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[ECOCKS]

Oh, how I long for the return of the Ignore button on this forum!!!!!!!! 

Yeah, it made reading a thread considerably easier when you could skip over the self-centered and clueless.

Ash, there is great advice here...also idiocy. I know 3 or 4 guys who have moved over to FB, email and Skype in lieu of public posting in the last year or so. Maybe that's for you, maybe not.

Some thoughts to consider....

The Commandments are still the solid foundation, being validated every week it seems by some sucker that is living out the dismantling of their fantasy.

Reading those TR's may give you some clues about what happens "over there" even if you have doubts about the guy's wisdom, sincerity or motivation. The option of contributing your own stories may be too time-consuming but well worth the effort for others in the future.

Topical searches are still fruitful and the concepts are mostly still there even if occasional details about visas or costs change a bit. Look for the topics and ask questions then, as others suggest, ignore those that wish to take you to task instead of addressing the topic.

The forum seems particularly useful for spotting those who are getting ensnared in scams. Less so, it seems, for those who are screwing up their marriages due to their lack of preparation, fantasy-driven motivations and lack of understanding about relationships.

Best of luck to you whichever path you chose to walk.

[Muzh]

I'll second GQ, Ash. Somewhat different reasons but we get to the same conclusions.
 
Let's see if I can understand.
 
You are starting to second-guess yourself and the more you read, the more confused you get.
 
Stop reading this. There is a lot of hoey that only applies to the one making the statement. Some are well intended while others are way in left field. If you haven't figured that out it is because you have no clue what you are doing. But that is MHO.
 
Ask about visas and ticket sales and appartments. That's it.

[SMS60]

 

[Muzh]

Ash, as I was saying, there are some advice coming from left field, as you saw, that are counterproductive to your goals. That is unless, you want to emulate some sort of "success."
 
You are better off taking a sabbatical until you figure things out.

[TomT]

I did a half marathon a couple months ago. It's just for freaking hot that it's hard to put in high miles these days. I can still break 20 in a 5K. I mean for an old man I'll take that. Kids does put a damper on some of the running but I'm just trying to maintain these days. How you been?

Fine. Nessi is a girl after your own heart. She only started running last August and she ran her first "half" in 2:02 a few months back. After that first deliberately slow run, she never took longer than two hours again. She's relaxed at 1:45 now and, the way that she's improving, I expect that she'll be sub-1:30 by the fall. After that, I am wondering if I'll be able to keep up with her without running myself to injury. She's already talking about trying a full 26.1 miles. (Shoot me!)
 
I wanted to catch up before you LEAVE THE FORUM or some such thing. (That was my gratuitous on-topic contribution to the thread.)

[Rubicon]

If you want to leave the forum, just make a bunch of posts which are not politically correct.  Admin will show you out the door!

[Boethius]

I disagree with that, Rubicion.

[Rubicon]

I disagree with that, Rubicion.

Really??  everyone knows that I got almost permanently muted after trying to discuss the taboo issue of gay rights.  now that I've learned my lesson I will ignore such things since I know the thought control police are in full effect.

[Boethius]

Hmm, no, I don't think that is why you were muted.  I don't think most posters, or Dan, consider gay rights to be a particularly controversial issue.

[Rubicon]

Hmm, no, I don't think that is why you were muted.  I don't think most posters, or Dan, consider gay rights to be a particularly controversial issue.

Go back and look at the thread.  Dan showed me in blue what was acceptable under TOS.  The rest of what I said, which was about 90% of what I said was in red, which Dan said was violation of TOS.  So I am not going to discuss such matters again.

[GQBlues]

Fine. Nessi is a girl after your own heart. She only started running last August and she ran her first "half" in 2:02 a few months back. After that first deliberately slow run, she never took longer than two hours again. She's relaxed at 1:45 now and, the way that she's improving, I expect that she'll be sub-1:30 by the fall. After that, I am wondering if I'll be able to keep up with her without running myself to injury. She's already talking about trying a full 26.1 miles. (Shoot me!)....

  Yup, I remember that stage in my life. Met a gorgeous marathoner runner whom I had taken a deep interest with a long time ago so I started running. I was a smoker then (nasty habit) and began running. I first ran around a block and despite playing B-Ball day to night, I was out of breathe halfway through. Then that led to many 10Ks (never 5K) and eventually a couple of marathon (3:26 / 3:02).
 
My training regimen included wind sprints, intervals, one loop fast-track, a mile breaker, and those nice daily 1-1.5 hour runs. I once tried to compete on a 1500M run and ran so hard 3/4 of the way until I went into a serious oxygen debt, LOL. I thought I was going to die....walked to the finish line dead last. That's when I learned I how important proper training is and properly pacing yourself.
 
