Newspapers ads for a RW to find her match in the West

[Lily]

This is sort of mirror to the other thread, only for the opposite target group.

What would you think of chances of a RW posting an ad in some Western newspaper or magazine? What if I place an ad in some magazine/newspaper if they only deal with private ads of that nature, and show my cellphone number and website? What is my chance that male readers could be interested and call me?

Or would it be a less than good idea? 

[I/O]

You'll get every idoit from here to eternity calling you.  DON'T put your phone number.!!!!!!!   Setting yourself up a website for the purpose and promoting through newspaper ads is far from stupid.  You will get responses. Many.........................Lily you shouldn't need to be advertising, I can't imagine why foreign men have not worn a path to your door.  :noidea: :noidea:

I/O

[SANDRO43]

Lily, is your question purely academical, or due to a dearth of suitable suitors ?

[Lily]

Well, I keep my website page where I DON'T state a dating purpose, and there is 1-2 people contacting me every day, in average. This is OK rate for me, I can cope with it and reply. The problem is that the contacting men are quite far from being a match for me, in various terms.

I see one big reason on why I should not use the ad path, though. The magazine/newspaper is supposed to be circulated mostly in given locality, therefore, it will be for lots of people to see, including those who believes a working girl only could advertize herself in similar way..If one prospect decides to ring me, he would be thinking that his friends, relatives and colleagues have likely seen the same ad. How he then be considering marrying the girl from that ad?

With Thor, the situation was different as he placed an ad in her country, not his country and not in the country of their future domicile. He was planning to get the girl OUT of the country where his ad was appearing. A hell of difference!

I/O, first, people will never know that I am available unless I advertise and declare my availability and best intentions.    Second, men are clever and those who don't contact me do likely think that I am not their match.  

[Lily]

Lily, is your question purely academical, or due to a dearth of suitable suitors ?

It's rather an echo to the other thread.

[Thor]

This is sort of mirror to the other thread, only for the opposite target group.

What would you think of chances of a RW posting an ad in some Western newspaper or magazine? What if I place an ad in some magazine/newspaper if they only deal with private ads of that nature, and show my cellphone number and website? What is my chance that male readers could be interested and call me?

Or would it be a less than good idea? 

If you posted a ads in the newspapers in my country you would have great sucess Lily. You have the look and I am shore many men would write to you! Many men!!

[Lily]

Hmm, I really think it is a bad idea.
 

[TigerPaws]

Lily,

I am going to second the opinion that you should NOT put your telephone or SMS numbers in any ad, bad idea very bad.

If you are looking to improve you chances of finding a suitable gentleman then you might try placing your profile on match.com.

TigerPaws

[Hub]

I have posted some related comments over in the 'Ask a woman' section.

I think Lily will be wasting a lot of her time trying to attract men who will know nothing about the trials and tribulations of getting her into their home country.  Sure she will get a lot of responses; but the interest will dwindle when the process becomes more clear to the men.

Also, many of the dating websites that contain mostly western women, such as Match, MatchDoctor, American Singles, etc., have stopped accepting profiles from FSU women.  The reason has mostly to do with the scammer issues that arise with many FSU women and it was simply bad for their business to be associated with such, i.e. the complaints from the paying male customers.

I don't know all the new rules for the various dating websites concerning this, but it is something to check out before blithely recommending that Lily do such and such.  I know Anastasia said she used Match with success twice; but I think the first time was probably before they changed their rules and the second time she probably did not have an FSU address.

[viking]

Hub

You should be aware that many scammers will post on these sites with a yahoo or hotmail email address, state they live in NY or LA and shift gears later on.

[Lily]

If you are looking to improve you chances of finding a suitable gentleman then you might try placing your profile on match.com.

TigerPaws

In fact, I started my online matchmaking project with match.com and made my profile on there. However, it turned to be relatively restrictive and useless. I was unable to contact men. Also I was not able to place my videos. Well, may be times change now. Probably I would try it again.

After that, I switched to friendfinder that has about 100 000 members logging in every day. So far it worked best for me. All my prospects are from there. I learned almost all options of the site, there are really many. Btw, FF does not accept emails at yahoo or mail.ru anymore, but it did at the time of my registration.

[Lily]

Btw, I tried to go match.com and it does not open at all..Is it working now, does anybody know?

