Story of an immigrant RW who were looking for a date in NY (Russian)

[Lily]

I have read this story writen by Anna Levina a few years ago.

An immigrant RW wanted to find a husband in NY and tells her experience in meeting a number of men. Most of her dates are immigrant RM, and a few AM.

It reads quite funny.

What is apparent to me is that Anna seems to find predominantly the evil traits in the men who she happens to meet. The men in her story look like complete morons.

http://newwoman.ru/zamuzh104_roman.html

Question to those who has read the story: did you get any similar impressions about men in the US, as Anna did? Do they seem really be like that?

[Faux Pas]

Lily,

I wish I could read it. It would be interesting to make the comparisons.

[Lily]

Comparisons with what?

[Fireeater]

Lily

I used a on line translator and got the general idea of what she was doing.
Correct me if I am wrong. 

Not sure what type of service she was using. Seemed to be one that matched two people together without any communication between them. I would say it also depends on how honest and trustworthy is that service she was using.   


First she seemed to be dating Russian Immigrants in New York. I am pretty sure they would not be reflective of the true type of man in North America. You would be the better judge if they reflect the Russian male is those cases. But other nationalities might also reflect those same views, so it is not just one type, one would have to look out for.

The second thing I got the impression of is most seemed to be blind dates. She knew very little about them, and in some cases she it looked like she never even saw a picture of him. Most seemed to be referrals rather then any direct contact with her. On a blind date you may be surprised or you may end up with something you would seriously want to be with.

The third item not all profiles one may submit are totally accurate. Some lie about various things, or promote themselves as more then they are. Women do as well. so it is not a surprise if communication has not been happening before the meeting when one finds out the other has not been totally honest.

Are all men like this, I do not believe so. But then that is the same problem men also have with the other side. Are they what they say they are.

It might be better to ask (with an example if you have one) for what you are thinking about this book in relation to actual men in North America.


     

[Faux Pas]

Comparisons with what?

How she compares the men to each other....L....what was you thinking?

[groovlstk]

It might be better to ask (with an example if you have one) for what you are thinking about this book in relation to actual men in North America.

It's been my experience that RW, no matter how they emigrated, will actively seek out RM to date. Before I met my wife I dated a good number of RW who came to the US on K1s and after divorcing their American husbands most were really not interested in dating American men. I'd guess it's the same in Canada and Western Europe. I was often able to talk my way into a date after using some Russian (I know about 200 words) and reminiscing about some of my favorite places there - it was usually enough to pique a RW's interest, but not always. Kind of puts all that "Russian men are alcoholic wife-beaters" crap that Western men love to believe in a new perspective.

[Fireeater]

It's been my experience that RW, no matter how they emigrated, will actively seek out RM to date. Before I met my wife I dated a good number of RW who came to the US on K1s and after divorcing their American husbands most were really not interested in dating American men. I'd guess it's the same in Canada and Western Europe. I was often able to talk my way into a date after using some Russian (I know about 200 words) and reminiscing about some of my favorite places there - it was usually enough to pique a RW's interest, but not always. Kind of puts all that "Russian men are alcoholic wife-beaters" crap that Western men love to believe in a new perspective.

I can understand that idea of dating someone from your own country, but this woman did seem to find all the losers with those Russians she dated. So in one way are they typical of all men here would be more the question she should be asking.

It would be harder for us to define the Russian Male mind, then it would for us to talk about someone else we have more knowledge about. A Russian women would have a better idea if these were all exceptions to a typical Russian male or not.

To me it seemed more what the mental attitude with these suitors were then that typical comment "Russian men are alcoholic wife-beaters". 

But I also think the author was a little naive in allowing what occurred for what was first meetings, before she actually knew them.

[Misha]

I was often able to talk my way into a date after using some Russian (I know about 200 words) and reminiscing about some of my favorite places there - it was usually enough to pique a RW's interest, but not always. Kind of puts all that "Russian men are alcoholic wife-beaters" crap that Western men love to believe in a new perspective.

I would say it says more about Russian nostalgia. Once they are far from Russia, it is easier for Russian women to remember all the positive things about Russia and romanticize Russian men. Likewise, it is easier to idealize a foreigner, if you have never met one.

[Lily]

I guess that the woman in the story was looking merely for RM because of the language. She seems not to know English very well, and it looks like she did not wanted to mingle with Anglo-Saxons

Well, the story is artificial, all those men do not seem to exist in reality. The author apparently wrote a funny and exciting story. Exaggerations seems to be ok.