Welcome to hell. My ex wants to start dating again ohhhhh nooooooo....

[gousa]

What a surprise. Something about her new life position must
be changing, and to engage in such bi-directional planning without
the needed relationship comminication certainly flies over
any ideas that I ever had about relationships.  There must be trouble with her new boyfriend(s).   I believe she is trying to hustle me into her life again without
addressing the issues and without preparation, like our marriage was.

Unfortunately all my attemps at finding a decent looking American
haven't produced much.
I think she is crazy, but I think that everyone including myself is
nuts for doing cross cultural relationships.

She wants me to plan a Christmas vacation but I have so much going
on right now that I don't want to plan anything and she is such an internet dating queen that I think it would be a short
comfort to a long misery.

[ScottinCrimea]

No matter what you were in the beginning, I think that at this point you are plan B.  From this point forward you will always be plan B, convenient until she finds another plan A.

[gousa]

Agreed here Scott,   great classification.

Since I didn't like plan A very much there isn't much use in
fooling around with plan B and waiting for her next plan A.
IMHO when I was her plan A it was a sugardaddy/sugarbaby marriage anyway.

But I did tell her that I would consider it if she gets the
property tax paid on the house which she always promised to
do but hasn't managed to do yet.

Last year she wanted me to re-marry her immediately after the divorce, without a pre-nup of course, which I told her would never happen without a prenup.
She was concerned about her citizenship then.
She got her green card recently, thanks to my recomendation letter,
which I almost didn't provide.     

So you can divorce your problematic RW before the I-751 filing , and if
the AM husband recomends it, the RW can get approved fairly easily after a year or so,
at least at that office it worked.

The reason I recomended her was that I wanted to do one more favor for the
broken heart that I left standing outside the door last spring when I
broke off the after-divorce dating situation then.   I did it  for the
ignorant child of a woman that still doesn't understand why I left.

Thanks Scott