Russian coming to visit me

[rockyb_1]

Well it has been over a year since I joined this site and started my search for a russian woman.

I can say I found one pretty easy and fast that I liked.  We have spoke to each other for over a year now, and well its amazing.

She is coming to visit me here in Canada this year.  She and her parents are paying for the entire trip, and have a place to stay and everything.

Does this sound to good to be true? I'm extremely happy about this and cannot wait.

My question is, how can I verify she is not going to be scam me? My intentions with her are very sincere and possibly marriage.  I just want to make sure she is not some kind of very good scammer.

Is there any websites I can search for phone numbers, I have her address, we sent letters as well.

Any tips at verifying she is legit and not a very very good scammer because it seems sooo good to be true.

Thanks


I also did a lot of searching on the russian facebook to try to find her, because I know she mentioned it one time that she uses it but couldn't find her.  Anytips on how to find her on that?

[Ravens9273]

Relax and enjoy the visit.

They are paying for the trip themselves. No scam there. If all 3 are coming and can get visa this is also sign this is a family in the above average financial situation for Russia. Odds are they do not need your money.

I say forget about it and have a good time with them. I see nothing for you to fear. If anything your fear may cause you to ruin the visit.

Have fun and good luck.

[rockyb_1]

It is her and 2 friends, parents are not coming.

I will enjoy it, she is amazing. She is only 21 and I'm 24, she knows I have very minimal money but she wants to meet me so bad.

[ECOCKS]

Enjoy yourself.

Turn down the gain on your radar, but don't turn it off!

Relax!

[Sculpto]

wow congrats!

I think you hve little to worry about in regards to scam.

I think you have more to worry about regarding the normal expectations versus reality issue.

I would guess both of you have very high expectations. 

What happens if you don't click in real life?

What happens if you do?  I would guess if she is coming to see you and her parents are paying for the trip there are some very serious expectations.  Are you prepared for that?

Best of luck!    Keep us posted!

[OlgaH]

What happens if you don't click in real life?

She is coming with two friends, maybe he will be lucky and her two friends are girls 

[rockyb_1]

She is coming with two friends, maybe he will be lucky and her two friends are girls 

They are both girls coming with her.

She knows english fluently but her friends only know a bit of the language.

Any tips for me to make her stay amazing?

[OlgaH]

Any tips for me to make her stay amazing?

I guess it should depend on her interests 

[Ravens9273]

They are both girls coming with her.

She knows english fluently but her friends only know a bit of the language.

Any tips for me to make her stay amazing?

You know some times you can have more fun with someone doing nothing, yet have a bad time with someone else doing the greatest things in the world?
If the two of you have chemisty. It will not matter what you do.
It is obvious you like her alot. Your posts show you are very nervous. This is good sign.
If her parents are also helping to pay for the trip this is possible sign of how much she talks about you at home.
Just be yourself. I think the two of you will have an amazing time even if you do nothing at all. Being together is all you will need.

[OlgaH]

If her parents are also helping to pay for the trip this is possible sign of how much she talks about you at home.

and two other girls also talk about him at home  Maybe her parents pay for a tourist visa 

[brucen36]

Can I ask you how she managed to get a visa to visit Canada?

Thanks,

B

[JR]

If they're paying their own way she's probably not a scammer. I'd just enjoy the experience and not worry too much.

[Globetrotter]

Sounds like you have never met her...visited her, but wrote and spoke to each other...correct?  And...you are seriously contemplating marriage?  Just leave Hollywood in California, and why not just say you will be getting to know each other.  Well, at least you don't need an interpreter on your first date!  Incredible. 

[Fogged]

I have very minimal money but she wants to meet me so bad.

I hate to put a damper on this but are you aware that if you do get married and you apply for a Permanent Residence application, you are solely financially responsible for her. How can you do that with minimal money? There is even the possibility that CIC will reject the application based on your financial status. Let's not get ahead of the situation, enjoy the the visit, and leave marriage out of the equation.

[groovlstk]

My question is, how can I verify she is not going to be scam me? My intentions with her are very sincere and possibly marriage.  I just want to make sure she is not some kind of very good scammer.

These three sentences are incongruous, you're jumping from point A to point Z.

Read what Globetrotter wrote above.

[Sculpto]

I keep telling you guys are wasting time and money on agency pay sites... that method is simply a waste of time anymore.. there are more and more FSUW on the open internet every single day!

The Russian groups on facebook alone are an awesome source.  But, a guy has to take a different approach.

[ECOCKS]

They are out there (the women with visas) but are still pretty rare. You have to ask yourself how they could get visas. Then you have to ask how they could afford the tickets. For the US and Canada it is still difficult and questions are asked regarding what indicators are present that they will return when their trip is finished. Also, at this time of year the work and play students are starting to head for their work locations. A significant number work the minimum amount of time necessary to justify the "work" portion of their assignment and then start traveling.

[OlgaH]

They are out there (the women with visas) but are still pretty rare.

Sounds like The X-files 

[ECOCKS]

We'll check with Scully and Mulder for an opinion.

