Howdy, ya'll..........

[Show Time]

No, I really don't talk like that.

An AFA client referred me to this site and after lurking around for a few days, I realized that it was time for me to register and get involved with the discussion.  I am extremely new the actual process of meeting someone abroad, but I've been toying around with the idea (on and off) for a little more than ten years now.  Wow!  Where has the time gone?

For those of you with short attention spans, I'll give you the executive summary.  I'm 33 years old, I have never been married, and have no children (that I'm aware of....... c'mon you know you want to laugh).  I am from Louisiana and now reside in Texas.  (Short Attention Span guys can quit reading now)

In the event some of you are devilishly curious as to who the new guy is, I just so happen to have some time on my hands.   Here we go.......................................

I was born in Louisiana in 1975, the same day the New Orleans Saints played their first game in the Louisianan Superdome.  Bonus if anyone can guess my birthday.  I would say that my financial situation growing up was lower-middle class.  We didn't have any fancy extras, but I never went to bed hungry either.  My father worked for the Department of Corrections, and my mother was a stay at home mom.  Anybody else remember the good ole days?  My upbringing had it's pros and cons (just like everyone's).  The pros, of course, being that I had good supervision growing up and that I learned the value of hard work and saving.  The con, as I would learn in high school and college, is that (for me anyway) it seemed that the attractive American women put little value on hard work and doing what you truly believe to be right the thing regardless of the circumstances.

To make a long story short (relatively short), I was the guy in high school and college that was helping the pretty young ladies with homework, advice, crisis management, etc., but not dating them.  Can any of you relate?  Anyway, I graduated with a degree in Chemical Engineering in 1997 and found myself in the very fortunate position of having a solid job in hand and no debt.  I bought my first home at 21 and began planning the rest of my life.  Considering that I had little luck in college, I began to use the internet to explore my dating options and eventually found myself stumbling across AFA.  I corresponded with one lady on the site and even talked on the phone a few times, but something happened in the interim.  I BECAME POPULAR WITH WOMEN. 

Maybe it was the fact that I was making good money considering my age and location.  Maybe it was because I had happened to meet a few key people in a small town.  Maybe it was because I was finally comfortable with who I was.  I wouldn't learn the answer until much later, but the one thing I learned quickly was that the women who wouldn't date me a year ago were ready to marry me!  WTF?!  It took me about four years to "catch up" on what I had missed out on in the past eight years, but needless to say, I enjoyed every minute of it.  Eventually I realized that the women I was dating were lacking something.  They weren't all lacking the same something, but they were all lacking.  It seemed to me that the sexy, stylish, outgoing ladies were just that.  They had gotten everything they wanted from men (starting with their fathers) and they assumed that was the way it would always be.  I really have a problem with that.  Is that really what you want to teach you're children some day.  Of course, the other side of the coin was just as discouraging.  The women that were hard workers and would make good mothers were plain (and that's being nice).  There was nothing about them that excited me.

I figured the problem was that I was in a small town and therefore my selection was limited.  So, I solved the problem.  I moved to Dallas, TX.  Now for those of you that don't know much about Texas, let me assure you that it's a lot more than cattle ranches.  I would venture that Dallas is a smaller version of Los Angelos.  It's ALL about image there.  Anyway, it took me a few months to figure out the dating scene, but I eventually got a grip on it and was beginning to see that the size of the city would not solve my "one deminsional American woman" problem. 

Things were moving along and then it happened, or should I say she happened.  She was an eighteen year old who became instantly infatuated with me at a charity event.  I was 26 at the time and should have run like hell, but what guy actually does that.  Things progressed very slowly as I was trying to keep things at safe level (All fathers in TX have firearms.  Yes, that stereotype is true.).  Anyway, she wouldn't let up.  She wanted to know what I was looking for, what kind of woman would I want to spend spend the rest of my life with, etc.  By the way, she was the plain type.  I finally broke down and told her exactly why she wasn't what I considered to be the complete woman.  Her response floored me.  "Work with me", she said.  And that's exactly what happened, for the next five years.

