hi

[iceman927]

hi guys ive been a member here for a while. but this is my first post .so i will tell you a little about myself .i am 21 years old and im a recording artist and i own/co own 7 other buisnesses. i know that being black will diminish some options involved but i look forward to the challenge. i hope to contribute to this forum.

thank you

[catzenmouse]

Welcome iceman,

 Yes, honestly, being black will reduce the available options but it does not eliminate them if you are serious about this. Being 21 is very young to be looking overseas for a partner though. What got you interested in the FSU? Have you been there yet? If so, how were you received? If not, do you have any plans for a trip in the near future? I do know of a couple of cases of a black man married to an FSU woman but they are a rarity and you will face some strong prejudices along the way.

Best of luck to you!
 Ken

[iceman927]

ive been researching the fsu for at least 3 years now. but in never had the time to go due to my job as a musician ive been on tour nonstop for the last 2.5 years. during that time i fell in love with a chinese girl and 11 months later i married her. but unfortunately she died of cancer 3 weeks after we was married. before she died she told me to go the the fsu cause she knew i always wanted to do that. so thats why im here . this friday will be the 3rd week since she died.

[Mir]

this friday will be the 3rd week since she died

Very sorry to hear that.
How soon are you planning to go to FSU?

[iceman927]

when the time is right for me. right now in my state of mourning it isnt the right time for me . but after im healed i will start this journey.

[Admin]

ive been researching the fsu for at least 3 years now. but in never had the time to go due to my job as a musician ive been on tour nonstop for the last 2.5 years. during that time i fell in love with a chinese girl and 11 months later i married her. but unfortunately she died of cancer 3 weeks after we was married. before she died she told me to go the the fsu cause she knew i always wanted to do that. so thats why im here . this friday will be the 3rd week since she died.

iceman,

I am sincerely sorry to learn of the death of your wife.

Did you *mean* to say it has only been 3 weeks since the death of your wife? If so, it is WAY TOO SOON for you to be thinking about going overseas.

- Dan

[jb]

iceman927,

I honestly do not know what to say to you.

If I were to tell you what I really think of your chances in the FSU, you would no doubt accuse me of being a racist.  However, let it suffice to say I think you are wasting your time.  There are other things you need to be doing right now rather than thinking of embarking on a wife search in the FSU.  If you can't see that, then anything I, or anybody else for that matter, could say to you would be a total loss.

[iceman927]

i plan on going when the time is right for me. im taking my time on this journey. im only looking right now. im about to learn russian.i want to know my chances and no i wont accuse you of being a racist.so fire away i can handle it im a big boy. i know that there are little chance of success in this journey for me. but im willing to try.

p.s - im just looking right now

[Bruce]

Why a guy would want to go to a place he is at best subtly and at most overtly hated is beyond me.  Would you go to a clan rally to find a wife?  Going to the FSU is not as extreme as going to a clan rally to find a wife but will be a few steps removed from it. Get the picture and get it fast because that is how the majority of the FSU population will view you.  I am white of European descent but clearly not Russian, stand out and feel it more and more in the FSU.  With my wife, no problem, but when alone I sometimes feel the eyes on me.  Russian society is increasingly closing.  They want Russia for Russians.  Yes, you can find an occassional girl really into the hip hop scene and probably into you over there - but why bother.  If you really want to see the FSU go on an educational tour where you will be protected.   It is a fascinating place.  You'll broaden your horizons but forget about going over there looking for your better half. 

[iceman927]

actually i despise hip-hop im a rock and roll musician actually just because someone is black doesnt mean he/she are part of that culture.im a well respected member in the alternative and metal sub culture.i deal with racism everyday in the career i am in. people are people no matter what there skin color is. and if people cant see that. its not my problem. i am the same as you are i am looking for the same things you are .people are more alike then they are diffrent.thank you

[Bruce]

"people are people no matter what there skin color is. and if people cant see that. its not my problem. i am the same as you are i am looking for the same things you are .people are more alike then they are diffrent." 

What you believe has nothing to do with how other people see you.  The bats the racists may hit you with at the worst or the cold shoulders you probably will receive each day you are there will help broaden your view of how the world sees you.  Yes, you'll usually experience professional color blind decent people if you are smart about your trip to the FSU but their real views toward you will be right beneath the surface.  Stick to Moscow, St. Petersburg or Kiev and you will be ok.

The sooner you accept the reality of your lot in life the better off you will be.  Everyone is dealt certain cards in life.  If your really want to swim up stream by all means go to Russia and enjoy the coffee. 

[iceman927]

i planned on keeping to the big cities.i thank you for your concerns .

[Jet]

i want to know my chances and no i wont accuse you of being a racist.so fire away i can handle it im a big boy. i know that there are little chance of success in this journey for me. but im willing to try.

The race issue is but one of several strikes against you. There will also be incredibly difficult battles with regard to your "Ex Alcoholic" status and your age. Your year of sobriety is commendable, but the fact remains that by your own admission you were an alcoholic for half your life so far. FSU girls have plenty enough alcoholic and ex-alcoholic guys to choose from already. Further, social drinking is an ENORMOUS part of FSU culture and bowing out of family toasts could cause big problems for a young healthy man. Your age may inhibit you from connecting with girls that are ready and willing to marry.

[William3rd]

I am going to post what I posted on your other thread, iceman.

Your facts are as follows-

You were an alcoholic for your entire teenage life who stopped drinking a year ago. You started researching the FSU at the age of 18. You were on a demanding tour for the last 2 and 1/2 years. You were madly in love with a Chinese woman who you knew for almost a year and who died three weeks after you married her and that death was less than six weeks ago. You are here on these boards within 1 year of finding sobriety, within 3 months of being a newlywed and within 2 months of being a widower. You are also only 21.

Perhaps a suitable period of additional mourning and additional sobriety should be contemplated before going forward with your plans.

[Rags II]

Dear Iceman please head this warning. You will not be welcome anyplace in the FSU that I have been. I am sorry but that is just the way it is. I witnessed some of the most racist and revolting scenes that I wish I could forget in Moscow. Please do not put yourself in danger by going there.

P.S. ROCK ON my brother!

[iceman927]

i will take your advice with great consideration. i want to personally thank you all for your advice. have a great day

[Simoni]

It's sad but true... racism is rampant in the FSU becasue it's an almost all-white society and they don't understand our multi-cultural world in the US.

Many girls from the FSU have only seen blacks on TV....and have formed negative impressions.