Author Topic: Im back! (Read 5330 times)

diverboy70 · « **on:** February 14, 2009, 12:59:27 AM »

Hi all!

I dont know if anybody missed me or even cared

But anyway, Im back! A little wiser and a bit more experienced.

Since my last Lithuanian disaster, totally caused by not following the 10 comandments, I have done som local dating and also looked into the asian and latina dating sites. But feeling the asians don't really gives me the intellectual part that Im looking for and the Latinas are even worse than the Russians in english, Im back here again.

I just signed up with bride.ru again, and I have a few really interesting contacts going on, planning on a trip in early April if I find a candidate

As some of you guys know Im really an wovo guy

This time I am focusing on 28-32 years old but with a minimum age limit of 23. Also this time Im not excluding women with small kids. Its all about finding the woman with a heart and not just the stunning looks. I also try to avoid the profiles with only studio photos (often photoshopped and seldom up to date) Basically Im looking for an ordinary girl 25-32

Anyway, it feels good to be back!

BC · « **Reply #1 on:** February 14, 2009, 02:03:45 AM »

Quote from: diverboy70 on February 14, 2009, 12:59:27 AM

Also this time Im not excluding women with small kids.

Welcome back diverboy!

There's a hidden 11th rule.. 'don't make concessions', or another version, maybe better 'know what you want and stick to it'..

Suggest evaluating the reasons for your change of mind in this area. Kids are not just appendages in a relationship and it can get very complex and difficult if you're not into them in the first place.

As far as overall difficulty goes..

1+1=2
1+2²=5

diverboy70 · « **Reply #2 on:** February 14, 2009, 02:12:02 AM »

Hi BC,

You are right, and of course I have thought this over. What you are saying is the reason why I didnt go for girls with kids in the first place. However I now feel that I would be ready to take on those "troubles" and dont really see them as "problems" anymore!

However Im just looking for women with kids under the age of 5, since I think that makes it easier for all involved.

BC · « **Reply #3 on:** February 14, 2009, 02:36:43 AM »

Quote from: diverboy70 on February 14, 2009, 02:12:02 AM

However Im just looking for women with kids under the age of 5, since I think that makes it easier for all involved.

Not trying to rain on your parade, rather provide some 'been there done that' input..

Yes, young kids are usually more manageable but are able to understand a whole lot more that goes on around them than we elders think. Plan to spend a lot of extra time with them also during your trips.

They also grow up quickly, so the respite is only temporary, at best.

diverboy70 · « **Reply #4 on:** February 14, 2009, 02:42:48 AM »

Im very aware of what you are saying! I have a son of 3,5 on half time basis.

Its not like I seek out single mothers, I just have come to the conclusion not to exclude them, because I think they have a lot of the values I am looking for.

BC · « **Reply #5 on:** February 14, 2009, 02:57:41 AM »

Quote from: diverboy70 on February 14, 2009, 02:42:48 AM

Im very aware of what you are saying! I have a son of 3,5 on half time basis.

Oh boy, that really raises the level of complex dynamics involved.. emotionally drawn and quartered... LOL

Not unsurmountable, but quite a challenge, but hey.. what isn't challenging in this venture..

Are you a professional diver and/or away from home considerable lengths of time?

diverboy70 · « **Reply #6 on:** February 14, 2009, 03:02:03 AM »

Yes I know LOL

Im a "retired" dive instructor, have been working in Greece, Egypt and Thailand. But before the invasion of Russian tourists

Anyway, Im used to working with different nationalities and have no problem with just putting my behind on a plane and go and visit someone.

The one bigest difference today is that Im trying to get away from the e-mailing and get to talking on the phone and chatting on msn as soon as possible.

BC · « **Reply #7 on:** February 14, 2009, 03:16:39 AM »

Well, it seems your needs are covered.. LOL

http://www.scuba-instructors.com/1/matchmaking/dating.html

In your shoes I would probably look into RU diving groups/clubs for a non-dating 'in' and take it from there..

ScottinCrimea · « **Reply #8 on:** February 14, 2009, 08:51:45 AM »

I'm already seeing you start to compromise and that worries me a bit. You say you are focusing on 28-32 years old, then set your minimum age as 23 and lastly change the focus to 25-32, all in the same paragraph.

You noted the first time that the girl was too young, then went back for another one just as young, and now I worry that you are setting yourself up for another one who is "too young".

I see nothing wrong with including a small child in the equation, unless you are assuming that somehow one who is too young but has a child will somehow be more mature and thus an exception to your inconsistent age limits.

I'm betting the first one you go visit will be under 24 years old.

diverboy70 · « **Reply #9 on:** February 14, 2009, 08:57:58 AM »

Scott, You are marking words! I dont have a rigid "age limit" But I feel I dont like to go under 23 and not over 35. Then its all up to the individual. Happy with that?

ScottinCrimea · « **Reply #10 on:** February 14, 2009, 09:09:55 AM »

So your minimum age limit is not rigid but depends on the individual. Got it. :ohbrother:

Gator · « **Reply #11 on:** February 14, 2009, 09:32:11 AM »

Diverboy,

Young children are the easiest to mold, dependent upon the mother and the role you will have. A very complex issue.

Proceed slowly to build the realtionship. When successful, you will start as a solid family. And that will be good for your little one too.

I have noticed that some RW are much more interested in her kid rather than your kid. In my mind, it should be equal, especially for one as young as your son even if a half-time child.