[catzenmouse]

Btw, I tried to go match.com and it does not open at all..Is it working now, does anybody know?

Just tried it and it opens. Could be blocking Russian ISP's. Don't know enough about that to say one way or the other.

I also don't know if anyone has mentioned to you or contacted you about people they know who might be a good match for you. Seems to me we have enough folks here who know other men and their character that could initiate an introduction.

Just some thoughts,
 Ken

[I/O]

If you posted a ads in the newspapers in my country you would have great sucess Lily. You have the look and I am shore many men would write to you! Many men!!

Yep and Thor would be right there to hold your hand, screen everyone for you and of course never charge a fee for service.

I/O

[catzenmouse]

Yep and Thor would be right there to hold your hand, screen everyone for you and of course never charge a fee for service.

I/O

What a wonderful person he is! Wow! I never knew he offered this service for free (as there has been no response to the requests for a price list I must believe that this service is free).

Perhaps you can also enlist the help of TP (funny, that acronym is on my grocery list right next to PT for paper towels) to impart upon you all the vast knowledge that is in that incredible creature to guide you through the maze of terrible things that await you. 

Ken

[Kuna]

Well, I keep my website page where I DON'T state a dating purpose, and there is 1-2 people contacting me every day, in average.

Lily, 

I've missed some of the threads with your questions on alternate methods of finding a partner but the comment above makes me ask a question.

In your profiles elsewhere do you not state what you are looking for???

It might be a personal thing but I would think you would find greater success if you were just honest about your goals and desires.

I know there are all these dating myths about not frightening men off but I honestly believe MANY men in the west are tired of the "dating game" and the crap that comes along with it.  When a man is ready to settle down he WILL settle down.  If a man is scared, just looking or only interested in dating, NOTHING will convince him to settle down - no matter how spectacular the woman is.

You only need one good man who appreciates your wonderful qualities so I would focus on writing a profile that qualifies those that respond to you, and then use every method available to develop an audience for your web site.

I wish I knew someone who was appropriate for you (believe me... I've thought about it) but the single men I know are either too old, too short, too bald, drink too much, too addicted to their work or too unreliable in relationships for me to think they would be of interest...

Now... who here has cool audience development ideas?

[Lily]

Kuna,

many thanks for your suggestions. I think you are right.

Well, actually it is clear for me that newspapers ad are the bad idea. My understanding is that so far nothing beats good well-known internationally targeting websites with some appr. 100 000 members visiting daily. I am staying with friendfinder, and in case nothing comes out for me this September (I go to Europe), I will ask for assistance on getting me on Match.com again.

[SANDRO43]

the vast knowledge ... to guide you through the maze of terrible things that await you.

The number of "volunteer helpers" is on the increase, yesterday I received this:

From: bahtin alexandr <bahtinalexandr@rambler.ru>
Hello, my name's Alexandr. I want to offer you my services. I know, that there are a lot of Russian's girls who want to marry,
want to have an American husband, but there are another girls who betray of your's confidence, who pretend "good girls"
and of course try to swindle you.
I have a large database of girls who try to swindle you because in reality really good, honest and conscientious girls are not so many.
I have my colleagues in other cities, where this swindle is very widespread. I hope you understand me. I sincerely want to help you.
I have the great experience in this service. I helped lof of people and nowdays they appreciate me.
If you think this information is interested to you, write me about this and I'll help you.

No mention of a fee, either .

[catzenmouse]

I'm shocked! I didn't know you were American!?! You tricked us with your pretending to be Italian and I'll bet BC was in on it as well! Shame on both of you! Shame!!! 

I know, that there are a lot of Russian's girls who want to marry, want to have an American husband

[SANDRO43]

I'm shocked! I didn't know you were American!?! You tricked us with your pretending to be Italian and I'll bet BC was in on it as well! Shame on both of you! Shame!!! 

I have an independent witness who can vouchsafe for having really met me in Italy. Can you provide an equally convincing evidence as to your actual existence ???  .

[catzenmouse]

Can you provide an equally convincing evidence as to your actual existence ???

Heck Yeah! Here's a picture from the last time I went to Wal-Mart. Just because it was 3AM, I was drunk AND naked doesn't mean anything. You can contact the Detroit Police Department if you want to see the arrest report...