I must be a magnet

[mies]

Mies:
Can you elaborate on that?

maybe I have misread your expectations based on your other forum posts. I can't really know what you are looking for or what's best for you. Mainly because:

I can tell you that men tend to hide certain things from the public. Especially when posting on a public forum.

Good luck in your pursuit

[UTRO]

Be careful James. How `fresh`is her breakup  ???  If it is recent she may need more time for healing.... to be alone and by herself. It is not usually wise to become involved with anyone who is recently separated. You could be her rebound. She might get to a point in your relationship where she wakes up one morning and realizes that she has nothing emotional to give to you.... that she is not ready for the seriousness of a committed relationship. When I was first separated my friend who I was living with, encouraged me to jump right back into the dating scene. I was lonely and wanted to be happy, so I did. Not a good idea. I was a pretty messed up dude and after 3 or 4 dates it was cya to each and every woman I met. I would hate to see you be in such a situation, on the receiving end. Especially after traveling all the way to Russia. Oh well, at least she gave you the `heads up` that she has some issues! Good Luck! 

[Caddydaddy]

Ooops, James, looks like I missed something, I thought you have already met this woman in real.
Well, one thing is 100% for sure, only a personal meet can tell the truth, for both.
But I think you have the heart on the right spot and the right Lady will appreciate it very much! 

Caddydaddy

[JamesDH]

Utrobina:

Be careful James. How `fresh`is her breakup  Huh?

She separated in 2005 and divorced in 2006 so it's not that fresh. I think anything over 2 years is pretty safe.
The real danger is that I may be the one on the rebound. I have been out of a serious relationship for almost 2 years but the separation has dragged on.

Misha:

More likely she may be falling for the fantasy she is projecting onto you. Keep in mind that men are not the only ones to fall in love with the fantasy of love  Lips Sealed

I tried to point out that I realize it's a fantasy for myself. After some thought and feedback from this post I think she may be more into the fantasy than I am based on her actions and comments.

you being the "first she's gone this far with" might be important to you...

It's important to me only in the fact that I believe it puts her in a more vulnerable position and not as well equipped to handle the powerful fantasy that the mind can create.
All the while admitting that I have become swept up in it myself even knowing full well what is happening.

Now to figure out how to drag myself, and her, back to reality.

[Sculpto]

I tried to point out that I realize it's a fantasy for myself. After some thought and feedback from this post I think she may be more into the fantasy than I am based on her actions and comments.

It's important to me only in the fact that I believe it puts her in a more vulnerable position and not as well equipped to handle the powerful fantasy that the mind can create.
All the while admitting that I have become swept up in it myself even knowing full well what is happening.

Now to figure out how to drag myself, and her, back to reality.

Doesn't really matter who is fantasizing more or less.. the simple issue is that a fantasy has been created.  You are right, you need to drag it back to reality.  On the other hand.. the romance of it all is really sweet and probably intoxicating.  Time to tread very very lightly.

Having faced the exact same scenario this is what I did.  I stated a serious talk was needed.  I prefaced the serious talk with how much I had enjoyed the emotional feelings.  I stated the dangers of letting emotions get out of hand during internet correspondence.  Then followed the whole thing with concrete plans to make a visit.  The response to all of it was positive and she even said she had been worrying that the fantasy had gotten out of hand. 

Best of luck.. I think you will do fine.