Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men.....

[Misha]

I agree with Ken. I finally clued at the end that if I was confident in myself and understood that I would be the catch, then I was more laid back during dates and I was the one being pursued. I also finally understood that I am not that bad looking either 

[Faux Pas]

Ah, but would you be willing to adore and worship a beautiful woman to keep her? 

Many men would. I agree with KenC's response also as it does tend to bore a woman and the luster eventually fades. The more pertinent question would be: could you adore and worship a women who possessed less than beautiful qualities on the outside but was truly a beautiful and wonderful woman on the inside?

[KenC]

Many men would. I agree with KenC's response also as it does tend to bore a woman and the luster eventually fades. The more pertinent question would be: could you adore and worship a women who possessed less than beautiful qualities on the outside but was truly a beautiful and wonderful woman on the inside?

Faux Pas,
Probably not as men tend to be more shallow in this area.
 

Seriously, there does have to be at least a minimum of physical attraction from both sides in order for a relationship to work IMO.
KenC

[groovlstk]

Ah, but would you be willing to adore and worship a beautiful woman to keep her? 

Adore yes, worship no. The starry-eyed, puppydog guy who worships women only wins in silly Hollywood movies.

I'd say Russian women are even more contemptuous of such guys than American women, but that's just my experience

[mischief]

define what is attractive for you... to me person is attractive if he/she has curious quick mind and conversation with whom is mentally stimulating... lots of picture beautiful people once they open their mouth lose their attractiveness instantly...

[mischief]

in a marriage, especially once you get kids, other qualities play more important role than sexual attractiveness...

[Misha]

define what is attractive for you... to me person is attractive if he/she has curious quick mind and conversation with whom is mentally stimulating... lots of picture beautiful people once they open their mouth lose their attractiveness instantly...

I will be shallow here and define attractive as the physical. This includes face and physique. The other criteria (quick mind and ability to hold a conversation) I would not include in the category attractive. However, once you get to know and to love someone, then they do become more attractive.

[Misha]

in a marriage, especially once you get kids, other qualities play more important role than sexual attractiveness...

Call me picky, but I wanted both attractive and all the other qualities. I was looking for a woman that I found attractive, who found me attractive, a woman that I enjoyed to be with, a woman whose values I respected and a woman that I knew I could raise children with as a team. I was not willing to settle. Attraction was one criteria among many.

[mischief]

I will be shallow here and define attractive as the physical. This includes face and physique. The other criteria (quick mind and ability to hold a conversation) I would not include in the category attractive. However, once you get to know and to love someone, then they do become more attractive.

Pretty face and good body is attractive enough ... hmm... for a quicky as long as she/he does not talk...
any stupid phrase is a turn off for me...

[KenC]

Pretty face and good body is attractive enough ... hmm... for a quicky as long as she/he does not talk...
any stupid phrase is a turn off for me...

mischief,
I have to agree with you.  Beauty and good body only go so far.  Eventually, the two of you do have to talk too.    (And you spend a lot more time talking than the other)
KenC

[BC]

Pretty face and good body is attractive enough ... hmm... for a quicky as long as she/he does not talk...
any stupid phrase is a turn off for me...

Yeah... like 'I love you'. (my experience, not yours)

 

[Misha]

Pretty face and good body is attractive enough ... hmm... for a quicky as long as she/he does not talk...
any stupid phrase is a turn off for me...

Yes, but what about the inverse? Someone that you like to talk to but are not attracted to physically? I know people who fit this category: I call them friends LOL

I would not want someone who is beautiful and is stupid. But, also did not want someone smart and interesting, that I was not attracted to physically.

[smartcat]

Blues Fairy,
Of course self esteem is the key here.  One must feel that they deserve such a beauitful or handsome partner.
KenC

Women's "being handsome" is being handsome in brains. If they are elder than 14-17 y.old.

I remember two men in my life. One was my coworker. Handsome as a Greek young god. Could be a model. Very handsome... Deep blue eyes, big shoulders, tall, straight legs... ALL the women of all ages who met him once starred at him. He was divine. Until he opened his mouth and turned into a man stupid as a cork. Women lost interest to him.

Otherwise I once met a guy, a very ugly one, I thought, when I met him first time. I was thinking, how mother nature could create such unattractive person. A big clumpsy brune bearded one. Absolute Quasimodo, just 6'7. He was 20 years elder, when I was in my 24, he had no money. But he was VERY attractive, vivid, extraintelligent, humorous...inside. Not for me only. For other women too.
 I got fallen in mutual love and I still think that those several years of relationship  were the really briilant in my life.

Does anything of that have to do to the selfesteem?

[onefourtheroad]

Good post smartcat! I'd like to make a point here for my first entry too... To me the study is interesting, as it shows some insite into human nature and what makes us tick. Still, for me, I believe that my true "soul mate" is one who is attractive as a whole package. In other words, one who has just the right mix of looks (beauty), personality, warmth, intelligence, and most of all is honest and would be a faithful wife. I'll trade down a notch any day for a woman who is perhaps a bit more average looking, but a more warm & loving person to be with.
And the only one I worship is God, not any woman. A marriage represents a lifelong partnership of love and devotion between a man and a woman, not worship...

[FredC]

I'll throw in my two cents, don't look for the person that you can "live with". look for the person that you can't "live without". Once you each find eachother.......the rest is what makes life worth living

[AnastassiaAsh]

hahaha...some of you guys are true humorists, aren't you?  And shallow too.  At least you are honest about it.  ....just kidding....

...i agree, the main reason is low self-esteem and/or fear to be rejected for both men and women.

[HazyKnight]

I'll throw in my two cents, don't look for the person that you can "live with". look for the person that you can't "live without". Once you each find eachother.......the rest is what makes life worth living

The only problem, is that once you meet that person, and it doesn't work out for one reason or another, you're almost ruined for life. I was having an affair (her affair, she wasn't married, but had a BF) with this woman who was just the best in so many ways. Now, I have trouble getting her out of my head. All other women just don't stack up... so far. I'm fearful of never finding another like her. I wonder if I should track her down and find out if she's single or whatever, or should I just move on and remember the reasons as to why it didn't work out.

So for the discussions and opinions expressed in this thread have been right on, in all the different directions that attractions go and are related to one another.