For the curiosity of VWRW...

[Bruno]

VWRW wrote :

I was glad to read that you have found a new lady worthy of your admiration and your attention! Do you not want to share with us why your last relationship did not work out?

Hmmm... i have long hesitate to reply... the last events of my life are not really related to these forum and his goal... but since some curious to know my story, let go...

Why the relationship with my ukrainian girlfriend did not work out ?

Very simple... her feeling for me have not resist the damage of time... when i have comeback from Ukraine in Juni 2006, i have start a marriage visa... misluck due to different problem between cityhall and foreign office... in my country, rules ( laws ) can be different at the national level and at the regional level... actually, it is possible that in a near future, my country become two countries... more of 100 days that we have vote and not yet a begin of national gouverment...

Later, she have try two time a cohabitation visa... first time, it was refused because of not enough evidence... but it was the embassy in Kiev who have refuse these evidence, saying that the dossier was already enough big... second time, a refusal because it was more that one year that we have not see each other... the refusal was made a few days after these 1 year periode... they don't care if the dossier was started before these delay of one year...

Unfortunaly, when these last refusal have come, i was just moving to a new home, a bigger one... and i was using my yearly holiday for the moving... so, we have plan to make a marriage in Ukraine around September... again some problems, my work have not allow me to take my over-hours in September... but october was right for the boss... In September, in the last communication of my girlfriend, she have wrote that she wish not more marry me... and that if she make it, it will be only for the paper.... i have already give 5 year of my life for "paper", so my reply was "good-bye"...

Why i post this in the trip report section ? ... Simply because, the rest of these post will be about some mini trip and thing who lead to my actual relationship...

Some remember that i have speak in other post about a little car.... i have receive it the Friday 7 September... Cute car ( see the picture ) but i will never buy a car like this in the future... they are dead box without valuable protection in case of crash...



These friday evening, i have meet a Belgium woman... I only know her name, Marlene... yep, it was a one night adventure... i am a normal guy and after almost 1.5 year without sexual relation, it was hard to resist when a woman flirt with you....

Saturday morning, i choose to quit Gent and ride to Lokeren... and a idiot accident happen... a truck was on a parking place hidden by tree... his after platform was lowerer on the street level... around 20 cm of the ground... heavy rain... and the platform light of the truck not working... i have see it too late... try to go on the side but the corner of the platform have hit my right wheel... you can see the result from a little shock ( at 35 km/h ) for the mini car at the picture below...



No big damage from the outside... some plastic broken, and the aluminium from the wheel is broken too... but in the inside, i have broke everything... the fixation of the seat have not resit and i have hit the dashboard and the central console... result was a trip to the hospital... out from hospital the same day that Jack... only some minor problem on my left foot, a good hit to the head, my right shoulder was put back in place ( it is very painfull )... at the date of today, all is right again... just remain a partial paralysis in my right hand ( cannot move two finger ) but this will be resolved in the begin of october ( operation ).

During the stay at hospital, i have learn to know a charming nurse... Karina... 45 year old, divorced, two children... She is with her sister, Russian from the second generation... born in Belgium from a Russian father and a Belgium mother... together, we have plan a trip to Paris, and a visit of Disneyland... the day of the departure, 14 Sept, she explain that she cannot go with me... she like me but she have a boyfriend... she propose that i go with her sister... i was not very hot of the situation but all was already pay...

So, from 14th to 18th, i was in Paris with Monika and her son... Whowww, i have never think that two adult people can fall in love so fast... i have always think that these "coup de foudre" was only for young guys or girl... from the 18th until yesterday, i have stay by her... today, i go to her home again... until monday because i need to work...

I don't know if our relationship will last long or not... but i have discover that at almost 40 y.o. , it is more easy now to date local women... and that my country have a good number of sexy women from a mature age... Yes, i forget to say that Monika is 37 year old... so, she is not a young cutie but a sensual lady ( the next photo is from her, taken yesterday )... Hey, same without seeking it, i have meet a lady from russian root...



Ok, it is all for now... and i think that it will not have some update... relationship working of failling... i will continue to date localy... why use my time and energy for date ladies outside my own country when i can find the same localy... since in the week, i am working and in the week-end, i am with her ( she have no computer ), i will not visit these forum a lot...

Maybe these post can be a lesson for these feminazi who call us looser, who say that we seek foreign woman because we are not able to have a local woman... I am the perfect example of the guy who have seek foreign woman but who was ready to have a local woman when these local woman are valuable woman...

