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like many threads or posts,,
most here can only go by what's actually posted in them.
and offer advice accordingly?
of course a lot of the picture is often missing.
so have patience in reading thru it, most have your best interest in mind.
That tidbit about your location ,and circumstance,
explanes a great deal..of why you might be considering looking into a RW.
and there are a lot of ex-military ,particularly Marines
, in this venture it seems.
by the way my wife still says she would not have given me a second thought,
if i had still been active at the time we met. She would never consider being a military wife.
it's just her own feelings,but it seems shared by many RW i know..
(my father is a retired (now) a lifer,still lives a stones throw from NAS Fallon,
she is very glad i did not follow his career path )
Also, I remember one guy from anchorage? (certainly AK)
that was on another RW forum (RWGuide)
He was happily married to a RW , and had given and received a lot of decent advice
on the forums..his wife posted often as well...
so it just shows a good example of there being all kinds of RW,,
and his wife particularly liked the outdoors and alaska's lifestyle.
My advice,
Don't buy into the agency hype,,it's mostly complete BS.
That doesn't mean that there arnt plenty of nice RW looking for a good man.
There are some key cultural differences.
they can be positive or negative..
Positives almost always outweighing the negatives ,
unless you ask me on a different day
to be blunt with you,
your age is going to be suspect for many RW,,as they just dont "generally" consider someone that age to be serious and grounded.
So it's your biggest hurdle.
but not an impossible one to overcome ,,certainly some will give you the chance to show you are mature and sincere about this for them
Just expect it to be questioned.
The second hurdle is your location.
The same reasons that you dont have many choices in women there now,
are the same reasons many RW would not be interested in relocating to the area.
A RW (any woman) that truly cares for you,will live wherever! of course!
but in this scenerio , they don't know you yet,
they have choices,
and many will move along to meet ,or correspond ,
with someone from a place they are more interested in living.
That said, i'm sure plenty would consider the area, i'm just pointing out some hurdles you might face and to be prepared for.
the other is the education .
its important to most RW.
in thier culture no college degree, basically means no decent job propects to support a family reliably.Generally the only real reason for marriage is for family,and children,
they are often very pragmatic.
so a guy without a college education is viewed quite often as not a good prospect for marraige and certainly not a good enough one to move across a continent and language barrier for.
its just how they often think, and if you think practically ,you cannot blame them at all .
Now thats thier mindset 'often', not *always*
it doesnt mean that there are not many RW that recognize the economic and cultural differences ,and understand that you could be a good provider for a family..without
the degree..
so simply another hurdle,nothing that cant be overcome,byut be expecting it to be in thier thinking.
(by the way i do not have a degree,and yes it was a big concern to many RW i met,including my wife)
to answer another question you posted-
YES most of the motivation for relocating away from all they know,
is economic,
might as well take the blue pill ,and enter the matrix right now .
and enter this with eyes wide open.
An attractive RW has options at home..maybe not as many as she'd like ,
but plenty enough.
Many that will be considering marriage to a foregn man,will be pragmatically based on a view of a more secure life for her, her future family, the whole purpose of marriage.
there will be other factors like a belief, or hope ,
in a equal loving relationship,
or that a western man might be more likely to truly accept and treat a child she already has as his own.
but the majority of it will be security - economics.
That doesnt mean she is looking simply for a visa mule,
and it doesnt mean she isnt looking for true love,
it means there are a lot of factors in a decision to even contemplate marrying and moving away from your friends and family and native language and culture forever.
Face ,and accept, the reality of what the large motivators are though, and it will help you.
There ARE big cultural differences,, the three i just mentioned ,
are simply there because their culture is different.
Not better, not worse, just different.
as i mentioned some of those things can be negative, some very positive.
your biggest allies in all aspects of this is -
from start to possibly happily married.. and staying that way
are :
being resolute ,but a gentlemen,and having a good dose of
tolerence , understanding of the differences,and patience.
Dont take all the advice or critism fro mhere, to hard..
its aimed at giving you the best chances..
There are lot of very happyly married couples,and the positives aren't reviewd often enough.
but they are there
Good luck!
