The real price of marrying a RW?

[ConnerVT]

Yep, BC is very right. I was told last week we are going to buy a new house.... I was not asked, I was told~!

She then proceeded to start shopping Realtors and properties in neighborhoods where she wanted to live. ON HER OWN~! These gals are tigers when they want to be.

ROTFLMAO!

Sounds like what's happening to me, except the new house I'm buying is the one I live in, just being rebuilt from the inside out! 

While my wife continues her trip in Russia, I must return home after a few weeks, go back to work, and completely remodel our kitchen.  Of course, if I have any spare time on my hands, I can complete the painting of the living/dining room, and begin to put the new flooring in our son's room...

[wxman]

LOL JB! You also got the new house discussion! I was given a year and then we start to look for a different house!  That's fine with me, as I don't want to spend anymore on the current house. I have never met a woman that is happy with status quo, nor would I marry one who was. The relationship would be too boring!

[Turboguy]

Darn, she must have telepathic mind control over me.  I am not even married and she is not here yet and have the bathroom coming back together after being gutted to the joists, studs and rafters.    As soon as I get back from Russia the Kitchen is getting gutted.  

[Jet]

In this world of generalities and exceptions to every rule there are few absolutes. jb has again pointed out another absolute.

I can "second" that!!

[jb]

What I find amazing is how quickly a RW can adapt to living in a single family dwelling.  Remembering that all her life was spent living in fairly cramped flats sharing space with other family members.  They also are quick to compare the size and style of the house they are forced[/b] to live in with how other RWs in town are doing.  The fanciest town house or apartment will not suffice once she's had her own house and back yard.  Privacy is among the most prized features, the taller the fences, the better.

One of her UW accquaintances here lives in a very nice garden apartment, it has 2 BR, 2 baths, well designed floor plan, and nice patio. The apartment complex is professionally landscaped.  Yet all the RWs refer to her as "such a poor thing" because she doesn't have her own home.

Some of you still single guys are in for a rude awakening.

[jb]

Well,,,, made an offer on the new house today...

Playing the wait and see game right now, but the loan application was pre-approved so I don't think there will be a problem on that end, just waiting to see if the seller accepts the deal.

RW wife is a happy camper at the moment.

[jb]

yep, as I suspected, the offer was accepted....

Now I just have to figure out how to get all this stuff over to a new house.  Looking for cheap mover now.

You guys who don't have at least a one year relationship, you just don't know what you are getting into.

[Turboguy]

You guys who don't have at least a one year relationship, you just don't know what you are getting into.

Yes, JB, but no one can have a one year relationship without the first 51 weeks of the thing they don't know what they are getting into.   

I am sure many people if they knew what they were getting into would not get into it.  That is called 20-20 hindsight.  Others would plow right ahead and enjoy the learing experience, painful as it might be.

[jb]

Too true, TGuy.

Those 51 weeks will be spent living with a gamut of emotions from your RW ranging from ecstasies to frustrations, to downright dispair.  I wouldn't have believed how much even simply misunderstandings can affect their attitudes and behaviors.  It's like every problem is magnified X 10. And more than likely it be not be you that caused the problem.  i.e., Not understanding TV dialog, not understanding the clerk at the gorcery store, not knowing about credit cards, not understanding how to manage a checking account,,,I mean really stupid stuff that you take for granted can, and will, send them into a tailspin.  All the while, you are the whipping boy for everything wrong with America, this is the thing that will test your patience.  It took about a year before I stopped hearing how stupid America was.

On the financial side, just be prepared for how quickly a $100.00 bill can become "small money".

[Turboguy]

You know JB, I have been chasing Russian gals a long time.  There were a few times I thought I caught one, but it turned out to be a false alarm and it was better that it was.  

If all goes as planned the first of my 52 weeks should be about 4 months off.  I was a one week wonder I guess.   We got engaged after my first visit, but I have been trying to visit her every 6-8 weeks and to spend 1 to 2 weeks with her per visit.   By the time she boards the plane which hopefully will be August 2nd.   I will have spent right about 6 weeks with her, most of it 24 hours a day.   It is not enough to really know anyone, but a lifetime often isn't also.    I don't think you ever really know anyone, particularly when it is a man and a woman.

I have gotten to know her much more than the gals I had for serious prospects before.   I see the issues that are being talked about here already with her even though she is still there and we are still in the early stages. 