So, for all the guy always seeking, i wish a lot of luck... and for these who have already find the right lady, enjoy the life together

[Jet]

Glad to hear things are working out for you Bruno 

[vwrw]

Monika is a lovely and thin lady. The French Disneyland is a great place for a romantic date. I wish your relationship with Monika to last long and to be happy one! Does she already say you that you understand her so well as none could understand before? 

In Russia we have such an expression “there would not be happiness now but fortunately obstacles helped the happiness to happen”
 Bruno, you made an error writing unfortunately. You needed to write fortunately you had some problems which prevent you from having the “paper marriage”. And as a result you have met Monika.  I think you made a good decision saying to the Ukraine woman “good-bye”.

I wish you good luck and all the best! And do NOT settle for less than you deserves.

[Simoni]

Sorry you had the accident, Bruno.  But fortunately, it led to you meeting a really nice girl!  Good luck!!!

[Nando]

hey this post is a coincidence. I was going to send a PM to you asking what happened to you Bruno

Well this is a difficult endeavor even for the ones who use the big head and have experience. Luck is always needed and I think most of the people who found their soul mate sometimes don't realize this...

Good luck to your new relationship and next time buy an used German car, man. They are valued for peanuts in  Germany and offer a much bigger degree of protection.

And here I go to meet maya devhuska in Ukraine within a couple of hours

[Bruno]

Just back home now... after a great week-end... the positive side of dating localy is that i am able to see my lady each week...

... and next time buy an used German car, man. They are valued for peanuts in  Germany and offer a much bigger degree of protection.

Nando... if i have buy these car, it is for several reasons that German car don't meet... first, no yearly tax... second, low yearly insurance... and finally, very ecologic car... around 3 liter diesel for 100 km... of course, the new hybrid car are better but they are too much expensive for my wallet now... but who know, in a few year, when price will be lower...

Sorry you had the accident, Bruno.  But fortunately, it led to you meeting a really nice girl!  Good luck!!!

Luck have almost nothing to make with the recent event... let say that the end of my relationship with my Ukrainian girlfriend have open my own eyes... before i was fixed on foreign ladies, not seing the interest of some local women... the day before the accident, i was already meeting a local woman... nothing serious... she was wishing "fun" and it was long time that i was on "regime" !!! But these first local adventure have allow me to trust my own capabilities... and so, when i was in hospital, i have flirt with a nurse... and finally, now, i am with the sister of the nurse... the only one who have not spring directly in bed, the only one who have resist me some time, the only one with who i have speak a lot...

When i remember some post here, where people use the "3 days before go to bed", it is a crazy rule... in the case of Monika, it have take more that these 3 days... a lot more... but we have use the time together for know each other... lucky, we are sharing two common language, it have help a lot...

Monika is a lovely and thin lady.

I know.... and she like the fat and ugly "duck"... i am more of two time her weight... but what count, she like me, she find me funny, she like how i act with her son, etc...

The French Disneyland is a great place for a romantic date.

Hmmm... in my case, it have kill me... try to visit Disneyland with a young boy of 11 year !!! More a marathon that a romantic date... but it is during these periode that she have test me and accept me like a potential boyfriend... her son is everything for her and my behaviour with him have seduce her a lot...

The more funny is that she "know" me from very long time... she live in the same building that my best friend... her father ( russian ) was a neightbourg of me when i was living in the previous city... She have see me a lot of time but i have never see her, i was blinded... I was too much fixed on my quest of FSU ladies... Hey, before i open my mouth for the first time, she was already knowing where i work... that in winter, i wear beard... etc...

And do NOT settle for less than you deserves.

I don't deserve a lot... i simply wish a long relationship with a good wife and a family ( children )... i don't need more...  usually, when people use the "And do NOT settle for less than you deserves", they think about beauty... If Monika was ugly, i am not sure that it will have change something... maybe i will have date her more early if she was not beautiful and thin... i have a enough low opinion of myself but in the last week, she have "work" to create more trust in myself... and about "settle", it is a little early... we need to know each other more, and since we can only meet the week-end and during holiday... it will take some time... but we have the time on our side, we are not pushed to conclude fast like in the case of international relationship...

Do i have find the perfect partner ? I don't know... i like her, i love her... but we need time... what have change a lot in the last few weeks is my own behaviour... now, i know that I CAN...

