How can I find a person in U.S.?

[oldernotwiser]

YOU need more exposure Lily! Sign up for other sites such as bride.ru etc.... If things get slow, update your profile to get to get back to the front.

I get the feeling that Lily would prefer to be the hunter, rather than the hunted.  Maybe I am wrong, and Lily can certainly answer for herself.  But if that is the case, more exposure may not be what she is looking for.

Good Luck with your search Lily

[BillyB]

Lily has something like a bikini photo in her profile, very sexy:)

Now you're going to get all the men interested! I can see one photo of her but I can't see the other photos too well since they're tiny and I don't have a membership there to view them enlarged.

[Lily]

I get the feeling that Lily would prefer to be the hunter, rather than the hunted.  Maybe I am wrong, and Lily can certainly answer for herself.  But if that is the case, more exposure may not be what she is looking for.

Good Luck with your search Lily

I don't think I prefer to be the hunter  as you suggested. In fact I don't think I would. But what do I have to lose? The ultimate goal is to find someone who would like me, and who would be liked by me. No matters who takes initiative, as every step would lead to one goal.

What I probably need would be a bigger pool of eligible men to contact.

btw, EM replied to me that at the moment they do not have such type of service to sell contacts to the interested women, but they would consider this for the future.

[SANDRO43]

btw, EM replied to me that at the moment they do not have such type of service to sell contacts to the interested women, but they would consider this for the future.

If they implement that, you should ask them for a percentage of the spoils, since you gave them the idea .

[Eduard]

Beautiful women at those sites are dime a dozen. The fine qualities of a woman's brains and heart are usually overlooked because a guy doesn't take the time to know a woman before commiting to a visit so he's basically visiting a stranger.

That is the truth IMO! I always emphasize the importance of getting to know a woman very well through corresponding on line, in depth first! Only when you feel like you really know each other, understand each other's personality, sense of humor, interests, likes dislikes, etc. you should plan a trip to meet her. Unless a woman is a completely fluent English speaker it is tremendously important to have a very good interpretor who is really fluent in both languages to totally remove the language barrier. If you don't - you will be meeting a total stranger and if you marry her you will only get to truly know each other a couple of years into the marriage. That's why so many of these marriages wind up in divorce. A woman learns the language in the course of the first year, they get to know and really understand each other and by the end of year 2 many find out that they have nothing in common, and that they would prefer not to be together (sometimes only one feels that way, but that's enough for a split up).
Lilia probably won't have this issue. Her English is very good and she knows what she is looking for in a guy and probably learned a lot about WM personalities and character traits through participating on this forum. But she is not the norm, rather the exception.

[mark2353]

Lily,
There is a good database I personally just discover it. It has quite of bit of info on people it might be of help in tracing your missing man! I wish I was him! Lucky!!!
http://www.pipl.com/

good luck
Mark

[myrddin]

D'oh!  I've also used http://www.daplus.us , just not recently.  Good luck, Lily!

[Jazzyclassy]

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[Lily]

Lily,
There is a good database I personally just discover it. It has quite of bit of info on people it might be of help in tracing your missing man! I wish I was him! Lucky!!!
http://www.pipl.com/

good luck
Mark

Mark, thank you so much!  This resource brought me the day of birth that is approaching  (!), and some other very useful information I could not even think to get.

I don't think however you could say he is lucky. He may well be not the man who would be willing to have me as the woman of his life. He may appear to be no good for me as well. This is just a chance, no more, no less.

[I/O]

I am in a huge surprise why none of our single men offered Lily their affection

people are chatting here for ages and Lily has been a part of this forum for a year maybe or so and a lot of guys like her , why they are so shy to ask her out ???

instead she needs to come out with such a embarrassing topic as how to find a person in the US when we have 99% of men from the USA perfectly chatting to her, what is wrong with you menushkas ?  

I couldn't agree more. Seems to me from what I have seen here that perhaps Lily has too much to offer and many don't think they are up to the mark. :noidea: Nevertheless, I did note some time back Lily mentioned an upcoming meeting with a potential suitor and the ol' hens like me were sitting back waiting to see what developed. Seemingly nothing? What's wrong with a few of you single guys? Many are planning/tripping to Russia and I've little doubt this seemingly charming lady would be available for a respectable coffee date? Are the guys here so socially inept or obsessed with cradle snatching that they are incapable of writing or sending a respectable invitation to meet a lady socially?

