FSUW and spending money

[Gator]

Do you think if you were broke she will stay with you or find another man with her usual $3000 spending limit? lol

Muddy,

The probability of Kievstar going broke is equal to the probability of you getting rich.

[Muddy]

Muddy,

The probability of Kievstar going broke is equal to the probability of you getting rich.

I am rich already, don't want to get richer!

[Makkin]

   Muddy,

    Go outside away from this internet site for an hour or two....Breathe the air "outside".


Makkin

[Sculpto]

hmmm.. I think I am going to have to turn on the anti troll device.  All normal and intelligent people should hold their noses for a minute.. this is gonna stink.

Muddy, you aren't offering anything of any value to this thread.  While Ken and I might not be best buddies your comment was way out of line and his restraint has been admirable.  If you do not have anything to contribute that is intelligent and useful, really man, stop posting because if you don't I am certainly going to hurt your feelings.

Getting out the tongue sharpener now.. vampire teeth extended.. yeti face mask is on..

really want to play Muddy?   

[Andrew]

As kievstar said "Do what you speak and be careful how you speak. "
I learned very quickly to be careful of how I speak. Seemed that even just mentioning something in passing meant that I had made a promise.
"But you promised" and "Do you remember that you promised to do so and so and now you not do"
Yikes, yep, I learned very quickly to choose my words very carefully

[Gator]

I am rich already...

If so, it doesn't show.

[Sculpto]

Sooo.. now that the troll has returned to the cave we can get back on topic..

just got off the phone with "A".. her girlfriend wants to go to Sochi and invited "A" to go also to visit her parents.. "A" told me she didn't think it is a good idea because to will be expensive and she wants to save money for Mexico.  I said, go if you wish, I will pay all in Mex.. in Sochi you will stay in the house of your friends Mother and cook, it will not be expensive.. so she replied that she will not go, she needs the money for Mex and doesn't need an extra vacation, plus, she has only one confirmed project and who knows what will be later so it is better to not go in Sochi.

Finally I think I am starting to get this way of communicating.  I am sure if I said, no don't go to Sochi.. she would be going. 

Then she asked me about buying cars in USA.. she said.. "how much it is to buy not new a little ugly car?"  She is asking for herself.. surprised me. I was a bit worried i was going to be making TWO car payments.. so, it would seem the frugality has returned.  I think the perfume and purse was a one time splurge.. nothing wrong with that.. like i have never done it myself. 

So, I do have a question for the gents whose wives are frugal.  My question is.. does that impact your own spending habits?  For example.. I love to travel and take day or weekend trips around NorCal.  I would love to get a flat screen, but, my old tv is fine and I don't watch it that much.. rather spend the 1000 bucks to go up to Tahoe for three nights and live it up a bit..

How would your ladies react?  Would they see more value in the new hidef TV that can be enjoyed every day for a long time, or, the lovely romantic weekend in the mountains that is in a moment in time but might be a lifelong memory?

[UTRO]

I just started an 'Allowance' for Sveta. In the figurative context I have to agree it sounds derogatory. In reality it is based on what I can afford and what she may need.
She recently quit her job as a VIP client manager. This involved dealing with wealthy clients and local businessmen. As with many Russians with high testosterone, they demanded perfect service. Many treated her like crap to the extent of showing up at her office screaming and swearing at her if things weren't to their liking After five years working there, seeing her responsibilities grow tenfold and the last straw having her departments salary drop by 10%... she threw in the towel. She didn't need the stress. So she is now back freelancing as an English Teacher and Translating. Actually, Translating letters from Western men to Russian women and visa versa! How ironic, eh??
Anyhow, the money will be there for her to use if needed. Once in Canada there will be no 'Allowance'. Like any wife, she is my equal and what is hers is mine and what is mine is hers. The bank Account(s) will be Joint.

[ECOCKS]

Even the best intentions are hard to keep when there are too many financial details to keep in one's head.  Unless I see my online balance it's hard for me to calculate how much more I can afford to spend.  Having access to my husband's balance instead of keeping my own would complicate things for me, not make them easier. 

Part of that is unclear, but if it works for you, by all means enjoy it.

[ECOCKS]

Sounds reasonable Utro. More importantly it sounds planned and reasoned.

Since my wife and I are in the States right now, we left babushka with a debit card and a couple of thousand dollars in the account. Mentally I budget for her to pull out about $1000 a month and I replenish without thinking much about it based upon the running total I keep in my head.

A couple of people here have raised the difference between budgeting and allowance, babushka understands this pretty well without explaining. She regards it as a victory if she only takes out $700 and when I think to check the balance I adjust the next deposit to be sure she has her budget amount for next month. The unused money doesn't pile up anywhere.