Things were going great, at least I thought they were, until I found out a horrible truth one day.  She was cheating on me.  I was crushed, but I moved on.  I moved to Houston, TX.  I started a new job.  I vowed that I would never "build someone" again.  Instead, I would become the man necessary to get the woman I wanted.  This is where the story goes from wild to almost insane.  I had just moved to Houston and was at the book store in the dating/relationship section when I came across "The Game" by Neil Strauss.  OMG!!  That was an eye opening read.  I finally understood why I had success right after college.  The mystery of what caused my ex to cheat was solved.  The tools needed to find my perfect soul mate were in my hands.  Almost. 

Am I a pickup artist?  No.  Am I comfortable talking to women?  Yes.  Do I have success with the women I meet?  Yes.  Have I found an American women that's two dimensional?  NO.  A few months ago, I found myself back at AFA's website.......12 years later!!  It was at that moment that I realized I had dispelled one of the more prevalant myths in the community.  "Guys that look for foreign women can't get an American woman."  Has anyone else ever noticed it's the overweight American woman who is desperate need of a facial that typically says that?  I digress.

I've been doing my homework and I realize that a little bit has changed since I last looked into this.  Scamming on the "woman" side is on the rise and the MBRA has been passed which only makes it harder for the guys to find someone abroad (which is the reason I beleive it was passed).  I realize that this process is more complicated and has more pitfalls, but then again, most good things in life come at a price. 

I look forward to learning and sharing with you guys in the next few months and hope to one day have a sucess story of my own to share.

Thanks for taking the time to read and getting to know a little bit about me.

[kievstar]

Welcome to RWD.  If you have the time and money to go to Russia or Ukraine often, I think you will find finding a future wife there will be easy.  But it does take time so do not rush things.

[Aloe]

wow impressive intro you seem like a nice guy, good luck in your search. BTW wouldnt 2 dimensional woman be a picture? Better look for 3 dimensional

[groovlstk]

Do I have success with the women I meet?  Yes.  Have I found an American women that's two dimensional?  NO. 

Welcome to RWD, Show Time.

One thing you shouldn't expect to find is that Russian women are somehow more complete or more three-dimensional (and I'm assuming you meant three-dimensional above, not two) than AW. The air of mystery surrounding women from other cultures can cause you to mistakenly attribute all sorts of great qualities to them, particularly in comparison w/local women; don't fall into that silly trap.

[Aloe]

Welcome to RWD, Show Time.

One thing you shouldn't expect to find is that Russian women are somehow more complete or more three-dimensional (and I'm assuming you meant three-dimensional above, not two) than AW. The air of mystery surrounding women from other cultures can cause you to mistakenly attribute all sorts of great qualities to them, particularly in comparison w/local women; don't fall into that silly trap.

i think he meant dimension of thinking and existence, not measurements

[gemini]

Welcome to RWD!

How you are imagining you future RW, what are the exact qualities you are looking for?

[Dave13]

Welcome to RWD, You can find some useful info on this site, just take the time to read some of  the posts and ask questions. If you do go to Russia to meet someone, just relax and enjoy the trip, at the very least you will have a very interesting vacation!


Best of Luck!

Dave

[ECOCKS]

Come on in, take your shoes off (you'll need the practice) and look into the threads that are of interest.

Enjoy!

Ed

[victoria]

 Maybe it was because I was finally comfortable with who I was. 

Hi Show Time,

it is always good to be comfortable with who you are. But don't you think that your expectations are a little too high? Life is too short to teach women the way they "should" or "should not be"? (Poor little 18 old girl whom you were "teaching how to be a woman"..)

Noone is ever perfect. And if you constantly try to change something in women around you, maybe the change should be made in you?
As to women who desparately need facial... Excuse me, but who are you to judge?
Honestly, I think you need to make changes in yourself before you start shopping for a wife/girlfriend online or elsewere.... That will save a Russian girl from a heartbreak. Everyone wants to be accepted and loved the way they are.

[elliott]

But don't you think that your expectations are a little too high?

Why not set them high?  Who desires to settle for a woman that is less than the woman of his dreams?  Or vice versa for a woman.

Life is too short to teach women the way they "should" or "should not be"? (Poor little 18 old girl whom you were "teaching how to be a woman"..)

