Cultural Differences in Sexuality

[LEGAL]

Very simple... men have a limited quantity of blood... when we are under the influence of lust, what is between our legs begin grow... this ask a lot of blood... body compensate by allowing lower quantity of blood to the brain and we are not more able to think clearly...

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Lust is biological instinct. If you don't control your lust you will become sexual dissolute person.

Whore is a woman who can't control her lust - sexual dissolute woman.

There is no any love where sexual dissoluteness is.

Sexual dissoluteness also is  homosexuality, zoosexuality and pedophilia - uncontrolled lust damages mind

... again the lust who make us loose our mind...

prostitute is a business woman  

Olga.

[LEGAL]

Wayne B  I see you were also at bike week in Daytona taking photos last week 


LEGAL

[Jet]

Lust is biological instinct. If you don't control your lust you will become sexual dissolute person.

Whore is a woman who can't control her lust - sexual dissolute woman.

There is no any love where sexual dissoluteness is.

Sexual dissoluteness also is  homosexuality, zoosexuality and pedophilia - uncontrolled lust damages mind

prostitute is a business woman 

You are correct that dissolute means lacking moral restraint, or indiscipline with regard to sensuous pleasures, but the word "whore" always denotes a person who compromises their principles for personal gain. Usually it refers to a prostitute, but not always, and can be male or female. Therefore the terms are not interchangeable. A whore could be sexually dissolute (not always, or even often). A dissolute woman is rarely a whore, but more likely a slut.

[IAmZon]

Got my hands full right now in the good ole USA, Gator.  Thus the question.

I have become involved with a young woman from the FSU who lives in the US.  Nothing serious - HOPEFULLY.

And I have seen a difference in sexual norms and mores with her, her friends, her community.  I have spend much time in their company, not little.  It is almost like there are different channels? 
This sex is for fun
This sex is for challenge
This sex is for love

Each involves a differend mode, intention, and behavior.  Understand that I observing a social group - not just one individual.  Certainly, there is much more aggressive and overt flirtation at every age!  Can anyone confirm this?  Or is this a unique biome I have found?

There is a very open and constant feature of sexuality and flirtation. That is for sure.  Again, that does not mean that there is a low class aspect to this as applied to a group.  Everyone behaves entirely appropriate - almost formal.  But after spending much time  ....  I want to yell, "Hey who around here has not #$*& Nadia; Gordo's wife?"  I don't get the sense many hands would raise.  I don't get the sense that many would object - maybe even Gordo?

Gator, planning another extended trip to Central America in May.  Certainly planning to go to the FSU in Summer ... but even then, it is just for a look see, a la I/O.  I don't intend to do much forward planning to find "the one".  whatever "fear of commitment KUNA had; he has passed it on to me.  I think I will wear it for a year or two.  It's all good.

[El Rock]

prostitute is a business woman 

Olga.

Care to expand on this ???

[Lily]

 
1.          The FSUW I met were more serious than AW about sex being an expression of affection  (viz, were not as playful as many AW). 
2.           FSUW are more orgasmic naturally (without toys) than AW. 

 

Agree especially with point 1.
As a Russian woman I could tell that our women are naturally shy and don't expose their sexuality in public. This is a very intimate thing that should be between lovers only. Personally I would feel very incomfortable discussing sex even with my girlfriends. Gator is very true on the toys, yes.

However I could notice that my female colleagues from the West often have no problem touching on this subject...

From the post of rivardco I understand that he notices some demonstrative sexual behavior among Russian immigrants in their early 20x and wonders whether it is typical. Well, the young people may be on the extremes in behaviour..but I tend to believe that this could be just their reaction on the luck of sexual expression at home.

Generally I think that the sexual behaviour comes from family, partially it is in human genes, and it should be uneasy for an adult person to change it.

and of course Russia is huge and people's attitudes do vary a lot.

