Elena Garrett at Russian-Detective

[wiz]

Wiz, 
You should have said goodbye.  I know from your long “Dilemma” story that you are really attracted to this woman, yet her planning to meet someone else is really bad and frankly it fits everything else you have said in your roller coaster ride.   Two people happy with each other do not meet other people.   Wiz, if you like turmoil and melodrama, you should be very happy.  However, some of us appreciate spending our energy and emotion in more productive ways with women who love us unconditionally for what we are, women who are happy just to be with us, and women who value trust. 

Gator

Obviously anyone who is not aware of the full details of my relationship with Sofia would have come to the same conclusion, “You should have said goodbye”.

Wanted and planning to meet another man I do not find it any different from our back up plans we have talked here many times when visiting the FSU. Don’t all of us looking to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence?

My relationship with Sofia has not progressed as much as I would like because of 2 major reasons.

While I was in Russia Sofia and me we were receiving daily SMS messages from my EX girlfriend. My ex got hold of Sofia’s mobile number (don't ask me how... my fault not to advise the neighbours about my split with my ex) and was feeding her with lies about me and her thus creating many doubts in Sofia’s mind about my sincerity and honesty. I have finished my 23 years relationship with my ex 3 years ago but we were still on friendly terms with her until she discovered my relationship with Sofia, when we were in Kos. I can not do anything to stop my ex doing that and the only way to make Sofia to trust me is for her to come and live in my house for sometime. Changing telephone number is not an easy option for Sofia.

My second problem is her cousin. Sofia is aware that I dislike her cousin in UK because of the way she spoke to me about Sofia, looking down the poor relative from Sterlitamak, using Sofia for her own benefit….. that she must protect!

The fact is that Sofia despite all that she has the option to stay with her cousin but she still insists to come and stay with me, because of course she wants to find out if she is wrong about my ex or not. That is the meaning of my comment in “Dilemma” that is our last chance and I must win this game!

I think I happen to be unlucky to have to deal with these two large problems at the beginning of our relationship. Sofia has told me several times that she does not care about me been a poor pensioner and my bond with her son makes her very happy. Everything else between me and Sofia is fine and we can’t keep our hands of each other when we are together!

I am not a quitter and I think I am right to give our relationship one more chance over Christmas.

[Bruno]

Wanted and planning to meet another man I do not find it any different from our back up plans we have talked here many times when visiting the FSU. Don’t all of us looking to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence?

Wiz, when people here speak about "back up plans", it is about the first meeting... normally, after the first meeting, both know if you are in or out...

You have already some "flight" hours with your girl and both of you need to know if it is for a serious relationship or game...

Maybe with time, after the marriage, you will agree that she have a back-up men... Why not? So much men have a official wife and continue to "date and try" other women on the side !!!

I have make the mistake to forgive unfaithfull act from my ex russian wife between the commitment and the marriage... nothing have change after the marriage, it have become more bad... like a idiot, i have forgive each time... until my heart have know problem ( medical one ) due to the stress... You are not so young and it is certainly not at your age that you need to start difficult relationship... you need somethig strong and stable...

Of course, you make what you wish... it is your own life... but be carefull my friend...

[wiz]

Wiz, when people here speak about "back up plans", it is about the first meeting... normally, after the first meeting, both know if you are in or out...

I disagree with you because you don't know from the first meeting if you are in or out. Only after several meetings you start to see that and of course make your choice for a more committed relationship. The board is full of stories of people who have many meetings with different women at the same time and cannot decide which is the right one for them.

You have already some "flight" hours with your girl and both of you need to know if it is for a serious relationship or game...

Sorry but I thought I gave a good explanation regarding the additional difficulties we have to endure and that is not a small problem in a long distance relationship. I was just told by Sofia that my ex send her a message telling her not to come to UK because I am a liar and I am planning to cancel her ticket. How do you counter the worry and doubts in Sofia's head? Do you think I can call the police or take a court injunction against my ex? My ex has been doing it since we were in KOS, nearly 3 months ago! I said before that changing the telephone numbers is not an easy option for Sofia. The only solution I have is to have Sofia here for Christmas and then she can see that I am not having a relationship with my ex.

Maybe with time, after the marriage, you will agree that she have a back-up men... Why not? So much men have a official wife and continue to "date and try" other women on the side !!!

I may forgave her now, the very early stage in our relationship for her naivety but that does not mean that she can do it again. I think my position is clear in this matter.

I have make the mistake to forgive unfaithfull act from my ex russian wife between the commitment and the marriage... nothing have change after the marriage, it have become more bad... like a idiot, i have forgive each time... until my heart have know problem ( medical one ) due to the stress... You are not so young and it is certainly not at your age that you need to start difficult relationship... you need somethig strong and stable...

Sofia is not commited 100% in our relationship because of the special circumstances and I don't think she has been unfaithfull by writing a few e-mails and nothing more.
Can you ever trust a woman 100% or she can trust you completely for that matter? Nobody knows what the future brings and it could be me who may look for greener pastures in the future. I am sorry but we can not be sure how we will act in a few years time.

Of course, you make what you wish... it is your own life... but be carefull my friend...

Don't worry Bruno and I am extremely careful on the way I am handling this relationship, under the circumstances. Of course I want to make it to work but I will not cry over spilled milk either.

[franklloyd]

My experience with Elena Garrett was 100% honest and professional.

Maxx referred me to Elena when I suspected that my fiancee was cheating after I returned home from my third lengthy visit with her, about 4 months into our engagement and K-1 process three years ago. Elena needed 2 weeks to complete a previous investigation and move her primary investigator 1500 miles into position. During that delay Elena was able to do background investigative work on my fiancee. Irrefutable photographic and audiotape evidence of her multiple infidelities and dishonest motives was obtained during a week of surveillance. The whole thing was wrapped up to my satisfaction in a month. I got my engagement ring back for a very minor ransom.

I am now happily married to a woman with whom I became friendly during my visits to that city. Her history and motives came up clean in a background check.

Elena's charges including all expenses were $1960. The cost of avoiding a Maxx-style disaster? Priceless!

I highly recommend Elena Garett and www.russian-detective.com.

Franklloyd

[Maxx2]

Frank, I would gladly pay $100,000 to turn the clock back as far as my actions in my fiasco. Avoiding a disaster like mine is priceless indeed. Also Elena Garratt's investigation gave you the peace of mind that you did the right thing by ending your engagement. I talked with a man that used Russian-Detective and it saved him from DV charges and an expensive divorce. He was able to have his marriage annulled due to the evidence they dug up. Seems she neglected listing her previous husband on her USCIS G-325a biographical document and for good reason. She hadn't divorced him...

Maxx

[IAmZon]

Gator,

I virtually ALWAYS agree with you.  Infact it is getting to the point, where if I don't, I question myself:) 

However, it occurs to me that there is a difference BETWEEN meeting and introduction AND learning a woman. This agency/internet method for meeting a lady from far way comes with structural flaws.  As an adult and observer of human nature, I cannot allow myself to TRUST a person until my familiarity with that person rises to a certain threshold.  Once that threshold is met, then I accept your norms obviously, without hesitation.

But in selecting who is real, and who I could invest my time and emotions in ... and  doing this in a "trip / vacation" where the environment is clearly suspect, then I can understand anyone doing anything to justify their SECOND decision to go forward. (Tug the rope hard to make sure it is strong)  After that ... after the point in which a man accepts a woman as real, I affirm everything you have said.

I am finding that in all matters related to RW (or more precisely, using agencies/ Internet to meet RW with serious intentions), I am adopting NOT an either/or philosophy; but a both/all philosophy.