I think the best thing this forum does (and it does a lot of good things) is that it prepares someone for the real world that is having a FSU bride.   I think before finding this board, you all, and my gal I was probably very nieve about what my life would have been like with a FSU woman.   I think I am going into this prepared for and ready to deal with the issues you are talking about.   I am not so sure I would have been before and I think dealing with things when you know what you are going to be dealing with are always easier.

When you find some beautiful photo of a gal who would not give you the time of day in the USA.  You write her.  She writes back and thinks you are wonderful.  You go visit her.  She is more beautiful than her photo.   She is refined.   She is educated.  She is paying attention to you and making you feel important.  She is treating you like a man.  She is saying the words you always dreamed of hearing and she is so far nicer than any gal you ever met over here.    Under those circumstances it is easy to see why most guys would feel their life was going to be paradise on Earth.   I can see it is not.  I think if part of the K-1 process was that every applicant had to read every article on this forum relating to marriage that the divorce rate would go down a lot.  

[jb]

I think if part of the K-1 process was that every applicant had to read every article on this forum relating to marriage that the divorce rate would go down a lot.  

I doubt it, there are just too many slack jawed loosers in the game.  I had a rather long and detailed post about many of the men I've met in airport boarding lounges on my way to and from Russia, but I deleted it, nobody would believe it anyway.

Incidently, it is so bad I had to developed a good method of dealing with them,,, I pretend to be deaf.

[ConnerVT]

I had a rather long and detailed post about many of the men I've met in airport boarding lounges on my way to and from Russia, but I deleted it, nobody would believe it anyway.

Too bad, jb.  I'm sure it would of been a good read.  It would of been interesting to compare notes...

[Leslie]

Me pardonner monsieur. Qu'avez-vous dit ?

Je suis français et je ne parle pas d'anglais.

[Bruno]

Me pardonner monsieur. Qu'avez-vous dit ?

Je suis français et je ne parle pas d'anglais.

Correction :

Pardonnez moi monsieur. Qu'avez-vous dit ?

Je suis français et je ne parle pas l'anglais.

 

[jb]

Les,

That'll work...

[OhioGuyRob]

I think if part of the K-1 process was that every applicant had to read every article on this forum relating to marriage that the divorce rate would go down a lot.  

I doubt it, there are just too many slack jawed loosers in the game.  I had a rather long and detailed post about many of the men I've met in airport boarding lounges on my way to and from Russia, but I deleted it, nobody would believe it anyway.

Incidently, it is so bad I had to developed a good method of dealing with them,,, I pretend to be deaf.[/quote]

1. Most men behave like WUSSIES when it comes to
women and dating.

2. Women NEVER feel the powerful and magical
emotion called ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.

Worse yet most men dont even know what consititues being a wuss around a woman.

A Wussy is a guy who does whatever a woman
wants him to do, and doesn't even know if or when
a woman is testing him.

   A Wussy is a guy who accepts manipulative
behavior from women, and doesn't care if a woman
flakes out on him, takes advantage of him, or
acts overly dramatic around him.

   A Wussy is a guy who has no backbone, and caves
when challenged by a woman.

   A Wussy is a guy who feels that he needs to BUY
or PAY FOR a woman's attention and affection with
gifts, dinners, compliments, and other forms of
payment and flattery...because he can't imagine
that a woman would want to be with him just for
HIM.

   In short, a WUSSY is a submissive man who tries
to compensate for his lack of ability to attract
women by being overly accommodating and generous.

NEWS JUST IN: MOST MEN ACT LIKE WUSSIES!

Worse yet, there are a lot of men who believe a woman would only marry for love.  Sadly, this is not true.  Just like, women will go out with men for any number of reasons only 1 of which happens to be she likes you, a woman will also marry a man that she is not deeply in love with.  We have a woman on this very board who proudly[/i][/u] tells people that she did not marry for love!!!

[Turboguy]

1. Most men behave like WUSSIES when it comes to
women and dating.

2. Women NEVER feel the powerful and magical
emotion called ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.

Worse yet most men dont even know what consititues being a wuss around a woman.

A Wussy is a guy who does whatever a woman
wants him to do, and doesn't even know if or when
a woman is testing him.

A Wussy is a guy who accepts manipulative
behavior from women, and doesn't care if a woman
flakes out on him, takes advantage of him, or
acts overly dramatic around him.

A Wussy is a guy who has no backbone, and caves
when challenged by a woman.

A Wussy is a guy who feels that he needs to BUY
or PAY FOR a woman's attention and affection with
gifts, dinners, compliments, and other forms of
payment and flattery...because he can't imagine
that a woman would want to be with him just for
HIM.