Then there is the question of having a common child. Hope you make decent money with all of these mouths.

Diplomacy · « **Reply #12 on:** February 14, 2009, 02:12:20 PM »

Good to see you back Diver. Just take it slow and steady. Wait until you find a woman that is good with your child also. I would get all sorts of interaction in a group dynamic too, since you are close and it appears the women are allowed to visit you also.

Caddydaddy · « **Reply #13 on:** February 16, 2009, 02:05:05 AM »

Welcome back diverboy,

Oh I remember well your last story, truly a not so good experience...
My Siberia adventure also didn't work out, instead I found a precious Lady from Latvia. You never know before a personal meet, it is also a matter of luck, but I think she is Mrs Right. Btw, we only have 5 months age difference and it is wonderful. Babushka and deduchka,

, no, we are both in best age, so!!

Just now she is here at my place again for the second time, thanks that Latvia is in the Schengen zone, much more easier!

I wish you luck!

kryten41 · « **Reply #14 on:** February 16, 2009, 12:20:23 PM »

Diverboy, keep in mind that if a woman has a child, the child, not you, is the most important person in the woman's life. If you don't love the child as much as you love the woman, you are headed for a trainwreck.

SMS60 · « **Reply #15 on:** February 16, 2009, 12:45:32 PM »

Quote from: kryten41 on February 16, 2009, 12:20:23 PM

Diverboy, keep in mind that if a woman has a child, the child, not you, is the most important person in the woman's life. If you don't love the child as much as you love the woman, you are headed for a trainwreck.

Be very careful in this situation. It is just the opposite.

In a normal and healthy relationship the spouse and or SO is the most important part of your life. I don't mean this in the extreme of neglecting a child.

When you find a women with a child who is finding ways to put you first without affecting the child you have a keeper. You will never hear an excuse because of the child.

kryten41 · « **Reply #16 on:** February 16, 2009, 02:18:27 PM »

SMS60 wrote:"Be very careful in this situation. It is just the opposite."

This is incorrect. A normal parent is going to put the welfare of her child above her own desires. 4 1/2 years in the child protective services field demonstrated to me that the kind of woman who doesn't put her child ahead of the new paramour isn't a healthy person.

steve057 · « **Reply #17 on:** February 16, 2009, 05:13:37 PM »

Welcome back Diverboy!!!!

Good to see you again and "back in the saddle" as they say! Good luck in your search!! Steve

diverboy70 · « **Reply #18 on:** February 21, 2009, 03:45:53 PM »

I feel this got away I didnt intend. I wasnt saying I was looking specifically for a girl with a child, I just said I was not ruling them out this time!

Having a child myself I know a woman with a cild allways will put that child first, and that is the way it should be. I also put my child first. But at the same time we have something in comment that we can connect with.

I am man enough not to have a problem with a woman putting here child first, that is what you get dating a girl with a kid. However just like with myself, I feel that I still have a lot to give and that there is still room for a woman in my heart. And I also think the women feel the same.

I also feel that women with a child are more level headed and also in a way more dicerning in who they choose, because her choise will also affect her child.

Misha · « **Reply #19 on:** February 21, 2009, 06:14:14 PM »

Quote from: diverboy70 on February 21, 2009, 03:45:53 PM

I also feel that women with a child are more level headed and also in a way more dicerning in who they choose, because her choise will also affect her child.

Well, keep in mind there isn't exactly a test you have to take before becoming a parent, and some mothers and fathers would have failed it if there were. There is no guarantee IMHO that a woman with child will automatically be level headed.

UTRO · « **Reply #20 on:** March 10, 2009, 10:50:38 PM »

I just saw this Thread Diverboy........
I'm a little late with this, but it's good to see you back!
Good Luck this time around

Dave.

diverboy70 · « **Reply #21 on:** March 11, 2009, 01:09:08 AM »

Quote from: Utrobina on March 10, 2009, 10:50:38 PM

I just saw this Thread Diverboy........
I'm a little late with this, but it's good to see you back!
Good Luck this time around

Dave.

Thanks Dave!

I think I have learn a couple of things along the way.

And my congratulations to you and Sveta!!!

diverboy70 · « **Reply #22 on:** March 24, 2009, 10:21:44 AM »

Just a little update of the "pursuit"

I have been communicating with a girl from Riga in Latvia for about a month now. Just like my last girl she has lived abroad before (In Ireland for 7 years) But are now back in Latvia. She has a little daughter, who is 1,7 years.

We feel that we like talking to eachother, but at this stage it is strictly on a friendship basis, but both want to meet to see if there could be something else there.

I will probably go there for a weekend in April. I found some really good fares on Ryanair (about 40 € roundtrip)

After a while in this "game", you develop a gut feeling of what is real and what is not. I can just say that the I feel quite good about this. If there is no chemistry at the meeting, at least I think I have found a new friend. And I will be perfectly fine with that

I will probably go there for a weekend in April. I found some really good fares on Ryanair (about 40 € roundtrip)

Chicagoguy · « **Reply #23 on:** March 24, 2009, 04:16:03 PM »

Damn you lucky bastards who can go places with no visa for 40 Euros.

[ I don't know where the Euro/Dollar sign is on RWD ]

Misha · « **Reply #24 on:** March 24, 2009, 04:30:35 PM »

Quote from: diverboy70 on March 24, 2009, 10:21:44 AM

I have been communicating with a girl from Riga in Latvia for about a month now.

How are things in Latvia? From what I read the country is pretty close to financial collapse.

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