My wife has a debit card but other than an occasional "can we afford..." question, her usual method is to see something she wants and come ask if we can "pick this up today" or "someday, I would like.."

[groovlstk]

My wife and I have shared bank accounts and credit cards. When we got married, her money and my money became our money. I handle all our finances but we discuss all expenditures over a certain threshold (approximately $100 or over, but we never specifically discussed a threshold).

FWIW, I'd recommend that any guy who is not yet married but in a serious relationship have some long, long talks with their gf/fiancee about $$, prospects, and goals. My wife and I have always approached this as a team and make decisions based on what we think will be best for our future and our family's future. We have not had a single argument about $$ in our time together, and this is a point of pride to us both.

[kievstar]

Been gone for a couple days.  I am not a great writer so I think some of my words gave the wrong meaning to everyone.  When I was little, I refused to read and write and spent a lot of time in the corner of the classroom.  My punishment was 3-4 years of summer school.

I have not yet bought 4,000 usd purses for my wife.  My point was high quality clothes are very expensive.  If I told my wife to go buy a high quality purse, she would come back after 2 weeks looking with one over 2,000 usd.  If I give her 500 usd and tell her to go buy a purse she will have a purse and something else and not have gone over the 500 usd. 

Regarding the phone I will not buy a gold phone which will not work in many countries for 2,000 usd.  Gold phones in Ukraine tend to be fake anyways.  I have bought one before but the price was only 1,200 Euros and it broke and the warranty was no good after 2 months and had to bribe a clerk 50 usd to get a new phone.  Than my ex girl had it stolen in a nightclub.  I never wanted to buy the gold phone in the first place as expensive electronic gadgets are a waste of money IMO.  I did not tell me wife these details on the phone.  She is still using her old phone but it really is broken.  So next time I see her I will see if any new phone has been bought - if no, a 5 minute walk to the store and she will have one for less than 600 usd.  But she heard gold phone not gold colored. 

Regarding the allowance my wife does not know it is 3,000 usd.  I only ask about things if it goes over 3,000 usd a month and I usually do not have to ask as she has told me.  The 3,000 was set because I know how much her rent is, cosmetics, gym, private English lessons, on average what she buys for me a month, etc.  To me if she spends monthly 3,000 usd on average I could care less on checking what it is and I do not want to control her.  3,000 usd is normal spending IMO. 

But since I have met her I am good with her spending.  This is a girl who does survive on 400 usd a month if needed.   

Sculpto, my wife would get pissed at me if  I was spending a lot of money on myself and nothing on family.  I do not blame her.  So to answer your question money should be spent to do things together as a family you both like to do.  So the TV or trip will depend on each RW.  But if you buy the TV to play video games on it all day that would not be a good idea.

[Aloe]

HAHA.. I just got off the phone with "A".  She just got paid.. and then went out and spent every penny on perfume and a new bag for Mexico.  She gets more money in two weeks.. good girl didn't ask me for anything.. might send her $100 since she didn't ask.    But she seemed to think it was funny and she said she is stupid girl.. I told her I was going to have to teach her how to spend.  She said its a good idea.  hahaha

anyway.. anyone else have stories?

i spent 500 dollars on a bikini and lots more on clothes before my trip to thailand to see my now husband for the first time. Now that we are married, we cant afford to spend even 50 euro on something we dont need. lol.

[Sculpto]

that must be some bikini Aloe.. I can not even comprehend what could make a bikini worth $500.. maybe you should post a pic and show us??? 

[Andrew]

I second Sculpto on that.....

[kievstar]

Including the top, bottom and necklace, the world's most expensive bikini is valued at $30 million. Considering its value, it's questionable whether or not it can actually be called “swimwear.” After all, who knows what a dip in the ocean could do to all those precious gems? 

http://most-expensive.net/bikini


for that other post going on rating women - Molly Sims is a 10. 

[SANDRO43]

i spent 500 dollars on a bikini and lots more on clothes before my trip to thailand to see my now husband for the first time.

Correction, you invested $500+, and it worked .

[Son of Clyde]

Swimwear should cost cost a percentage above the cost of the materials and the manufacturing. If any more you are paying a designer. Aren't we in some sort of a recession?

Also I like the idea of an allowance after you have studied her spending habits for a few months.

[Aloe]

Lol
I swear i didnt have a choice, i would have gladly bought a 20 dollar bikini if it was pretty and fit me, but it was the only damn bikini in the entire store that fit the 2 criteria, so i had no choice! Maybe im picky, im like that with purses and shoes too, i have to spend many hours looking before i find one that i like. Somebody posted a link to the most expensive purses, they all looked ugly to me