skimpy/risque outfits

[topofthekey]

I've done a little searching for this answer. And part of me thinks I have a good idea about the answer, but I thought I'd at least ask. I can provide an example of this too if anyone is curious what I'm talking about.

What I am talking about is young ladies (20-25) posting risque photographs on their profile. Now these aren't professional photos. They are very amateurish. They do show off the body so to speak, but we aren't talking adult pictures. We are talking about ladies in their underwear inside. Or in their bikinis outside (thongs and all that). I have seen a few where the ladies are covering their "upstairs" with their arms as well.

My guess is in a lot of cases its just not the big deal we seem to make it here in the USA. But hey... advise me on this.

[remiel6]

I think the best comment I could make about this might be to not fall in love with a photo, or think that because someone takes a photo like this it says something about thier personality. Having a background in film and photography I have met a number of women who you might think by the fact that they were willing to take a photograph like that would lead you to believe they were the kind of person they were not. A photo like that really only says that a) they feel really comfortable with the photographer b) they are confident in thier appearance and C) they believe it will help them get attention. The mistake would be to think that such a girl was "easy" because of it. In fact you may find the opposite to be true.

[TwoBitBandit]

It's been my own experience that the FSU girls that tend to dress provatively in their photos are usually trouble in high heels.

I'm sure there are exceptions, I'm just speaking from my own experience.

[SMS60]

I would always skip over the profiles with lots of skin unless it was done in good taste. It always made me think they were selling sex.

But I recieved some information from a dating site which suprised me.

EM suggests to the ladies to supply a swimsuit picture as one of the photos in their profile.

I agree its not as big of deal there as it is here.

So I guess my thinking was wrong??

[Gator]

Based on experience with many RW  (age 28-47), my opinion is that neither a true lady nor an intelligent woman will post such photos on something as public as the Internet where geezers and wankers can gawk at her.

One can get a good sense of the the woman's shapely body based on normal photos.  So why?

EM and other agencies suggest bikini photos because such photos prompt more interest ($$$) among many men.

[GoodOlBoy]

Based on experience with many RW  (age 28-47), my opinion is that neither a true lady nor an intelligent woman will post such photos on something as public as the Internet where geezers and wankers can gawk at her.

GOB

[GoodOlBoy]

......And God Bless the Motherland! 


GOB

[groovlstk]

There's really no easy answer to this question and anyone advising thumbs down to women who have bikini photos in their profile, e.g., are a bit out of touch w/the times.

Just go to odniklassniki or another Russian social networking site and look at the profile photos - many women are married and have no interest in dating other men, but they are (justifiably) proud of their appearance and happy to show the world.

There are mountains of posts here from guys claiming that one of their attractions to RW is that they are much more attentive to their appearance and take pride in their femininity. Yet they support this only as long as it falls within whatever boundaries they have separating a "good woman" from a slut. (And I'm not being wishy-washy here, look at similar threads and you'll see some guys think a bikini is OK but a thong is not, or lingerie is fine but only if it's not too revealing, etc. etc.)

I absolutely agree that there is a line separating good taste and raunch, but I also believe FSU people and Westerners draw this line in different locations.

[OlgaH]

My guess is in a lot of cases its just not the big deal we seem to make it here in the USA. But hey... advise me on this.

 As a woman I would not pay my attention to a man's photo with his naked trunk showing all his muscles. Based on my life expirience I noticed usually there is nothing to talk about with a man who tries to attract female's attention first of all demonstrating his "muscles essence" ... 

Based on experience with many RW  (age 28-47), my opinion is that neither a true lady nor an intelligent woman will post such photos on something as public as the Internet where geezers and wankers can gawk at her.

One can get a good sense of the the woman's shapely body based on normal photos.  So why?

EM and other agencies suggest bikini photos because such photos prompt more interest ($$$) among many men.

I agree with you, Gator. Probably we both have lagged behind life 

Question is what kind of man they try to attract with that bikini photos  ... but suum cuique 

[Shadow]

The first thing to consider is is the shots are really non-professional. In many cases they could be, and might be 'borrowed'.
Secondly,the recent discussion about trip report photo's has shown that RW are supposed to be very wary of who gets to see their picture. Would that be the same RW who put a picture in underwear/bikini on their profile ?
Finally, you can look at whatever they decide to show. But do not expect them to turn up that way at the airport...

[Vinnvinny]

Well I for one am more likely to buy food if I know what it tastes like, go watch a film if I know what its about, go on holiday to a destination/hotel if I know the type of experience I can expect so …. why shouldn’t I want to see quiet a bit of flesh of a lady before I started committing valuable time and money on her? For me, physical attraction is very important and the desire to get an idea of what her body looks like is only natural so some 'heads up' is highly appreciated. 

The more ‘raunch’ the better, that’s what I say and if that’s makes me shallow then so be it. If I want a Nun then I’ll go to Ireland thanks.   

[Simoni]

...if that’s makes me shallow then so be it.

Speaking of looks, don't you think it is time to change your profile pic here again?  This one troubles me... LOL

[Simoni]

I absolutely agree that there is a line separating good taste and raunch, but I also believe FSU people and Westerners draw this line in different locations.

Ditto on this statement, big time.   Just the matter of a different line...

[kievstar]

Many girls are told by agencies to show more.  Why - more letters.  More money for agencies.  Best way is fly over and face to face and see waht they wear to first meeting.