[Wist]

I'll share a pleasant revelation I had some years ago in Ukraine thanks to some friends living there, one of them an American. It took them awhile to convince me that women there actually do appreciate a [respectful] compliment on their appearance and attractiveness without being offended - a rare concept in my life experience with AW. Eventually I put it to the test, and so it may seem a small thing to others here but for me, just the simple act and nothing more, of complimenting an attractive woman and seeing her smile was a genuine pleasure! Often it is the simple thing such as that makes life worth living.

[wiz]

I'll share a pleasant revelation I had some years ago in Ukraine thanks to some friends living there, one of them an American. It took them awhile to convince me that women there actually do appreciate a [respectful] compliment on their appearance and attractiveness without being offended - a rare concept in my life experience with AW. Eventually I put it to the test, and so it may seem a small thing to others here but for me, just the simple act and nothing more, of complimenting an attractive woman and seeing her smile was a genuine pleasure! Often it is the simple thing such as that makes life worth living.

I would mot dare to that in public in UK. She will probably call the police and accuse me of sexual harassment.......and the same applies at the office. You can not say to any woman you look nice because of the fear to be accused of sexual harassment. In Ukraine no problem. Actually they do appreciate it and smile back to you:

[IAmZon]

I have seen enough from this dialogue to presume that Russian may be slightly different from Ukraine, but both are very different from the other FSU nations that border Europe - certainly the immigrant community I have found made up largely of Romanian and Serbians. There seems to be characteristics in this group that GENERALLY are aligned with other Latin contries.

I have noticed that RW and Russian environments are more formal and require almost rigid civilities.  Being colorful, or flamboyant in social setting is a plus in the Western settings ... seems to be unappreciated in Russian. Right? 

(I intend to be quite so as not to make an ass of myself:)

[Gator]

Being colorful, or flamboyant in social setting is a plus in the Western settings ... seems to be unappreciated in Russian. Right?

 

RW think many AM are silly. 

[viking]

edited for personal reasons

[ScottinCrimea]

This is a tough topic for me to address because I prefer to keep sexual matters between my wife and myself strictly personal.  I could comment on a lot of what has been said here, but I'm forced to refrain.  All I can do is talk in generalities from what I have observed in Ukrainian women.  I have to agree with one poster who said basically that FSU women are more able to separate sex and love.  In this way they are more like AM.  Of course there is the sex that involves love, but there is also sex for other purposes, such as because they feel they need it, because they feel it is their duty as a wife, or because they expect something in return for it (Not talking about prostitutes here).  As a general rule, AW give sex because they are hoping for love in return.  They have been indoctrinated with the idea that sex without love is evil. FSU women don't necessarily have that expectation or feel that they need to be in love to have sex.

[Nat]

I have to agree with one poster who said basically that FSU women are more able to separate sex and love.  In this way they are more like AM.  Of course there is the sex that involves love, but there is also sex for other purposes, such as because they feel they need it, because they feel it is their duty as a wife, or because they expect something in return for it (Not talking about prostitutes here).  As a general rule, AW give sex because they are hoping for love in return.  They have been indoctrinated with the idea that sex without love is evil. FSU women don't necessarily have that expectation or feel that they need to be in love to have sex.

Strange... I mean, I believe you’ve met such women and are telling the truth here, but now I’m thinking about all my female friends... And I’m sure that most of them wouldn’t have sex without being in love or without expecting to have serious relationship. May be it’s because they all have university education, thought I don’t think it’s precisely education that influences this topic... I think self-respect and confidence matter here. And world outlook in general

[El Rock]

Please  , AW  are the worst at  having no emotional attachment  with sex.
I mean.  they learned it for us , the   sexual revolution ,  feminist , wanting to be equal  to men  .
Our media  , movies  and music breeds this kinda  thing.
America has very little   tradition  , unlike  else where in the world  .
FSU ,  does well   at  having a  deeper purpose   for sex.
But then , when things are rough  , going is tough  , sex   has other  reasons as in  food  , shelter   clothing  and here's where  the gal is doing for monetary  gains , all  people are  prostitutes  , in one way or another , men and women .

[Pike]

I have seen enough from this dialogue to presume that Russian may be slightly different from Ukraine,

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You are wrong here.  There is no difference between RW and UW.

