Hitting the limit to how many women I can juggle at once!

[MatryoshkaMan]

Well since I have "reformed" (thanks to you guys) and dropped the dud I have done a 180 and now am juggling way too many women, more than I can handle. And more are joining the list every day. Soon I'm going to hit a wall, I am finding it hard to have 2 on-line chats running at the same time, windows here and there, chimes going off all the time..just one sec honey I'll be right over...and fast so there is no tell-tale lag between comments. Typing like mad...answering questions, asking questions, a little flirt here a little flirt there...My list of "probables" is growing day by day and I don't know where to cut it off. I woke up early this morning and just started to chat away with a lady who is basically all over me, it is flattering but I hold back cause there is a few others I am into. The rankings are going up and down like the NFL entry draft. Elena's models is a waste of time for me now, I am having a total blast on singles.ru just saying hi to the nice-looking women, winks for the so-so hotties and nice notes to the babes. Response rate is of course low, there are I think 10 million users so these women are swamped. The competition there is German and Russian guys mostly so its fertile ground. One hottie that I am flirting with a lot (legs from here to the moon) told me she got 70 messages yesterday and that is not uncommon. She has a full time job just reading her mail!

I am trying not to get too serious with any of them yet, trying to keep it cool, but with a touch of romance and interest (nobody wants to chat with a dead fish) and overlooking the strong comments. One said she loved me 2 hours later (scammer or not, don't know yet, but she seems legit).

I don't want my experiment in jiggalodom to end soon, I am having a blast, these women, if they ask, will be told that I am communicating with others and will not go exclusive till after a real life meeting. I have learned my lesson and thank god because this might be the last time I can flirt with many women at once and get away with it!!

How do you guys handle the juggling act?

[2tallbill]

How do you guys handle the juggling act?

I didn't read about your previous situation, would I be correct in
assuming it was some kind of all eggs in one basket write only one
girl type of approach? and now the pendulum is swung all the way
to some kind of speed dating chat ?

If so what I recommend is for you to decide what you want and what you are
looking for. I would even recommend writing it down then making a plan as to
what and where to go from there.

Next you will probably get a bunch of differing advice from others. I would recommend
sifting through it and apply what you think will work with your plan and personality. You
will possibly get somebody spout off or try to "pull your chain" etc. I would recommend
not getting caught up in a circle chain pull and concentrating on the stuff that you think
you can make work.

If I was totally all wet in my first assumption about your situation I still think that figuring
out what you want and developing a plan to do it wouldn't be bad advice.

Udachi (good luck)

Bill

[kievstar]

Make sure you keep good notes and do not get women confused with others. If a woman does not ask, no reason to tell her your juggling women.  This is normal to juggle a lot of women.  Many guys like this part of the adventure.  Have fun.

It is interesting to me that RW are really into ICQ and skype.  I never experienced using video or instant messaging or email.  So I would like to hear how you are doing in the future. 

I am very happy to be married.  But I did like the days when I had 5 blind dates in Kiev on the same day.  Those days are gone for me.  So have fun in this adventure.  Do not rush things and have fun. The hunt is better than the ........ sometimes.

[Gator]

One said she loved me 2 hours later (scammer or not, don't know yet, but she seems legit).

Yeah, she is legit.  A legitimate scammer or tease, or legitimately immature or desperate.  Serious RW do not say such.

How do you guys handle the juggling act?

As the others said, good notes and a well written goal with a plan.  Compare each RW with your goal and plan.  Having fun should be part of the plan.  If not a good fit, drop her.  Your numbers will come down.


In 2002 I wrote 15 women.  10 answered (different situation then).  That was so much fun that I wrote 50 others, pushing the envelope.
In total, 35 fine women answered and it took me two months to come up with a shortlist of 8 for a 30-day trip to four FSU cities.  My trip was 50% travel adventure, 50% dating. 

You will enjoy immensely your trip.

[MatryoshkaMan]

up to the minute update at this second I am chatting with 2 differrent women in Omsk on Skype! One 22 and the other 31.
What fun.

[Shadow]

Yeah, she is legit.  A legitimate scammer or tease, or legitimately immature or desperate.  Serious RW do not say such.

Hold it Gator, MrsShadow did say it and was serious. Ok maybe immature (like myself  ) but serious.

[Ade]

up to the minute update at this second I am chatting with 2 differrent women in Omsk on Skype! One 22 and the other 31.
What fun.

I'm curious, how old did you say you were again?

[Tanner]

MatryoshkaMan you must have been putting in some work!  I sent out a fair amount of messages and didn't get many returns.  Maybe I am not as good looking as you.   