What's the story Lily? Have you been littered with requests from the singles here and are you so mean you have frightened them off? Now if these guys were all ugly ol' personality deficient pricks with 3 legs and two head such as me, then I would understand, but short of that. :noidea:

From what I have read and seen here, I understand our Lily is quite choosy, as IMO she should be, however, I am honestly at a loss to understand there is not major repairs happening in her street as a result of the damage to the pavement caused by the sheer amount of human foot traffic beating a path to her door.

I/O

[I/O]

Lily: If I may tender a little advice, I suspect in this day and age, if you send an unsolicited email to a man of interest, it is most likely to get no further than his spam filter, if even that far.

Being as detirmined as you seem to be, I suggest if there is someone who may be of serious interest, if you can establish their address, write a letter and mail it. It once happened to me and honestly it really did sit me right up in my tracks. It did not ultimately go anywhere, but I did pick up the phone and we spoke several times. A most interesting person indeed although it became clear to both of us quite early there would not be anything romantic.

Just a thought. It would take time, but in this day of electronic/instant everything, for me at least, there is still nothing to beat a letter in the mail box.

I/O

[Lily]

My dear friends,

may I remind that I started the thread in order to receive information on my question, and not to raise a discussion that seems to be popping up in a few posts here.

For any personal info everyone is welcome to PM me. If I feel that I would like to ask anything that seems not to be for the worldwide public access (remember we are on a www?), believe me I would not hesitate to PM any of you.

[Lily]

Lily: If I may tender a little advice, I suspect in this day and age, if you send an unsolicited email to a man of interest, it is most likely to get no further than his spam filter, if even that far.

Being as detirmined as you seem to be, I suggest if there is someone who may be of serious interest, if you can establish their address, write a letter and mail it. It once happened to me and honestly it really did sit me right up in my tracks. It did not ultimately go anywhere, but I did pick up the phone and we spoke several times. A most interesting person indeed although it became clear to both of us quite early there would not be anything romantic.

Just a thought. It would take time, but in this day of electronic/instant everything, for me at least, there is still nothing to beat a letter in the mail box.

I/O

Excellent idea I/O! great option along with a phone call.

Are the U.S. people who keep a PO box used to check it often?

[TwoBitBandit]

Lily: If I may tender a little advice, I suspect in this day and age, if you send an unsolicited email to a man of interest, it is most likely to get no further than his spam filter, if even that far.

I'm not sure I agree with this.  Spam filters are quite good.  The spam filter where I work manages to correctly figure out which messages are from my friends out of the hundred spam emails I get every day.

Just don't include any hypertext links or URLs in your email, that's the one thing that spam emails have in common.

[TwoBitBandit]

Are the U.S. people who keep a PO box used to check it often?

Yes.  If it overfills for more than a couple of weeks, the post office will start returning the mail back to the sender.  Plus, you have to pay a rental fee of about $50-$100 a year to have one, and people stop paying the rental fee if they aren't using it.

I have a post office box and I check it once or twice a week.

[mark2353]

Lily, I do not think that the spam filters are your biggest problem as the scam artist impersonating a RW. I have receive several of these and they all have the same end. They all have nice photos of very nice ladies! I would mentioned big that you first saw him... whatever in EM very important. That get past first glance..
If you can do a phone call it would be great! that adds some reality to the pic. Great idea!!
Yes! I check my po box every other day!. so do most other people I notice due to the amount of stuff we get(junk mail and important things that need immediate response).
After all this I hope that he is smart enough to evaluate the source and make a wise decision. 
I will have to look at your profile in EM maybe we will meet soon in Moscow??
Meanwhile good luck and best wishes,
Mark

[myrddin]

I don't think however you could say he is lucky.

Lily, I've read a lot of your posts and this may be the first time I disagree with you     He is very lucky that you are making these efforts to contact him!  He'll have a chance to get you know you, whatever happens from there     If life had guarantees, we would have to call it something else.