I didn't read that anywhere in his post.  You have taken something far out of context.

And if you constantly try to change something in women around you, maybe the change should be made in you?

Again, where did you see in his post that he is constantly trying to change people?
 


 

Honestly, I think you need to make changes in yourself before you start shopping for a wife/girlfriend online or elsewere

Well, Victoria...

Excuse me, but who are you to judge?

[JR]

It's SHOWTIME!!!!!!!!!! Now get out there and break a leg

Welcome.

I think you'll find that FSU women aren't much different from American women, except for the 40 or 50 pounds GOB talks about There are good ones and there are bad ones. They tend to be closer to their immediate families and generally speaking they've been through tougher times. But really there isn't this night and day difference that is hyped up on the NET and all the dating sites.

You can certainly find a good one, it just takes some work and getting over the "buck fever."

[Show Time]

WOW!  Thanks for the response, guys.

I haven't figured this whole quoting thing out yet, but I'm working on it.  I do feel that I need to clarify a point or two.


Two dimensional versus three dimensional.

I did infact mean two dimensional.  It refers to dressing nice, putting on makeup, staying in shape, etc. while maintaining a level head, understanding the value of hard work, and realizing the importance of strong values. 

In my dating experience, I have found that the women I have interacted with tend put all their eggs in one basket or the other.  It has been my experience that the women who take pride in their appearance tend to think that's all they need while those that understand the importance of family, working for you want, and having values typically dress down, don't take much pride in their appearance, and tend to be very introverted.  I call this being one dimesional.

How you are imagining you future RW, what are the exact qualities you are looking for?

Excellent question, Gemini.  I want the two-dimensional woman.  I want someone who is attractive, fit, and fun.  The lady who likes to dress up and go out.  Someone who is very socialble.  The lady that knows how to work the room.  She takes pride in her appearance.  She ALSO realizes nothing that comes easy is worth having, life is filled with compromise, and happiness is internal.  She isn't necessarily religous, but is a person of faith.  She is guided by the principle, "If my children were in the same situation, how would I want them to act or what would I want them to do?"

Come on in, take your shoes off (you'll need the practice) and look into the threads that are of interest.

Funny, Ed.  I'm learning alot of hhhmmm...... information on this site.  An old cowboy once said, "The good thing about horse sh!t is it means there has to be a horse somewhere."


Elliot, 
Thanks for having my back.  Victoria did take what I had typed out of context, but let's go easy on her.  It may have just been the result of the languange barrier.  Never the less, I owe you one, buddy.

The air of mystery surrounding women from other cultures can cause you to mistakenly attribute all sorts of great qualities to them, particularly in comparison w/local women; don't fall into that silly trap.

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But really there isn't this night and day difference that is hyped up on the NET and all the dating sites.

You can certainly find a good one, it just takes some work and getting over the "buck fever."

Great advice, guys!  That's why I'm glad I was referred to this forum.  There is some.........how shall we say..........."clever marketing" behind the agencies.  I'm already more prepared than the average guy.


And finally, a big thanks to those that PMed me with some intriguing view points.  I will respond shortly.

[gemini]

I want someone who is attractive, fit, and fun.  The lady who likes to dress up and go out.  Someone who is very socialble.  The lady that knows how to work the room.  She takes pride in her appearance.  She ALSO realizes nothing that comes easy is worth having, life is filled with compromise, and happiness is internal.  She isn't necessarily religous, but is a person of faith.  She is guided by the principle, "If my children were in the same situation, how would I want them to act or what would I want them to do?"

It sounds like me 

[victoria]

Why not set them high?  Who desires to settle for a woman that is less than the woman of his dreams?  Or vice versa for a woman.

I didn't read that anywhere in his post.  You have taken something far out of context.


Again, where did you see in his post that he is constantly trying to change people?
 


 
Well, Victoria...

wow, elliot! As long as what you said makes you happy! Good luck with that!

[Wraith]

Welcome to the forum Show Time. I can say I wish I had started this adventure back when I was thinking about it which was when I was around your age. Just the same...plenty of great information here that should help you quite a bit when you have questions.