When should I contact a woman?

[KO Tiip]

Hello all. Another newbie here. I have been reading a number of the forums but still have a lot of questions. For now I will just ask this one (I apologize if it has been asked and answered before). I plan on using an introduction agency to correspond with women and my question is how long before I actually visit the Ukraine should I start contacting the women there (email, letters) and getting to know them? Unless someone can suggest reasons otherwise, I plan on going to the Ukraine in April 08. I would love to go earlier since I am eager to meet the women there, but my research (guide book) says April is one of the best times to go when considering the weather and crowds (before summer high season).

[BillyB]

Start contacting the women about 3 months before you're to visit.  Visit the ladies that shown interest in you and discard the rest who fail to answer your questions in letters. Make sure you get on the phone with them before you visit. If you can't hold a conversation with them on the phone, you will not do much better face to face, thus you don't need to see them.

If you start writing ladies now, they will lose interest in you after a while. There are many men who promise to visit but never deliever. the ladies want men of action, not words.

[William3rd]

6 months out?

I would start sending out intro letters within the next month or so to allow for response time. You can script out a few letters right now that ask the questions that you want to pose to any candidates. Make sure that you modify future contact letters to be responsive to their letters

[Rvrwind]

We recommend 3 months. More than that & the lady starts to think you ain't coming & gets bored. This is just a suggestion & not a hard & fast rule as everyone is different but we have found more ladies are impressed by the guys who visit rather than the guys who write letters ad naeseum...

[Todd]

If you have done this before or are pretty confident in your abilities, then 3 months out makes sense. 
However, why not just start now?  If you meet someone super compelling, you can always go earlier
rather than later.  If you don't meet anyone earlier, you will have had the opportunity to make a few
mistakes that you won't make later. 

Todd

[chade1968]

I included in my profile when my next visit would be... Russian women are VERY patient but I think 3 to 4 months is the limit. Good luck!

[ScottinCrimea]

I think your choice of April is a good one.  May 1st is a holiday and the prices both for travel and accommodations increase quite a bit after that.  The time period between our Christmas and theirs on January 7th is quite an interesting time to go as there is a lot going on and many will have time off, but if you don't have someone you already know and who has a firm commitment to spend time with you, you could be left hanging and they may already have plans to spend this time with family and friends.  I would definitely avoid Jan-March as it can be quite cold there and would limit your chances for sightseeing and "walking hand in hand" with your lady.

You could beging to send out a few letters now, making it clear when you intend to travel and then increase this about 3-4 months out if necessary.

The next question is which agency are you using as it might be difficult to get contact information.  Maybe your best step would be to spend about a month reviewing this forum before you begin writing.  That way you would have a better idea which agencies to use, what red flags to watch for, what the women are looking for, etc.

[KO Tiip]

Thanks a lot everybody for the helpful information. I think perhaps I will take Todd’s and ScottinCrimea’s advise and try contacting a few ladies relatively soon (making it clear when I plan on visiting) and see how it goes.

Also, to answer your question ScottinCrimea, I think the agency I will use is  Elena’s Models or A Pretty Women or both, however any other suggestions will be much appreciated. Why might it be difficult to get contact info.? I didn’t realize this could be a problem.

[Turboguy]

I have never used A pretty woman to know but with Elena's you should have direct contact info upfront so it is not a problem.   Sometimes they hold back the mail address and phone until they are comfortable with you but you will have a direct e-mail.   I think A pretty woman is about the same. 

[BillyB]

Elena’s Models or A Pretty Women or both, however any other suggestions will be much appreciated.

With Aprettywoman, you  do get full contact info. But use an affiliate such as mydearwoman.com or aliendating.com or similar. Same ladies but you get more addresses per dollar than the main site.

[Misha]

I have never used A pretty woman to know but with Elena's you should have direct contact info upfront so it is not a problem.   Sometimes they hold back the mail address and phone until they are comfortable with you but you will have a direct e-mail.

Comfortable with you? Sorry, I don't understand what you mean.

[Turboguy]

Until they know you well enough to hope you are not a stalker or nut case. 

[55North]

If it helps, our first email contact (on Elena's) was July 17, and by August 23, we were together.  Absolutely.  And we new it would be so by the end of the 1st week's contact.  (About 15 hours on the phone).

[Misha]

Until they know you well enough to hope you are not a stalker or nut case. 

The agency? How can they "know" you well enough to judge whether or not you are a stalker or a nut case? Or is "knowing" a euphemism for how much you have spent LOL.

[55North]

How about feeling quite interested in you?  After all, the woman could be sifting through many, many expressions of interest if she recently registered.  As you will be if you're lucky, and get your profile right.
 
The initial rush of interest that may ensue can be quite daunting until you've culled the list.  Then getting seriously communcating.

[2tallbill]

I have a slightly different take on this.

Write the ladies now and visit them in a month or two.

Then make your SECOND visit in April to see the one that you are most interested in.

Good luck
Udachi

Bill

[Turboguy]

The agency? How can they "know" you well enough to judge whether or not you are a stalker or a nut case? Or is "knowing" a euphemism for how much you have spent LOL.

I was talking about the girl more than the agency.  Many places like Elena's will give you the e-mail address but the girl will have asked not to have her home address or phone published so she can avoid a bad situation with some of the wacko's that sometimes are out there.   Just a safety precaution like in American dating when most people try to make the first meeting in a public place. 

As far as the agency goes I think a small agency that knows thier women would likely try to protect her if they sensed a man was a nutcase but the big ones are more likely to only care about the money. 

[Rvrwind]

The agency? How can they "know" you well enough to judge whether or not you are a stalker or a nut case? Or is "knowing" a euphemism for how much you have spent LOL.

Quite simple...you learn how to read. I can get a pretty fair handle on guys from their emails to the ladies & to me as well as phone conversations. You may fool me for a little while but eventually I'll sort you out.
With the big agencies it may & likely is about money, not so with the smaller agencies, we care about all our clients both male & female.
Sure we need to make a profit or we close the doors but our first priority is always our clients.