In short, a WUSSY is a submissive man who tries
to compensate for his lack of ability to attract
women by being overly accommodating and generous.

NEWS JUST IN: MOST MEN ACT LIKE WUSSIES!

Worse yet, there are a lot of men who believe a woman would only marry for love. Sadly, this is not true. Just like, women will go out with men for any number of reasons only 1 of which happens to be she likes you, a woman will also marry a man that she is not deeply in love with. We have a woman on this very board who proudly[/i][/u] tells people that she did not marry for love!!!

Boy you got that right Rob,   Not only is the world full of Wussies who never get to find all all those wonderful things the guys who are not Wussies get to experience but there is even a worse side to it.

All us WUSSIES have to sit around after these gals get divorced and listen for hours and hours to the tales of what horrible jerks their non Wussie husbands were and how terrible the were treated and what a**holes their husbands were.

[OhioGuyRob]

All us WUSSIES have to sit around after these gals get divorced and listen for hours and hours to the tales of what horrible jerks their non Wussie husbands were and how terrible the were treated and what a**holes their husbands were.

That sound you just heard, was the point of the thread zipping over turboguy's head....

It is MINDNUMBING how some people take being a man with
backbone = being an a-hole.  

Tell  me exactly where did you see in any part of what was said, be a jerk, a**hole husband, boyfriend ect?

[jb]

Bruno,

I promise you the average slack jawed looser from Backwater, W. VA, would never know the difference.

Since there are no direct flights out of SVO2 to IAH, and I simply refuse to fly through NYC and do the airport juggle there, I always did the stopover either in Amsterdam, Frankfurt, or Paris.  There is generally a 5-6 hour layover between filghts.  For example, Amsterdam... There's a great cocktail lounge there once you get into the international terminal, pricey, but very nice. All those men who remembered seeing you board the flight in Moscow will suddenly become your buddy and want to join your table.

What a waste~!

[OhioGuyRob]

Blech  I HATE flying through Paris.  I have never, ever gotten though paris without a problem with my connecting flight....

Dont have that problem with Austria or Warsaw!

[Bruno]

JB, the correction was more for fun... but about French language, i was enough surprised during the trip in FSU... several woman have for second language ( school )the French language... it is more true for woman over 30 year old but some young woman speak French...

Same Galina have study some French at school but it was so long ago and it was so bad that i was not able to understand something... With Luda, it was almost perfect...

And about my bad english, i am happy when i am in FSU... several people called translator are more bad that me

[corncrowe]

For example, Amsterdam... There's a great cocktail lounge there once you get into the international terminal, pricey, but very nice.

I usually just stay over for a few days with friends in Holland.  Once I'm on the ground I can take a bus to Haarlem and spend time unwinding before the next flight to where I'm going.  I used to live in Holland, so I have many friends there who I will visit first.  I do plan on returning someday and find a nice apartment.  It's much easier to visit Ukraine or Russia from Schipol than it is from DFW.

Jon

[300spartans]

Muzh,

Very funny post. Thought the humour is a little unnerving. Many of the replies seem to confirm you and your anonymous source are on the money.

[corncrowe]

Just maybe you will get abducted by a woman named "Galina" as told in the following story:

Location. Vladivostok, Russia
Date: 1990
Time: unknown
Aliens apparently abducted a 32-year old metal worker, Victor. Under hypnosis he was able to remember being in a white square room with round windows. "Galina" a being that looked like his wife but was not, apparently brought him to an area, blasted him with something, and he fainted, later he came to in the strange room. There was another entity there, a small man, dressed in black clothing. They questioned Victor, and urged him to reveal something he did not know. Then a humanoid that was different from the small man approached Victor. They probed his torso and he fainted. Later he woke up in the same room. Victor was missing for several days, and when he returned home, his real wife informed investigators. Victor was tested, and strange cross-like marks were found on his body where the beings had touched him. Victor disappeared twice more. Later when hypnotized again, he recalled alien beings, screens, tentacles touching him, etc. He remained under medical care for a while.
------

It would seem that this Galina woman does more than scam men.  Now she is conducting medical experiments on them!!!

More...

Jon

[Photo Guy]

OhioRob,

That's not a bad desciption of WUSSIES.

I was wondering if you had a description of
'DESPERATE RW'?    I think the forum could benefit from this discription.

Also, I agree with Turboguy about the opposite extreme of guys who are domineering in an inconsiderate way. Abusive husbands are non-wussies.