New question, sexual in nature.

[I/O]

When two people love each other

The word so obviously missing thus far in the debate.

[vwrw]

Thus, the fact that the degree of pleasure from a sex with the same woman varies proves that factors other than the woman performance interact and determine the degree of pleasure.  OP needs to enlighten himself what the factors are and how to influence them so that he would enhance his sexual life.

[Turboguy]

The word so obviously missing thus far in the debate.

Yes, but I don't believe it was with his wife which may have had something to do with why the sex was so good.

[Faux Pas]

I strongly disagree.  Some women (and men) will never be good at sex, no matter who is the partner.  Mostly it is because they are not that interested.

Maybe they are just not that interested in "you"?

[ML]

OTOH, if a woman performs some mind blowing sex one has to wonder how she became so prolific. Does he really want to know the answer to that question?   I always preferred to be the teacher and let the other guys wonder

Are you inferring that you hope an adult woman is still a virgin?

Or are you inferring that you don't care how much experience she has had at sex, as long as she never became very good at it?

[cranehand]

I would love to man. It wasn't my choice to end it and she doesn't want to get back together.

This troubles me Fabio my friend, mainly the first five words.  I was married for 10 years and with her for 14 and I can tell you with supreem confidence that this will haunt you in this pursuit.  YOU ARE NOT OVER HER you are still IN LOVE with her and no rw,uw,aw or any other w will cure that.  It is you Fabio that must heal yourself NO woman can do it for you.

I would bet my paycheck that all the women you have been with since then, can see this in some way.  Women are far more intuitive than men and allthough you may think you hide it well they see it.  The topic will come up in normal conversation with any woman you seek to have a relationship especially a physical one.

When I first met my now fiance(e) about a year ago she would often question why after 14 years with this person did it come to divorce and why did we not have children.  I explained simply that although I care for her as a person I was NO LONGER IN LOVE with her.  Like many here have said emotional connection is also very very important for me to progress to a physical relationship.  You are still emotionally attatched to your xwife.  Tread lightly with this journey and any RW/UW you come in contact with, for they are far less likely to forgive your kind words about your former wife.


As far as sex goes, these women are more open to the idea of pre-marital sex at least for me there was no missing the green light and it started with small things. Always be the gentalman,she will demand your full respect and attention and in turn she will give you hers. There will be no mistake about it. But I warn you that I think your judgement is clouded by your love for your xwife. Clear that up and the seas will not be quite so rough.

[BillyB]

I cannot understand why you guys seem to think that women’s performance is the major factor in determining whether you would have unsatisfactory, satisfactory or mind-blowing sex.

The best sex for me is when I see my partner being thoroughly pleased. Yes, I like the lights on to see him her. When my partner is pleased, her performance naturally improves.

[I/O]

I like the lights on to see him her.

Shhhhh Billy, stay in the closet.

[Shadow]

Shhhhh Billy, stay in the closet.

With the lights on. :brightidea:

[TheTraveler]

Are you inferring that you hope an adult woman is still a virgin?

I take this post as an inference that an adult woman saving her virginity for her husband (or fiance) is something to be ashamed of.

Frankly, I have a lot of respect for women who possess a more traditional, old-fashioned moral code.

[fabiodriven]

This troubles me Fabio my friend, mainly the first five words.  I was married for 10 years and with her for 14 and I can tell you with supreem confidence that this will haunt you in this pursuit.  YOU ARE NOT OVER HER you are still IN LOVE with her and no rw,uw,aw or any other w will cure that.  It is you Fabio that must heal yourself NO woman can do it for you.

I would bet my paycheck that all the women you have been with since then, can see this in some way.  Women are far more intuitive than men and allthough you may think you hide it well they see it.  The topic will come up in normal conversation with any woman you seek to have a relationship especially a physical one.

When I first met my now fiance(e) about a year ago she would often question why after 14 years with this person did it come to divorce and why did we not have children.  I explained simply that although I care for her as a person I was NO LONGER IN LOVE with her.  Like many here have said emotional connection is also very very important for me to progress to a physical relationship.  You are still emotionally attatched to your xwife.  Tread lightly with this journey and any RW/UW you come in contact with, for they are far less likely to forgive your kind words about your former wife.


As far as sex goes, these women are more open to the idea of pre-marital sex at least for me there was no missing the green light and it started with small things. Always be the gentalman,she will demand your full respect and attention and in turn she will give you hers. There will be no mistake about it. But I warn you that I think your judgement is clouded by your love for your xwife. Clear that up and the seas will not be quite so rough.

This is all very true and I know it. I have often thought that the women I'm with can sense it too. I have recently been making some ground getting over the ex. I was wounded very deeply and it's going to take some time to completely heal. I have had a couple of women chasing me lately and that helps the process because it does boost my crushed self-esteem. I have been talking to a local girl a little bit lately that I could certainly see as a "keeper". I'm not sure if she's going to go for me or not, but we'll see. I am still very much in contact with my Russian friend and I think that helps too. I don't feel desperate to make this local girl work because I feel as though I have the Russian woman to fall back on. Whether or not it is true, I tell myself that to keep from appearing desperate. Guess it'll all come out in the wash.