[Vinnvinny]

I absolutely agree that there is a line separating good taste and raunch, but I also believe FSU people and Westerners draw this line in different locations.

I think the line is more in the mid Atlantic but I won't be drawn on that one. 

Speaking of looks, don't you think it is time to change your profile pic here again?  This one troubles me... LOL

Hope this one is less troublesome for you. 

[Diplomacy]

I agree Groov.  Two different normals, and I like theirs better.  I also think the younger they are, the line moves to the more secure with such photo's.  Sure the agency would hype it up.

Still, I had to draw the line at my boy having to wear a speedo.  That is one line that will not be crossed.  We are going shopping for a proper bathing suit for him, before he gets anywhere near the pool. 

That does bring up the other side.  My fiance is fairly reserved in dress, in FSU terms.  Part of me says, you should discuss the thoughts others will have about her.  The other side of me, says who the heck cares what they think. 

How do you go about fashion in the USA, when a person is part of the culture here?   I know my friend's wife gave a really bad first impression with friends and family.  Any advice on the whole matter?

[Gator]

To each his own. 

I like classy, sophisticated, confident women who have something intellectual to share.  Thus, I was attracted to women whose photos and words manifested such qualities.  At my age, I did not have time to polish a diamond in the rough.

Nor would I want to parade a beautiful wife around town in revealing clothes.  It's not me.  I don't feel the need to impress anyone.

Also, if I liked a woman, a little fat would not bother me.  Too fat or too skinny is another matter, yet that level of fat-skinny can be ascertained readily with her clothes on. 

Finally, the only two women who ever asked me for money during correspondence had provocative bikini photos.

[topofthekey]

Ok first just to clarify these are young women. In some cases the woman has a lot of classy photos and then bam... one of her in that thong bikini. Other cases obviously more of the photos are risque. Some are done professionally on those sites and others are just amateurish like you'd find on MySpace and other social networking sites.

Personally, I'm not judging or doing much reading into the pictures other than to chalk it up to cultural differences. I'm not ever going to wear a speedo or post pictures of me at the lake in a speedo without a shirt on (although damn I would look good  ). But it seems many european men would post them in their profiles.

So for the most part I'm willing to chalk it up to agencies and the culture in general. That being said I haven't found too many photos of a woman in clothing that I thought was too risque. A few times I certainly comment that I hope she wouldn't wear that to meet the folks. Anyways I don't really put too much stock in pictures at all.

My only final comment is just that I'm trying obviously avoid those time wasting scammers and for that matter girls that are set on being models. I'll see a lot of stunning photos (some risque in many cases) and this girl is/wants to be a model. First I don't live in one of those major cities (Chicago, NYC, LA) where a lot of the modeling is done (so she'd have to travel). And secondly most girls don't really make very much money modeling (even very hot women). So generally I pass on profiles where it is made clear she wants to come to the USA, model, and become a famous star. Just sounds like a recipe for an unhappy woman down the road.

[mendeleyev]

Sells letters that's for certain.

The same ladies who walk thru Moscow, Kyiv or Leningrad with short skirts would rarely show thong/underwear photos online.

As Shadow mentioned, lots are borrowed photos or else meant to get a man thinking with the wrong head so that he can be taken for a financial ride. And it works. Some guys turn unbelievably dumb when a little skin shows.

I'm with Gator and my friend Olga, give me intelligent and classy.  Hmm, like my wife! (She is a gorgeous lady, but I'm the only man who gets to know about it.)

[Blues Fairy]

In my opinion, swimsuit photos posted on a profile indicate that the woman is too insecure about her ability to attract men with just her face and profile text and thinks she needs to show more than that.  Or, she thinks her body is her best asset (again, why not her face/eyes? her brain?)  So, she either considers herself not smart enough or she's genuinely dumb.   

Same goes for men who post bare-torso photos.  Either genuine stupidity, or tragically low self-esteem (which is also a brand of stupidity).

In short, I must also be "a bit out of touch w/the times" on this issue.

[SANDRO43]

...why not her face/eyes? her brain?...

I may be old-fashioned, but I wouldn't be overly turned on by a profile showing a NUDE photo like this .

[Blues Fairy]

I may be old-fashioned, but I wouldn't be overly turned on by a profile showing a NUDE photo like this .

If it had no wrinkles you could mistake it for something else.

[SANDRO43]

If it had no wrinkles you could mistake it for something else.

Now that you mention it, indeed . Alas, time ravages beauty . Or sitting too long ?

[Daveman]

The skimpy stuff seems to be generally on the younger ladies. There are many tasteful shots with swimsuits.  Hell I don't really care about that, but what really cracks me up and moves me right along to the next profile is when the do that stupid posed crap with their mouths, trying so hard to be sexy, but really just looking like idiots with mouth deformities.

[Faux Pas]

It will always be a matter of personal preference unless of course you live in some of the more strict muslim countries. Those showing a lot of skin in the cheap photos will garner a good bit of attention. I can only assume it will be largely negative but that may be her pursuit. A good general rule of thumb would be that, if it makes you wince or even think about it for a minute, she's most likely NOT the girl for you.

FWIW my future wife's body kept me in suspense until we met. I could see from recent pictures that she had a wonderful figure. Her profile or subsequent pictures didn't give any indication of the wonderful surprise I had later. For that I am truly thankful.