[tim 360]

I think Lily is looking for a man with certain qualities.  I don't think "any guy" will do so she is selecting based on her criteria.  She has alot of great qualities and I think she would be a great partner for the right guy.  I'm sure she has received many emails from guys who just are not for her.  Good luck Lily, tim360

[Eduard]

Privetik Lilya!
I was wondering, why are you looking for a guy particularly from the USA and not from any other country?

[Lily]

Privetik Lilya!
I was wondering, why are you looking for a guy particularly from the USA and not from any other country?

Not particularly from the U.S.
My question was for the Americans here how do I find a person is this person happens to be located in the U.S.

[FredC]

Lily,
One suggestion that I have not seen here is have you tried any of the free dating sites. I can suggest Matchdoctor.com. It is free to men and women to set up there profiles and send emails. I hope this helps. ....Fred

[Lily]

Lily,
One suggestion that I have not seen here is have you tried any of the free dating sites. I can suggest Matchdoctor.com. It is free to men and women to set up there profiles and send emails. I hope this helps. ....Fred

Fred, thanks. You were also not supposed to see that suggestion here, in this thread. See the topic question? RWD has a separate topic like Online Dating Sites elsewhere.

[Eduard]

I went to check out matchdoctor.com, clicked on the first girl's photo that appealed to me: queensun45
27-year-old Female
Seeking Men: 29 - 45
Midlothian, Virginia, United States
Last Activity: Online Now!

 Libra
HAHAHAHA!!! is it me or does she sound Russian??? here is her ad:
It's not so simple to speake about myself, but I think I am very romantic person, cheerful, frankly and sincere, slenderness, attractive, womanly, tender and attentive. I like children and cosiness in the house. I don't like lonliness and that is why I like to communicate with different interesting people.
I can introduce myself like owl, this means I like to sleep in the mornings, but at the evening I can work and stay awake to much.
I always try to be just myself and respect those people, who don't acting in the real life.
My working day begins from 10.00 and comes to an end at 20.00
I come in shopping center of our firm and I offer people to get our toys.
And as I advise, that most approach them and I give necessary consultation.
At 13.00 I go for dinner in the nearest cafe. At 14.00 I again start to work.
So passes my working day.

 
activities: Gardening, Home improvement, Movies, Museums/arts, Sporting events, Travel, Shopping
attributes: Funny, Active, Athletic/In Shape, Attractive, Communicative, Generous, Honest, Humble, Intelligent/Bright, Outdoorsy, Positive Attitude, Respectful of Others Opinions, Trustworthy
my idea of a great date:
I very much frequently think of the future.
Probably each woman reflects on it early or late.
I very much would like to find in this life the present love, complete tendernesses,
By passion and human care. Unfortunately nowit is not easy to find
The suitable companion of life.
I very much would like, that in my life I would appear the man with which could
To create happy family and to have children.
The man, to which I could trust most secret.
The man for the sake of which be necessary to live.
The future is represented to me as that that very good and kind.
the person I would like to meet:

Dear gentleman! Pay attention to a charming lady looking for a
decent, considerate, caring and reliable life long partner - a
friend and a husband. I would very much like this person to value
the personality of a woman and treat her like an equal partner in
marriage, not only as a housekeeper. My friends think that I am a
remarkable lady that's more interesting in life than in photos. You
may ask me: Why are you still not married? The answer is - 'Because
I am still searching for my One and Only and I am sure I'll find him,
come hell or high water! Anyway, I wish to anybody who's reading my
message much love in life!
Ideal Match
speaks: (low) English
height: (low) 5'5 (165cm) to 6'4 (193cm)
willing to relocate: (low) Perhaps, if it was for the right person
wants children: (med) Yes, ABSOLUTELY

[viking]

Lily

I was once a member of Elenas. I stopped using the site for a number of reasons. But my profile still remains even though I have asked for its removal. I will once in a while receive a letter of interest but cannot respond since I am no longer a member. Perhaps this is the case for some of the men you are writing to?

[Serebro]

Lily,
One suggestion that I have not seen here is have you tried any of the free dating sites. I can suggest Matchdoctor.com. It is free to men and women to set up there profiles and send emails. I hope this helps. ....Fred

match won't work in Russia,
they have a country ban