One photo more... her sister Karina ( the nurse ), the boyfriend of the sister and Monika 



Maybe some upgrade at the end of the next week-end... but i think that now, we need time to grow up our new relationship... and we have all the time of our life for this... i am not more in the "hurry mode"... no engagment and marriage planned... each have own life where we share some common time...

Hmmm... time for sleep... only 6 hours before stand-up and work... and a very long week before my next trip to the city of Monika...

[Muj]

Bruno,

Amazing story.  We both wish good luck and haapiness in your future.  Maybe a little sooner than 5 years?

[Turboguy]

We all know how wonderful RW can be but there are good women everywhere and hopefully you have found the one that is right for you.   We all wish you happiness and think if she does turn out to be the right gal she will be the luckiest and happiest woman in the world.   Best of luck.

[Jazzyclassy]

Oi Bruno it is a wonderful news

your lady is nice and cute , I wish you all the best and luck in forming stable relationship with her, that is wonderful that you managed to find such girl in your place

[Bruno]

your lady is nice and cute , I wish you all the best and luck in forming stable relationship with her, that is wonderful that you managed to find such girl in your place

Jazzy, my place is filled with nice and cute ladies... the majority of Belgium men are married with Belgium women... my own mistake was that i have choice to enjoy life, not being serious in relationship until i was 30 yo... and when i was 30 yo, the majority of the good Belgium women was already married... so, i have seek at other place... but now, being older,  i have discover a new categorie of local women, the divorced one... some of them  remain interesting ladies... and some are already fully destroy... simply need to find the good one... everybody can have a second chance in life if he create the opportunity...

I am not the guy who critic our local women... i have never think that FSU ladies was superior to our local women... it was simply quantity problem... my little country ( with a total population around these of Moscow ) or the rest of the world...

Yeah, i know... some will say that RW are more traditional... maybe true for ladies around 40 yo... but in the case of the young sexy cuties like you, you are like any young women in my country or any western country.... maybe, here in Europa, the situation is different that in US... we have feminist here too... but not the extremist type like in US... and same so, the majority of US men marry US women...

So, i will correct you : that is wonderful strange that you have never managed to find such girl in your place before

[Bruno]

We all know how wonderful RW can be but there are good women everywhere...

Agree... but in my case, she is half-russian... maybe she have the qualities from both side !!! 

[Jazzyclassy]

     So, i will correct you : that is wonderful strange that you have never managed to find such girl in your place before           

yeah , but better late than never

I am sure you will be very happy  and  actually not only russian women are traditional , there are still women in the other countries who put a family as a main priority before anything else

[Bruno]

Last update... not really interesting since all is right... or almost...

I am now at home until Saturday... Saturday, i move at her home for enough long time...

Doctor from hospital don't allow me to work... from the car accident, i have a damaged nerve... weekly test at hospital, kine 3 time week... so, i will have plenty of time for take care of her and her of me... if health problem don't become better, operation is planned for end november...

Now, she is like a mother kip with me... sometime too much protecting...

So, these post is the last for the next 6 weeks minimum... her son have now a computer ( my old P4 ) but internet is not yet planned... maybe if i stay definitively by her...

Hey... JB, if you read these topic... you was right... i was not made for FSU ladies... seem that local one or second generation immigrant are good for me... hmmm... why i have not listen to you more early... so much year loose !!!

[Turboguy]

Enjoy your time together, get well soon and come back when you can.  We will miss your wise advice.

[Bruno]

... and come back when you can...

And so, i am back...

Sorry, photo's are deleted ( she have ask it )... and the relationship is dead...

First of all, she cannot have anymore kids ( and i wish a family )... but the more bad, she is a casual user of softdrugs... something that i cannot accept...

So, after two week living together, i have break-up...

Now, i am with a other local girl but i am not sure that she is the right one... slowly, i begin think to seek again outside Belgium... but not only limit myself to the FSU...

Now, a lot to read here... and not a lot of time...

PS: my new local girl is from the ex-USSR too... i have never think that we have so much people from FSU locally 

[Simoni]

Yikes!  Drugs...

Good decision to move on.

Sorry, but it's for the best.

[Bruno]

Yikes!  Drugs...

Since they tolerate personal use of softdrug in Belgium, it seem that it is become usual for several people to smoke... to be honest, i have try it too when i was in the Navy, long long time ago... but i cannot accept that she smoke her product in front of her son who is only 11 year old...

About move on, it seem that it become very easy for me... maybe because i become older, i have more difficult to accept thing that i don't agree with...

What have change a lot in the last few month is that i am not more in the "desperate" mode...