[GQBlues]

This is all very true and I know it. I have often thought that the women I'm with can sense it too. I have recently been making some ground getting over the ex. I was wounded very deeply and it's going to take some time to completely heal. I have had a couple of women chasing me lately and that helps the process because it does boost my crushed self-esteem. I have been talking to a local girl a little bit lately that I could certainly see as a "keeper". I'm not sure if she's going to go for me or not, but we'll see. I am still very much in contact with my Russian friend and I think that helps too. I don't feel desperate to make this local girl work because I feel as though I have the Russian woman to fall back on. Whether or not it is true, I tell myself that to keep from appearing desperate. Guess it'll all come out in the wash.

So now you've come full circle back to where I thought you needed to be in the first place...sowing your wild oats. Men insist (women too but not as much) in finding closure to relationships gone awry. That's largely because of 'ego'. Men are simply caught up with themselves too much believing they're the best thing that ever happened to that particular woman, so when it appears they're not...they go to pieces clinging on 'love', and hanging on every love songs that come playing on the radio.

The very best antidote for a broken heart is a stunning woman to rock your world again. You can't meet her moping at home and dreaming of days gone by...you meet her by hitting through the roster over again and get busy. Sooner than later.

Get out there and make it happen.

[fabiodriven]

The very best antidote for a broken heart is a stunning woman to rock your world again. You can't meet her moping at home and dreaming of days gone by...you meet her by hitting through the roster over again and get busy. Sooner than later.

Get out there and make it happen.

Oh that started not long after my ex and I went our separate ways. It was very depressing at first because I had been out of the loop for so long I had forgotten how to mingle. Not only that, but the quality of women that I was messing around with left me depressed because they were certainly not on par with my ex (I know, don't compare). Over the last few months my game has improved drastically. The practice I have gotten with the women I really don't care for has taught me what I need to do with the ones I do like. I am taking everything I have learned and applying it to this most recent one I have met.

[GQBlues]

You'll be fine Fabio. I had a friend before who was in thousand little broken pieces over his break-up. He told me that none of the women he's been meeting can compare to his ex. While that was true, it wasn't because there weren't women that was available that were good enough, it was because of the fact his ego and confidence was completely 'shot', thus he felt any women of quality, or who may well be better than just a 'potential', were deemed 'out of his league'.

Silly male rationality. So for a while he lingered and was lost on 'mediocre' dates because he thought that was his limit. Silly man and a bad waste of time.

Took me two weeks to hook him up with a babe he never once thought he can ever date in his prime, let alone be happily married with. Today they have 3 wonderful children and are currently living in Sacramento. So the story goes.

I had my heart broken once back in high school. It sucks. Lasted a month and a half before it hit me like a ton bricks that I was being silly. So I started to focus on myself and gave it the very best of everything I can instead. Life will always be much better that way.

Have a great time and enjoy your life. Each of us only have one shot at it. Make the best of it.

ps: Once you get your 'confidence' back, don't be surprised to see your ex knocking on your door once more....my advice on that, don't do it.

[2tallbill]

I happen to be a very sexual person in nature. Please do not mistake this for a "man whore" or anything like that. I am very much a monogamous person. It's just that sex is very important to me in a relationship and I would hate to meet a woman who is seemingly "the one" only to find out that she isn't for me in bed. It worries me because I have had only one truly enjoyable sexual experience since being single. I really don't like that percentage.

If you find a FSUW then win her heart, you should be fine unless you are incapable of discussing Sexy
stuff with her. A good FSUW will try, but you have to tell her what makes you go boom. If it doesn't
involve the neighbor kids, pets or pain she will probably give it a go. You need to discuss this with
her before you get too serious.

Use your words, you are a grown man. Don't assume anything, ask. This is not a good first
conversation, but it might be a good one just before you buy a plane ticket and rent an
apartment (don't get a hotel room).

Here's a "friend of a friend" story I just heard. Please bear in mind I take little heed in friend of friend stories or anything of that nature from people who have nothing to do with this subject other than having a friend who has married a Russian woman.

Supposedly the guy in the story currently has a Russian wife. He went to Russia about three years ago for about three weeks and apparently got to "point out" women that he liked and "try them out", if you will. He found one he liked, brought her home, and the rest is history. Now obviously this story sounds a bit out there to me.

That story isn't true unless his name was Peter the Great or someone similar

[ML]

Draw pictures and show her.

Be worried if she says:  Are you sure that can go there?

[2tallbill]

I agree with that to a large degree, but I would also add that a vivid imagination and sensitivity to the situation seem to be an integral factors in migrating from good sex to a truly mind blowing experience. 

Attitude is super important. Some women just look at you (or maybe me) and say (paraphrased)
"Hell yeah, I am going to climb that tree!"

Note to all: The girl who thinks like that is well on her way to climbing the tree. Soon sounds of
the jungle fill the air.