Just call me Boris

[phantom]

Hey,
got this question.  The agency in Ukraine must have mixed up the letters, or the girl did.  Got a letter from a girl I've been corresponding with for over a month.  After having a bad day, that really added to it.  "Hello Dear Boris".
Should I tell the agency to make sure Boris gets his letter, or the girl?  My goodness, I'm writing to over 12, might not write evry day, but at least I keep the names strait.  Any how, should I address the agency, or her?  Other than the name, it covered what I wrote her about.

[2tallbill]

I have gotten into trouble writing a letter and sending it to the wrong woman. I would simply tell the lady that is writing to you that, your name is Phantom and not Boris, she will straighten it out.

It also might tell you something about her seeing how she deals with it. does she deny it? Ignore it? Does she blame someone else? appologize? make a lame excuse? make a joke about it? It might give you an opportunity to get an insight into what she is like.

Good luck,

Bill

By the way when I made this mistake and was called on it I wrote a WHOOPS letter.

[Simoni]

So guys...remember this lesson...and don't call your gf by the wrong name!

Safer just to call them all "honey."  LOL

[phantom]

Works for me.  Come to think of it, I sent her a letter one time and the agency sent it to the wrong girl, one that I wasen't writing to.  When the girl wrote me back, she was very confused and frankly, so was I.  But, this one was her mistake, she probably called Boris phantom.  Anyway, with this one, I seriously have to use a dictionary with her letters, on some of the words.  Today she used: interlocutor.  The other day (She got my name right) dividence.  I can't think of the other ones.  When/if we meet and develop a relationship, I better keep webster around.   

[phantom]

Yes, it was a mistake she said, even started the letter with dearest phantom, usually it's just hello.  There was so much sugar in those first few paragrpahs, my sweet tooth was satisfied.

[catzenmouse]

It could also be a "canned" letter they put the wrong name on. Just an FYI in case you have been actually writing to Boris all this time.

Be careful of the "sweet tooth".

Ken

[phantom]

That was the weird part, other than the name boris on that letter, it covered what I had mentioned to her in her last letter and what she had asked me.

[catzenmouse]

I guess all you can do now is to ask her who Boris is. And if she is more interested in him than in you.

If that is all that it is then it is a good case of showing us that while we are putting our feelers out to multiple ladies they are also doing the same thing. Good for them and something for us to think about as well.

Ken

[Vaughn]

I was writing to six or seven ladies back in early 2001. One was a petite blonde
from Izhevsk if I recall. Her third letter started as Dorogoi Vaughn, but at the end
of the third paragraph she asked, "So, what do you think, Blake?" Like your letter,
Phantom, she had responded to my questions specifically, and it seemed like
a personal reply versus the common canned variety. I got a big
chuckle from the error, and responded with a letter of my own that ended,
"By the way, who is Blake?"

She responded with a defensive (and apologetic) posture, almost hilariously,
blaming it on "agency" error - "it's THEIR fault" and "PLEASE don't stop
writing me, I am SO sorry" Then, amusingly, an attachment
"of atonement": a snapshot, half-open blouse revealing one ample breast.
The original faux pas in itself was understandable and easily forgiveable.
The attempt to apologize while assigning blame mixed with the visual baited hook
won her a place, not in my heart, but on my scratch list.

I agree that your girl's reaction when you mention the "Boris letter" might
tell more about her than all your correspondence to date.

Vaughn

[phantom]

She didn't stay on it long, after the aplology, just asked a few questions and answered some other ones, talking about some traditional food, that I would like when I tried it.  She didn't blame the agency, or make an issue out of it, other than the "Butter" up job, apologized and said it must have been a misunderstanding, as the letter was for me.  That's what was a little strange when I reread it, she said "Addressed" to me.  Something strange with that Cindy Agency some times.  There were email notifications, but I never got the emails from the two new girls I was notified of, also two hours prior to her mail, it said I had received a letter from her, which I never got, but got the other one two hours later.  I've heard that people on here have met their wives at this agency, does any one know of such goings on there?

[Gator]

Phantom,

Women listed with Cindy Agency do not write and type the letters to you.  The interpreters will call her, read your letter to her, listen to her comments, and then draft and type a response.   The interpreters get paid less than $1 per letter, so the pace is fast and mistakes can happen.  Your correspondent is correct when she said it is the terp's fault.

That does not mean she is not communicating with a Blake or a Boris.  She probably is and the terp used a canned paragraph from her file.

Cindy women are authentic.  They live and breathe.  They may not write the letter you receive, yet you can be sure the women "heard" your letters and the responses are along the lines of what the women are thinking.   I suggest that you write not more than 3-5 letters to confirm some sincere interest and to eliminate deal killers (e. g., she wants a baby and you do not).  Then get your butt on an airplane.

[phantom]

Gator,

Thanks for the info, I'm just waiting for my passport, already have the trip planned out, I've tried to rush the passport, but it's taking longer than usual this year they said.  I hope to have it soon.  The only places to go without it, is Mexico, canada, bermuda and the bahamas, as long as you have a reciept, since the 9/11 attacks, it still takes a while with the rush, I was told.  Any suggestions?  I really want to meet her soon and some of the others.

[FredC]

I had the same kind of thing happen to me. I had one lady write me and she ask me some questions that it was obvious they were not meant for me. She ask me some questions about where I lived. They were West Coast questions and I live in the South East. I questioned her about it, and she was honest, she told me that yes she was writing to more men than me. I didn't fault her for that, heck I was writing to other women. What's good for the gander is good for the goose. So I would be concerned about how she handled the situation, not the situation itself.

[phantom]

Oh, she said the letter was intended for me, but that it was terp error, then about 3-4 weeks later I got a dear john from her.  Oh well.