[Pike]

Being colorful, or flamboyant in social setting is a plus in the Western settings ... seems to be unappreciated in Russian. Right?

RW think many AM are silly. 

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True, many FSU women are a bit surprised at playful behavior by AM.  However, most that I have met with grew to appreciate and enjoy my boyish silliness, provided it wasn't too overboard in public.

[Wayne B]

Strange... I mean, I believe you’ve met such women and are telling the truth here, but now I’m thinking about all my female friends... And I’m sure that most of them wouldn’t have sex without being in love or without expecting to have serious relationship. May be it’s because they all have university education, thought I don’t think it’s precisely education that influences this topic... I think self-respect and confidence matter here. And world outlook in general

   Nat, you are a good girl 'Respect' 

[Pike]

Strange... I mean, I believe you’ve met such women and are telling the truth here, but now I’m thinking about all my female friends... And I’m sure that most of them wouldn’t have sex without being in love or without expecting to have serious relationship. May be it’s because they all have university education, thought I don’t think it’s precisely education that influences this topic... I think self-respect and confidence matter here. And world outlook in general

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Nat, I have had the opposite experience that you are describing.  I have found that the more educated and sophisticated in general the woman is, the more quickly they will engage in casual sex.  Yes, as you say, such women are more confident, and this allows them to approach sexual encounters in a more mature way and in an equal partnership with the man.  They do not feel exploited because they desire pleasure themselves and know how to achieve it without the need to feel that it is going to lead to something more permanent.

The less educated and sophisticated women I have been with are always worrying about who is going to try to get in their panties and they don't seem to think of sexual encounters as something that they can enjoy just as much as the man.  Perhaps because they are less economically successful, they are always thinking that they should be able to get something more than just pleasure out of a relationship.

[Jet]

As a general rule, AW give sex because they are hoping for love in return. 

  hehehe

Also a general rule, AM give love because they are hoping for sex in return.

[BillyB]

Most men like to believe that they are the one; the only; the best.  Me too.

Yeah every man likes to think he's a fantastic lover and is better than average. Younger men tend to finish faster while older men are able to control their hormones and make love  longer. Some guys finish in minutes, others in hours. Some men give their woman multiple orgasms and some men don't give their woman any. Some men scratch their heads wondering why women don't seem sexually interested in them after the first time making love. Could be poor performance and would require a stud to bring out the best of a woman sexually. After you finish on her, does your RW eye's look at you with admiration while she says "thank you" and rubbing your chest and other parts? Do you end the session with scratch marks on your chest and back? Your performance could be gauged by your woman's reactions. Are you creative in bed? Are you flexible enough to be creative? Do you guide her based on the positions you want and do you know what to do when she wants you to mount her in certain ways? Or are you just plain clumsy and clueless? Don't be shy and timid in bed! If your woman enjoys touching you and gives your big "friend" a nickname, then you know she's really into you or at least your big "friend".

Rivcardo, if a man performs well, most all women from any country will be sexually receptive to the guy after the first experience. If he doesn't perform well..... it's going to be a short relationship or a physically unsatisfying  marriage. I don't know what all answers you're looking for in this thread but I thought I'd be bolder than the previous posters and address your opening line because a lot of men do question themselves on performance and wonder if it's good for the woman. Unless a man is a selfish lover, he should care about pleasing his woman in bed.

[SANDRO43]

BillyB, I think there is an even more basic question than those you listed, which I learned from a personal experience many, many years ago in Caracas (of all places ) :

Are you trying to satisfy yourself only, or her as well ?

which involves really liking the other person.

[El Rock]

I may be wrong , BUT , I believe that Russian women are much more emotional  and in your face  , pushy  , aggressive .
I have noticed that Ukrainian  women  are more laid back , reserved .
The RW I have met online  & talked to via the phone were too  aggressive   .
The Ukraine women  I have met the same  way  were not  .
I notice a big difference  .

Am I wrong ?

[KenC]

Am I wrong ?

Usually

[El Rock]

Usually

Well , OK then

[KenC]