Out of the blue

[ScottinCrimea]

Since we're talking about FSU dentists, I'll put my two cents worth in.  While I was living in Ukraine I had a problem that was due to poor workmanship by my dentist in the US.  It cost me 60 cents for the X-ray and $10 for the dentist there to fix the problem.  the X-ray machine was 50's era, but the rest of the equipment was state of the art.  I guess it's the same there as here, your results will vary depending on who you see.

[Aloe]

i dont know much about tooth jobs, i had 1 filling done like 10 years ago, its still fine, so im very happy with it, and i also had braces, but thats an orthodontist, also happy with that;

mies, what would you do, if you have a severe tooth ache and you dont have any money and nobody to loan from, sit and suffer rather than ask your fiance for money?

[Faux Pas]

i dont know much about tooth jobs, i had 1 filling done like 10 years ago, its still fine, so im very happy with it, and i also had braces, but thats an orthodontist, also happy with that;

mies, what would you do, if you have a severe tooth ache and you dont have any money and nobody to loan from, sit and suffer rather than ask your fiance for money?

Contrary to what some others posters think, don't expect him to read your mind. No man can. Not RM, BM or AM. You've married a man and trust me here, we're not that complicated. More often than not we have to be told what you are thinking and communication is paramount for any marriage. If you have a tooth or any other problem that requires money or other help from him, do him a very large favor and tell him

[aventino68]

Contrary to what some others posters think, don't expect him to read your mind. No man can. Not RM, BM or AM. You've married a man and trust me here, we're not that complicated. More often than not we have to be told what you are thinking and communication is paramount for any marriage. If you have a tooth or any other problem that requires money or other help from him, do him a very large favor and tell him

I completely agree with this. Women like to chat about problems and men like to find solutions. I have had G/F's in the past who wanted me to hear their problems but didn't necessarily want solutions

[JR]

Contrary to what some others posters think, don't expect him to read your mind. No man can. Not RM, BM or AM. You've married a man and trust me here, we're not that complicated. More often than not we have to be told what you are thinking and communication is paramount for any marriage. If you have a tooth or any other problem that requires money or other help from him, do him a very large favor and tell him

BINGO! My ex used to get steaming mad at me when I couldn't read her thoughts. She's say "My mother always knows what I'm thinking, if you loved me you would too." I would just tell her "I love you but I'm not your mother." It never seemed to make her happy...

[JR]

I completely agree with this. Women like to chat about problems and men like to find solutions. I have had G/F's in the past who wanted me to hear their problems but didn't necessarily want solutions

BINGO again! Men are doers. Women are talkers. Women will talk thru the issue of the house not being big enough whereas a man will grab a hammer and build a bigger house never understanding she didn't want a bigger house just needed to talk about it.

[kievstar]

Not hard to figure out what a woman wants.  Will have to disagree.

[Daveman]

I completely agree with this. Women like to chat about problems and men like to find solutions. I have had G/F's in the past who wanted me to hear their problems but didn't necessarily want solutions

hahaha! yeah, ain't it a bitch? because the solution is *always* so crystal clear!  We tend to be "bottom line" where they "talk meander" all over the place forever.... and ever....... and ever! 

So we pretend to listen while you dream of that juicy steak!  or... that other stuff we get after we pretend to listen.. 

[mies]

Contrary to what some others posters think, don't expect him to read your mind. No man can. Not RM, BM or AM. You've married a man and trust me here, we're not that complicated. More often than not we have to be told what you are thinking and communication is paramount for any marriage. If you have a tooth or any other problem that requires money or other help from him, do him a very large favor and tell him

see - I would not expect my fiance to do guessing. I would not expect him to give me money either. And I do not expect my husband to play guessing game. If i need something - i make it crystal clear that i need it. If i don't need it but want it - i will say that i want it but it isn't very important. I do not need to ask my husband for presents or hope he'll guess what present i want from him because firstly - i love all his presents, and secondly - i can always buy myself what i need or want. I do not need to hope he'll guess that something needs to be repaired firstly because i'm familiar quite well with hummer and stuff, and if i am not strong enough to do manual work - i will plainly ask him to help me. Or he will offer his help seeing me struggling. I do not agree that I am not a doer. I do not complain to my husband either. It is possible that I am not a woman, but highly unlikely.

Aloe - I do not know how to answer your question - what would i do. I hope I will never find myself in such situation. If I were single, did not have money myself - I would ask my closest friends or parents. Of course I would pay them back. I've come close to it twice in my life - when I thought i needed money urgently and I was considering borrowing from my parents or friends. But I was very ashamed to ask them for money. So I set, did some planning and prioritized expenses from next paychecks, and with planning and luck - i ended up not borrowing. If I were not married and had fiance and needed money urgently - i would ask money from him only if neither my friends nor my parents could lend me.  My fiance would not be the first person I would ask for money.
Now as i am married - we decide on financial issues together with my husband, and of course his and mine health and safety are #1 priority. So if visit to dentist is necessary - we aren't trying to make my husband or me suffer by postponing this visit.

[Muddy]

Still can't believe how easily she let me form a bond with her daughter when the relationship was meaningless to her.

Things change, maybe she found a man who would help her every month, send her money, and you didnt...

also many of these girls meet foriegn men but also have their local boyfriendSSSSSSSS, I know what I am talking abut

forget her, move on

[Aloe]

see - I would not expect my fiance to do guessing. I would not expect him to give me money either. And I do not expect my husband to play guessing game. If i need something - i make it crystal clear that i need it. If i don't need it but want it - i will say that i want it but it isn't very important. I do not need to ask my husband for presents or hope he'll guess what present i want from him because firstly - i love all his presents, and secondly - i can always buy myself what i need or want. I do not need to hope he'll guess that something needs to be repaired firstly because i'm familiar quite well with hummer and stuff, and if i am not strong enough to do manual work - i will plainly ask him to help me. Or he will offer his help seeing me struggling. I do not agree that I am not a doer. I do not complain to my husband either. It is possible that I am not a woman, but highly unlikely.

Aloe - I do not know how to answer your question - what would i do. I hope I will never find myself in such situation. If I were single, did not have money myself - I would ask my closest friends or parents. Of course I would pay them back. I've come close to it twice in my life - when I thought i needed money urgently and I was considering borrowing from my parents or friends. But I was very ashamed to ask them for money. So I set, did some planning and prioritized expenses from next paychecks, and with planning and luck - i ended up not borrowing. If I were not married and had fiance and needed money urgently - i would ask money from him only if neither my friends nor my parents could lend me.  My fiance would not be the first person I would ask for money.
Now as i am married - we decide on financial issues together with my husband, and of course his and mine health and safety are #1 priority. So if visit to dentist is necessary - we aren't trying to make my husband or me suffer by postponing this visit.

so you are that way and im this way; i dont see anything wrong in asking my fiance for money for a tooth ache, and you think its wrong, there is no point in going like "what a world im living in", everyone is different