[MatryoshkaMan]

Wow what a day so far, just finished the last chat, I have chatted with about 5-7 women going on 11-12 straight hours. I woke up at 3:45 AM (some noise woke me up) and I couldnt go back to sleep so I turned on the laptop. Now its 3:45 PM and all the ladies in western russia and ukraine are finally asleep...and I can get some stuff done. What a blast I am in heaven. Just as I am chatting with 1 women who I think is OK I get the little "beep" and some other lady is calling. This is on singles.ru (big thanks to Misha for pointing me to it!!!). I am spending a fortune (well maybe $30 so far) sending out roses and little notes. Its great when you send a note or a wink to a hottie and they actually get back to you. My secret, good photographs of me (so many guys photos there make them look like perverted creeps).

My list is up to maybe 10 good women that I have chatted with and swapped photos, etc. This is after about 3-4 days at it. At some point I am going to have to cut it off BUT I am assuming that there will be a constant entry & exit off the list in the next few weeks. If a girl does not show me enough attention or interest NEXT!!! See I have learned my lesson well.  I was a fool to hang on too long to that 1 woman for 2 months wasting my time and money. Oh well I am making up for it now!!!!!!

[MatryoshkaMan]

to seriouslyjaded I am 38 but feel 20 again! (I was married to the cossack ball and chain for 8 years). Now its FUN TIME!

[Daveman]

... (so many guys photos there make them look like perverted creeps).

Nah, those are merely posers. We *real* perverted creeps have somewhat decent photos too..    BoooOOooooOOoorsht!

My list is up to maybe 10 good women that I have chatted with and swapped photos, etc. This is after about 3-4 days at it. At some point I am going to have to cut it off BUT I am assuming that there will be a constant entry & exit off the list in the next few weeks. If a girl does not show me enough attention or interest NEXT!!! See I have learned my lesson well.  I was a fool to hang on too long to that 1 woman for 2 months wasting my time and money. Oh well I am making up for it now!!!!!!

Yep, and you'll find, after this euphoria of hot babes wears off, that you'll actually be weeding out MOST of them for various reasons.  Get focused on the character/personality/interests/lifestyle/traits of the type of woman you want so you don't waste time/effort/money visiting even one woman who----  a) ain't into you and b) doesn't really fit with you.  Don't settle for anything less, no matter how hot she might be, or you'll wind up with another ball and chain making your life miserable. 

[MatryoshkaMan]

Holy crap I am burned out. All weekend chatting on-line with women. This has got to stop. My life is being dominated by RW's again! It is hard to chat simultaneously with 3 different women and keep the waiting time short. Gotta type like mad and for some I have to do translations on the fly with google. Back and forth. I feel like President Obama lol. Overworked and overexposed!

[Kuna]

Holy crap I am burned out. All weekend chatting on-line with women. This has got to stop. My life is being dominated by RW's again! It is hard to chat simultaneously with 3 different women and keep the waiting time short. Gotta type like mad and for some I have to do translations on the fly with google. Back and forth. I feel like President Obama lol. Overworked and overexposed!

Dude... you sound manic!

I don't know if you're serious about finding love and marriage or if you're still getting over your ex but I can tell you one thing...  when "we" (men) act with bursts of adrenaline we are unlikely to even see what we're looking for.

My advice to ANYONE searching is to keep your feet on the ground while searching.  Be sure about what you're looking for and why...  decide how you'll find them and stick to your original plans rather than get tied up in the hype and adrenaline bursts as they hit hour by hour - day by day.

You ONLY need to find one perfect match...  you may decide to take the WMVM route but in that case any talk of romance would be inappropriate wouldn't it? There's plenty of time for romance, head rushes and adrenaline bursts after you've found "the one".

If you are seriously seeking a life partner you might like to reconsider your approach. 

btw... at 38 you might feel 20 when chatting to 22 yr olds...  but you're not.  You're still a 38 yr old divorcee and whilst the chat might be exciting it won't ever be as fulfilling as a genuine relationship...will it?

Sorry for bursting the bubble...  and good luck!

Kuna

[Blues Fairy]

Holy crap I am burned out. All weekend chatting on-line with women. This has got to stop. My life is being dominated by RW's again! It is hard to chat simultaneously with 3 different women and keep the waiting time short. Gotta type like mad and for some I have to do translations on the fly with google. Back and forth. I feel like President Obama lol. Overworked and overexposed!

Why do I feel sick to the stomach reading this thread? 

Imagine an RW comes to this forum and starts "complaining"(=bragging) about juggling more AM than she can handle. 

[OlgaH]

Blues Fairy,

I feel the same.

I think some of the definitions of "juggle" fit well the situation: to engage in manipulation especially in order to achieve a desired end; to practice deceit or trickery on; to manipulate in order to deceive; misrepresent facts...

[Gator]

Why do I feel sick to the stomach reading this thread? 

Imagine an RW comes to this forum and starts "complaining"(=bragging) about juggling more AM than she can handle. 