[Globetrotter]

Some MOB guys still amaze me.  How could a premise, concept, accent, or skirt, make some throw all logic out the window.  Most marriages last 7 years on average.  Do you really think that language, culture, distance, makes this easier?

I ain't throwing "stink" on the parade, as I like the fact that there are so many to choose from, but it is very far from being easy, or easier.  You only need to look right here in the last month or so to see how difficult it is, even for those who thought that their relationships were solid.

Know that if you are European, Australian, Canadian, American or Asian, that marriage in the eyes of these gorernments means the formation of a corporation for which you are at least 50% liable.  Even at the age of 24, one could screw himself if he were a Moe!  I'm still amazed!

PS:  My dog died in my arms today.  I told him he did very well for a free dog that nobody wanted, and that I would see him in heaven.  Even the vet was in tears as she administered the "hemlock"...but it was his time.  His name was Buddy.

[Shadow]

They are out there (the women with visas) but are still pretty rare. You have to ask yourself how they could get visas. Then you have to ask how they could afford the tickets. For the US and Canada it is still difficult and questions are asked regarding what indicators are present that they will return when their trip is finished. Also, at this time of year the work and play students are starting to head for their work locations. A significant number work the minimum amount of time necessary to justify the "work" portion of their assignment and then start traveling.

The got the visas by applying to the US or Canadian Embassy. Then they paid for the ticket with... money.
There are many Russians who are not as poor as you seem to regard them....

[Ronnie]

PS:  My dog died in my arms today.  I told him he did very well for a free dog that nobody wanted, and that I would see him in heaven.  Even the vet was in tears as she administered the "hemlock"...but it was his time.  His name was Buddy.

Dogs are the highest example of innocence, loyalty and positive attitude.  He is the happiest dog in heaven today having left this life surrounded by peace and love.

Coincidentally, Buddy was my dad's name and he had the good fortune of dying in my mom's arms after a long bout with cancer at age 34. 

I say good fortune because they are the survivors who are left with the grief and often financial distress.  My dad left three small children behind and and was too young to have accumulated any assets.   It was difficult for a while, but my mom was a remarkable and positive woman.  In the end, I think it turned out to be a blessing that he died at that seemingly inopportune time.

Last night my wife pointed out a mole under her breast that she said is getting darker and larger of late.  We will certainly have it checked out next week but it got me thinking about the inevitability of dying. Being 10 years older than my wife, I have always assumed I would go first and have tried to prepare her to be self-reliant in her new home country and to deal with the financial affairs for which she has had very little training.   

As we lay in bed last night I held her and tried to imagine the sweet agony of death.  I determined that I while I should prepare her to live without me, I should also hope that I can outlive her. 

Her sister lost her husband last year.  They had been together since they were teenagers.  She knew no other love in her life but him.  What's tragic is that he died alone in a Ukrainian hospital - his family having gone to the dacha that Saturday morning and he staying behind not feeling well.

Since we all pass from this life at some unknown point there is but one comfort we can take regardless of our faith, and that is to have the last words we hear be those of our beloved.

[Sculpto]

Ronnie..

Take a bow man.. excellent post. 

Now.. to get this thread back on track a bit..

There are what 140 million Russians more or less living in Russia.. correct?  If a mere 1% of them have a standard of living that would be considered middle class by Americans that still leaves a heck of a lot of people who would easily have the ability to travel internationally by having the requisite cash in bank and compelling reason to return.. and probably a passport already filled with stamps.  I don't know if anyone noticed but between all the different airlines there are multiple daily flights to and from Russia and the US.  Most of the people on those flights are Russian.  Certainly some of them already live in the US, but not all of them do.  My point is.. its not nearly as hard to imagine a Russian lady coming to the US of her own accord.  In fact I would say it is happening every single day.  Maybe the newest trend will be to hang out at the major airports and just wait for them to get off the plane.. guys could hang out with a sign pinned to their forehead. 

[ECOCKS]

The got the visas by applying to the US or Canadian Embassy. Then they paid for the ticket with... money.
There are many Russians who are not as poor as you seem to regard them....

Funny, there are dozens of people rejected at the US Embassy every day. That's despite having their tickets in hand. crying in the lobby and waving money around. The head of Visas and Immigration at the Canadian Embassy still says it is amazing how many people think they can get a visa just because they have money and bought their ticket.

It's RARE to find FSU citizens, particularly young, unmarried females with multiple entry US visas.

[Sculpto]

It's RARE to find FSU citizens, particularly young, unmarried females with multiple entry US visas.

I could go out to the Richmond District of SF today and find dozens with next to no effort.  College students, girls with relatives already here, slightly older ladies with legit business reasons and so on.  Even if you look on the free Russian language sites and search US locations, especially New York, Chicago and LA you can find hundreds, no thousands, of legit ladies already here or who are on their way.  Go on vkontakt and there are thousands more who have already been here for one reason or another, speak English fluently and may very well be open to the idea of dating a man from the US or some other western country.  Times are changing...  Mishenka is going to meetup group events with dozens of available FSUW in the San Diego area.  Same things probably exist in most major metro areas.