Where do you find the time?

[UTRO]

Alright, I have to ask this question to the married Members on this Site....

Since I am a 'taken man' with a Fiancee in Russia, I frequent RWD quite often to pass the loneliness I experience when I'm not working or have my children to keep me company. It is really nice to read and comment about all the things we all have in common.....
My question is: Where do you married guys, who have their FSU wives living with them, find so much time to be on-line here? Some of you guys seem to be here 24/7. When do you spend time with your wives? Are you at work, is she at work?? Please understand that I'm not making judgement on anyone It's just that Sveta and I both swear that after all of this 'wait time' is over and she's here in Canada with me, the computer is out the door!
Besides my question, I'm quite thankful that Experienced Married Members are here to advise and guide us Freshmen Thanks!

[Doll]

My question is: Where do you married guys, who have their FSU wives living with them, find so much time to be on-line here?

I've already asked this question- no answer.

[Vaughn]

Utrobina and Doll,

   While I lived alone (and in 2001/2002 the waiting was seriously long) I spent 3 hours a night
studying Russian. Grammar, sentence structure, vocabulary, and so forth. Very little time on the
computer until I sought Tourist Visa / K-1 data...   

  I've been here almost nightly for the past month or so....  but if you check my activity, there are
periods of months when I was totally absent. When I AM here, my wife is just a few feet away,
enjoying films and shows on television. I try not to overdo it - and am cognizant that when we
converse - I shut down RWD, or at least, put it on "pause"...  we stage our own interruptions for
dessert, tea, etc. When our daughter arrives home mid-evening we all huddle, review the day,
and plan for tomorrow. This weekend a RWD couple will be vsiiting us - and I suspect you won't
see either of us online at all. 

  We don't go out much in the cold, and it's been unseasonably chilly since November. When March
arrives, we get very busy - too occupied to even check e-mail, nor do we really care to.

  Years ago I spotted an article & graphic in the magazine Itogi that would be appropriate here. I'll try to
locate and scan it.

Vaughn

[Tamara]

Great question!  I was wondering about it, too as I see so many regular members posting here what seems like 24 hours a day.  However, that's what this makes this site so educational and interesting - contribution and dedication of its members.  Each time I have a moment, I try to log in and share my opinion.  There are days, however, when I am so busy, I do not. And days like today: I have visited the forum on three separate occasions.  :brightidea:

[Turboguy]

For me the answer is at work.   Why do what you are being paid to do if you can read RWD?

Well, I do own the business so no one can complain.  Also I get up before my wife.  I spend some time while I am drinking coffee and eating my breakfast checking out the latest bits of wisdom and of course the ramblings of those some consider mental midgets  :evil:

Back when I was in the searching and waiting stages I read every single post on RWD every day.   Now I don't have the time and when I am home from work in the evening I try to spend every minute with my wife which to me is the way it should be. 

[kievstar]

To answer your question internet is abused at most companies. 

[Wienerin]

How I love this question!  It crop up from time to time on every board that I frequented. It's loveliest feature - the question, i.e. - is that there is no answer. And the only reason for this question - in my experience and despite the author's disclaimer, is to get on a noble stand as opposite the lowly opponent, scribbling on the internet 24/7

Well, seriously, hot can the experience of somebody with different lifestyle, schedule, family composition, job, and yes, the ability or lack of it to read and write quickly, - can be transferred to another person who has all or many of the pertinent parameters quite different?

[Gator]

My answers:

Two primary reasons

-  I stay at home more than I did in the past when a bachelor.

-  She sleeps 3 more hours per night (9 vs. 6 on average) than I do.

Secondary reasons

-  She is self-reliant and required little help after the first couple of months.

-  While at home she spends much of her time doing her homework for the English Language Institute at USF and does not need nor want my help (she is fully conversant but her grammar has frequent mistakes).

-  The kids are responsible for doing their homework with minimal supervision, yet I need to be around (not so much now) in case they need help.

[ScottinCrimea]

For me?  Right now she is in Ukraine and I have a lot of free time on my hands. ( I still have two weeks to clean up before she returns).  The option is this forum or the TV, and, to be honest, this forum is much more entertaining.  When she is here, of course I spend less time here and more time with her, but there are downtimes when she is at work, at school etc., when my choice is to work on her honeydo list or visit here.  I tend to be more selective on what posts I participate in.

And, of course, where else could I learn so much about global warming, immmigration issues, the Russian mafia. global politics, etc, than here?

[Simoni]

After she first arrived, I DID spend much less time at RWD.  Even now, not nearly as much as I once did.

But the simple answer is that I multi-task well.  And I am frequently on the computer for my work (my dime), so from time to time I jump over and read and post.  I am a fast reader and writer.  Warp speed!

It is addictive.  But so are a lot of other things in life :-)

[BC]

I work at the 'puter all day long and often well into the night with programmers in FSU.  A few minutes here or there to read a bit and post no biggie.  All this is done at home so we have plenty of time together.

She's back home setting up an official company for us in RU.  Short term save quite a bit in taxes, long term start up a little wheelin' and dealin' to keep her busy and productive in later years.

[UTRO]

Computer use at work does seem to be the most frequent answer to my question. I really got to know my Fiancee over Internet/Email use at work, not at home. I'd spend a few hours writing long letters to her each day, especially before we met. Good thing I had the opportunity when I did because my company has since seriously reduced the availability of the Internet and Email is randomly audited. Associates have scored a Poor rating for this on their Yearly Review and have lost out on Bonus money because of this. Yours Truly was one of them But, it was worth the loss because I really got to know Sveta
When Sveta eventually gains PR into Canada I'm sure we'll both be on-line, at home, taking peeks here and there to see how the oldtimers and newbies are doing After all, one of the common bonds we have is this Site and those we have met through it. Sveta herself does communicate with other female members here, who are in Russia awaiting their fates to be decided by Immigration too Without Sites like RWD.com and Canada.ru this would not have been possible

[MarkLeftTX]

Yeah... good question...

But it isn't for the implied reason: "Your wife is here, shouldn't you be with her???"

That is only true for newlyweds (and even not for some of them). The fact is that whether you are married to a RW or not -- you don't honestly think it will be all sex all the time, do you? Or, to put it another way, my wife and I have a great marriage, but it ain't like it was for us that first week in Kiev.

Every marriage settles down into a routine of sorts, and both parties find they have times for their hobbies and interests.

The real question is why do the guys bother? I mean married guys can't get anything out of the board, really. The value of the information diminishes every year after she arrives.

And the contribution from the "Old Guard" TO the board also diminishes. Most of what I know about Ukraine is out of date by now. For example, when Viktoriya came through, there was no exit interview in Ukraine... we had to go to Warsaw.

Also, by now, my marriage with Viktoriya has very little to do with her being from Ukraine, and me being from America. It has more to do with her being a woman and me being a man... so, I don't think I can contribute much from a "Ukrainian women are like this..." perspective. If something were to suddenly happen, after six years, I don't think I could blame it on her being Ukranian...

So, yeah, I do wonder why some people post on here hundreds of times a day, I used to -- back when I was looking. But I see less and less reason to -- irrespective of time.