It happens with three exceptions:

1.  No posting in English forums (you can tell me what the RW say in Russian forums).
2.  No bragging.
3.  No dating of men at the same time (same week).

[MatryoshkaMan]

I am just chatting/being social with these women, this is not a "mail order bride" site, this is a russian dating site. So a lot of the women I am chatting with have never spoken/chatted with someone from over here and they are doing it, I think, even just to practise their english. There is no romance or committment promised just everyday chat about stuff. Like Facebook or Twitter. I'll chat with anyone, even women who I am not really attracted to. Just fun to chat with people in different countries. And by the way these women are also chatting with numerous, sometimes dozens, of other men. One women said she gets anywhere from 20 to 70 mails a day from guys. Day after day, so she is chatting at the same time with likely 5 guys at least, I can tell. So please don't be offended. Sorry if this thread has turned into a blog or something like that.

[OlgaH]

MatryoshkaMan,

I think you should be honest with women and tell them as it is. Women who are in the same situation as you will understand. So no juggling tricks, no lies and you will have more free communication.

[Blues Fairy]

No posting in English forums (you can tell me what the RW say in Russian forums).

I don't go to Russian forums for this very reason: to avoid vulgarity.  I realize this forum is for AM, not RW.  But I kinda hoped men came to this forum for advice and intelligent discussion, not to rub their egos in this fashion.  

[pitbull]

I don't go to Russian forums for this very reason: to avoid vulgarity.  I realize this forum is for AM, not RW.  But I kinda hoped men came to this forum for advice and intelligent discussion, not to rub their egos in this fashion.  

Blues Fairy,

Do you seriously believe that the overall quality of posters on this forum (especially concerning its theme) is higher than those on Russian forums? If yes, why?

Thanks

[Blues Fairy]

Do you seriously believe that the overall quality of posters on this forum (especially concerning its theme) is higher than those on Russian forums? If yes, why?

I have no idea; it's a subjective thing.  From the Russian forum I had an urge to run after a day or two.  Here, so far, tolerable with a few exceptions.

[SANDRO43]

AGENCY CHAT LAMENT

Here's the sad case of a newby new boy,
Hard at play with his newly-found toy.
If he pays for the fun,
It won't take a long run,
To find out he's in chat with Fat Yuri's employ.

P.S.: for a definition of Fat Yuri, see entry in the RWD Glossary .

[I/O]

I am chatting with 2 differrent women in Omsk on Skype! One 22 and the other 31.

Buddy, "Up to the minute" I'm living with 4 different women in Omsk, 1=24, 1=27, 1=48, 1=71. Ya know something? Every single one of them, without exception would happily hand your arse to you in a heartbeat. I guess it might be prudent to mention, 1 is my sister in law, 1 is my mother in law, 1 is my mother and 1 is my wife. Oh, did I mention Babushka and Dedushka, did I mention the 2 knockouts in the next apartment or about 20 others we socialise with most days that you would give your left nut to sniff their perfume as they walked past?

How's your ego stroke going? Perhaps you might consider that as we walked down the boulevard a few minutes ago there was a mixture of arse 3 feet wide and 3 inches wide (I tend to the 3 inch wide variant 'self like) and every one of those arses, even the not so cute ones, had a Russian bow.

That said, the 30 something honey in the coffee shop attached to the new hardware store would have been worth more than a few minutes chatting up for a single guy on the prowl as she was a more than willing participant in helping me practice my abysmal Russian when I was there today buying a couple of light bulbs for Baba and Deda's apartment .

Point is, the name is appropriate, a "hollow doll" and that is exactly how these Omsk women, Russian women, probably any women will see you until you show some substance, that is, turning up. Just a tad of advice, make sure you've got your wits a lot more about you than you've shown in this thread. Maybe it was Groov (I can't remember) said a long time ago, this is the best singles bar in the world but it will cost you 3K to walk in the door. Have you the "ticker" to walk in the door? If you haven't, stop annoying the scammers who have business to get on with and stop annoying the handful of really lovely people who are genuinely hoping to meet someone as nice as they are.

Perhaps you might consider the sight I observed on Saturday afternoon which understates what a wonderfully kind and hospitable race these people really are. We walked past a WWII tank and my father, now an old man of German extract wondered over to take a closer look, an old Russian with his two lovely grand daughters were there also. The Russian struck up a conversation and without much common language these two old men were warming to each other in moments, particularly after my wife stepped in to translate. That paled into insignificance compared to what I heard as the old men parted, the Russian said to his grandkids, I need to find a present for this man. ~OMG~, did we feel small or what!! My question to you is as useless as this post, but 1) can you picture yourself in such a situation and 2) do you deserve the affection and trust of such people?


I/O

[Misha]

This is on singles.ru (big thanks to Misha for pointing me to it!!!).

You are welcome!

[Makkin]

I/O,


  Confused by your post and recent posts. Hope everything is okay for you?

Makkin