important to me
Where to Meet: Anywhere is fine with me
Travel to Meet: I'd travel anywhere to meet my match
What brought you here: Hoping to start a long term relationship

[BC]

Well... you asked for advice..

First trash this profile and start fresh from the head instead of the pocketbook.  Like your website it's all flash up front with little or nothing useful behind it.

Never mention money
Never mention business
Never mention ex

Be humble, honest and your real self.

but what do I know... I never wrote a profile...

I'm sure the experts round here can advise you better.

[Elen]

edit Self-Description
Sign: Taurus
Age: 51 - 55                 I am a:Male aged 52

Weight: 171 lbs - 180 lbs ( 78 Kg - 82 Kg)
Height: 5'9" - 5'10" (174 cm - 178 cm)


I thought such things had defined values:?

What would stop me to write to a man with such profile:???

You gave out very fine and detail description about you three beautiful kids. But after that paragraph I expected to hear something your thoughts about woman's children. I didn't understand what ages should your woman be but either she already had her own kids and would not mind to know how you're going to take care about them or (if she's young enough) she most probably would want to have them. You said nothing but only made a "smooth" transfer to athletic and some different sports .

It would be better to make clear such subject as her children right after your statement "my three children are so very, very important to me"

[wxman]

I also agree and would ditch how much money you make. I would assume that most important thing to you is your 3 children and being a good father. Your profile places them in the middle of everything and not at the front. Be proud of being a good father with 3 wonderful children. It's ok to talk about what you do for a living, especially since you enjoy what you do. Although sometimes it feels like profiles are written  like a resume, do not write it like one. Be positive, don't talk about your ex, and don't write a book. Once you start communicating with someone, you will be able to share all details of your life. You sound like a good guy, you care about your family and  you know what your priorities are in life. Just be yourself, and you will be fine.    

[davidgindenver]

Thank you for your advice and I will re-write this week. Tell me about you if you have time and the desire to tell me more about  you?

 

thanks

 

david in denver colorado

[Elen]

I am a very open and honest person and I am always very positive about  about "EVERYTHING".".

[/b]

That "EVERYTHING" scares me (espesially in combination with that I'm not homosexual, but it doesn't offend me)

[Bruno]

Elen,

This is the copy of a form filled with multiple choise... like you can find on several dating site...

[Elen]

This is the copy of a form filled with multiple choise... like you can find on several dating site...

Odd form I'd say And I'm not a habitue' of dating site to know that:? (any way we in Russia are not such progressive with homosexuality for man would mention it in his introduction)

[jb]

david;

I've never written a profile in my life so I'm not speaking from experience, but I think you are getting excellent advice here about the need to do a re-write.

I think, (IMHO), that to dwell on your kids is not such a hot idea.

and I have twins that are 15 as of Dec 7th (Brittany and Brandon) and a 19 yr old (Dion). Dion is very mature and almost ready to "fly the nest" for college but the twins are 4 years away from making my ex-wife (Diane) an empty nester.

You do realize don't you, that all of the kids are already, technically "out of the nest" as far as you are concerned, and in the overall scheme of things, 4 years is a mere blink of the eye.  And by the time you've invested the required time in finding a new bride, courting, wooing,  going through the USBCIS visa process, actually getting married, etc., those 4 years will likely be whittled down to about 2 years, or so.  At this juncture, you are not looking for "the complete step-mother" to help you raise your kids.  Therefore I'd merely mention in the profile that you have kids who don't live with you.  Those long, drawn out explainations will happen in the course of time after you've found someone you are interested in. Don't list these things up front as a block of problems that a new woman in your life may assume will become a responsibility for her to shoulder.

Further, I know what living in Littleton, Colorado means, but I seriously doubt many woman from the FSU has ever heard of the place, they know about Beverly Hills, but not about Littleton.  I'd just say that you reside near Denver, CO.

Telling anyone about your 150+K annual earnings is a bad idea, it will attract the worst kind of female to your profile.  There's sharks in those waters you are about to go swimming in.  Just mention that you are able to afford to support a wife and family, leave the numbers out of it completely.  Besides, if you are paying child support on three kids in Littleton,Colorado, you really don't get to keep a lot of that 150K anyway, I may be wrong, I'm just guessing, but you are prolly living on about 50-60K, or less, net, right?  In Littleton, that's not a lot of money.

As a 52 y.o. guy, you will prolly wind up with a gal in her mid-thirties, or thereabouts.  She will also prolly have a kid of her own to worry about, he/she will prolly be 10-15 by the time they would arrive.  Be realistic about your own ability to help raise another child.  Is this something you are comfortable with?  Are you able to think about sending another kid to college when you are much older and thinking about retirement?  The impact of taking on another minor child at this point in your life is something to consider.

If you can manage to come across as sincere in your profile, as you did here in your posting, you will have no problem attracting a nice woman.  Just keep your expectations real, don't over sell yourself, you'll be able to find a nice woman to marry.  

[Krasotka]

This is a very old post . The man who started this thread - his website no longer works.

But. Littleton in Colorado is quite well known to Russian speaking people who are interested in USA.

Many people from my country are living there. We have Russian shops and newspapers.

I will live in this area. Above is reason why.

[neo]

lols.