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Rendezvous with a Russian(Ukrainian) woman - ettiquette?
« on: January 29, 2005, 10:02:48 PM »
Okay, let's say I get to that point of this adventure where
Larisa and I agree to meet in Kyiv, which is not her home city.
How should I set up the hotel accomodations? It's tricky.
Should I just discuss it beforehand, in the course of our emails?
How should I handle it? What are most couples doing?
Maybe I should tell her that I'll get one room with two beds
and if the chemistry is not very good, then I'll be a total
gentleman.  Any advice?    -doug in AZ

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« Reply #1 on: January 29, 2005, 10:50:09 PM »
Why don't you ask her and go with her wishes.    I was the second amererican my gal from Donetsk met in kiev.   I get her a room of her own.   The first guy got a room with two beds and she was scared to death and never slept a minute.    I offered antoher gal from Starvapol who I brought to Moscow her own room and she said no way, she wanted to spend all the time with me she could and wanted to be in the same room with me.

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« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2005, 02:51:45 AM »
With both meeting first time in another city it's probably best to go with two rooms.  It's easy to cancel a room but might be hard to get another one at the last minute.

If you met her in her home the first night would also likely be separate..

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« Reply #3 on: January 30, 2005, 06:31:42 AM »
Hey cameraguy.
 
I think you only have three options. One, you get her a hotel room,  two, you get her a one bedroom flat for herself and three, you get a three room flat, which is a flat with two seperate bedrooms.
 
But before you get the two bedroom flat you must ask her and get her permission. If you have communicated with this lady for say close to 2-months and she has built a sincere interest in you, then chances are she will be ok with a two bedroom flat. If you have been communicating a month or less she may have problems with staying in the same flat.
 
If you get her a one bedroom flat then make sure it is very close to your own flat which is not too hard to do.
 
And as all Russian/Ukraine women are different, their are no set rules to anything. These are just my opinions based on a little experience.

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« Reply #4 on: January 30, 2005, 07:12:54 AM »
Quote from: cameraguy
Okay, let's say I get to that point of this adventure where
Larisa and I agree to meet in Kyiv, which is not her home city.
How should I set up the hotel accomodations? It's tricky.
Should I just discuss it beforehand, in the course of our emails?
How should I handle it? What are most couples doing?
Maybe I should tell her that I'll get one room with two beds
and if the chemistry is not very good, then I'll be a total
gentleman. Any advice? -doug in AZ

Hi Doug,

 Why not meet in her home city? There is where you will learn the most about your FSU woman. It's very beneficial to see her in her own turf, meet her family, and her friends, and see what kind of a routine she has, if you have written to her much beforehand it is a chance for you to see if what she has written to you matches up with her actions in real life.

  Yes discuss accomadations with her beforehand, but not hotel... ask if she can help you get a flat to rent, most girls are happy to do this , it is a small apartment with a kitchen so she can cook meals for the both of you on occasion. In most cases this is much cheaper than a hotel room too.  You should Assume she will be staying in the same flat with you, unless she tells you otherwise.  Also  this is not American girls, usually they have no problem in staying in the same apartment as a man if they are comfortable with him, (this does not mean she will sleep in the same bed with you... assume renting only one flat, but mention up front you will be happy to take the sofa, and she can have the bed, this will put her at ease and affords opportunities later if things go well.)  if you have any reasonable level of familiararity with her this should be no problem, time is of the essense here, so separate accomadations only slows down the process of getting to know her.

  I corresponded with my RW for a long time, she trusted me and living in the same flat was what she wanted to do,  I asked her if she could get a flat to rent and she told me: "no problem I will get US a flat"  When we got to our flat my RW said: "Dave, There will be NO SEX!, you will sleep on left side of bed, and I will sleep on right side., and you will stay on your side." (they will spell out what they want, but this left opportunities for us later if things worked out.) Good Luck Dave

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Rendezvous with a Russian(Ukrainian) woman - ettiquette?
« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2005, 07:50:28 AM »
Dave,
Larisa suggested that we meet in Kyiv or Odesa, but said
her home city of Mariupol would be alright if that's what
I wanted. I think she thinks it would be more fun to be
away from (her) home, like away on a vacation.

I'll think about the two bedroom flat idea. That makes sense.
I'll know her pretty well before we meet.  ...I hope there's
chemistry.   -doug

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« Reply #6 on: January 30, 2005, 08:58:00 AM »
Thanks to all for the feedback and suggestions.
Can anyone recommend a particular 2 bedroom flat in Kyiv?
-doug

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« Reply #7 on: February 04, 2005, 08:06:04 PM »
contact jack, he'll set you up

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« Reply #8 on: February 05, 2005, 10:56:34 AM »
I am brand new to this board so forgive a stupid question. Who is Jack?

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« Reply #9 on: February 05, 2005, 11:38:43 AM »
Hey!! you don't know Jack!!  I couldn't refuse:D
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« Reply #10 on: February 05, 2005, 12:15:45 PM »
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I am brand new to this board so forgive a stupid question. Who is Jack?


Jack Bragg is the owner of FirstDream and a frequent contributor to the board.

You can reach him by sending a PM to 'Jack'.

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« Reply #11 on: February 09, 2005, 11:02:49 PM »
FWIW, a flat in her home town would be the idea solution to this problem.  Now that you have established a phone call connection with this woman, when you meet you will want to develop the relationship as rapidly as possible.  She might like a vacation in Odessa or Kyiv but you might want to save the vacation spots for a later visit.  

Right now you are not taking a vacation, you are on a mission.

 

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