First marathon, San Francisco..I was so excited before the race I excused myself from our group and smoked a cigarette since I was so excited. Then during the race I can't help but imagine that as soon as I finished the run I was just going to deeply soak down in a hot tub all day, chill and burn down a pack, LOL.
 
My most vivid memory of that first race? SF is fairly cold climate anytime of the year, and I made the mistake of wearing one of those 'netted' tank tops. You sweat while running and the cold weather dries your sweat up pretty fast. Then 'salt' develops on your body and next thing you know, your salted nipples start to rub against the netting of my tank top. Pain every step you take. OUCH...
 
I was young and crazy then....Obviously, now I'm just crazy...
 
As for Greg and his past posts, LOL. I always took them as him being his ol' dry humorous self...I think this comes from him being a stout fan of the fighting Irish and their recent dive to, well, respectable mediocrity of late( poor guy )....just like my silly Bruins ( poor me ). But at least unlike the Trojans, UCLA and ND didn't have resort to violating policies just to win the hardware.

[Shadow]

People use these forums in very different ways.
In 2004 (OMG I am getting THAT old)  when I started my interest in FSUW I mostly just read and took in the different angles on the same issues.
I did get hooked on some "male soap opera" which kept me entertained enough to stick around.
After some months I got enough information and somee experience to start posting, and never stopped, My main interest have always been scams and trying to help out new people who might be set on the right track. That last part getting less, as my marriage keeps me from having a lot on-the-ground experience. 

Yo have to consider that many of the valued guys will not be up to date with the latest things, where you in the middle of the process might give out useful information to new people. That could be areason to stay. If you decide that taking information was your target, and you got all you needed, then just every now and then update on things like marriage, kids etc...
I am sure that those who gave you advice will be happy to read good stories, and not just the hopeless cases.

Its up to you if you wish to give back what you received, or just will fade in to the background. In any case good luck.

[TomT]

Matt,
 
Yep, we do intervals, hills, tempo or pace runs each week, mixed in with our long, slow runs. Right now, Nessi is hampered by a low lactate threshold so she fades on hills.
 
My biggest challenge is trying to make her SLOW DOWN. Left to her own devices, she'll burn herself out quickly because she has no sense of pace yet. The other side of that coin is there is no need to encourage her to run fast; that's her default mode. Her natural distance stride produces 1:30 laps on the rubberized track. Once her systems achieve the ability to maintain equilibrium at those levels, it's not going to be much fun running with her anymore.

[GQBlues]

TomT-
 
6-minute miler is pretty darn good, you know. She's a natural. The worst thing you can do with that is try and slow her down, That's not her natural rythmic stride. She'll burnout faster trying to run slow.
 
I would rather build up her stamina instead of slowing her down, per se..stairs, high leg lifts, stationary pool running (water at abdomen high with both hands holding unto the sides), dry sand running, or with a tight backpack while running on her own even rythmic pace...
 
IIRC, you have a very low fat content in your physique, I would prefer to suggest maybe you need to to pick-up the pace  .

[Daveman]

If you want to leave the forum, just make a bunch of posts which are not politically correct.  Admin will show you out the door!

The primary problem(s) some have at this and other fora are neither overly complicated nor difficult to fathom.  Do you really think the source of your current status was a temporary bout of policital incorrectness?


Why is it that many have thousands of posts and have yet to receive a warn, or a chastisement, or any hassle from the mods or admin whatsoever?  Hmmmm, I wonder what it is which differentiates those members from those who have had such... there must be something... if I could just figure it out.... 

[TomT]

Not to worry, Matt; I only slow her down on our long. slow runs. Otherwise, the reins come off.
 
Actually, I picked up several kilos in the two years since that photo was taken. Nessi wanted me to be thicker so, a few days a week, I hit the free weights while she uses the treadmill.

[Rubicon]

The primary problem(s) some have at this and other fora are neither overly complicated nor difficult to fathom.  Do you really think the source of your current status was a temporary bout of policital incorrectness?


Why is it that many have thousands of posts and have yet to receive a warn, or a chastisement, or any hassle from the mods or admin whatsoever?  Hmmmm, I wonder what it is which differentiates those members from those who have had such... there must be something... if I could just figure it out.... 

This, and quoting somebody without their permission (Elena Sykes owner of Aweb) is what Dan told me.  If you know anything else please send me a PM.

 Quote from: Rubicon on May 29, 2011, 01:13:46 AM<blockquote>I hope Russia and FSU continue to ban and resist so called "Gay" pride marches. Militant gays have done their best to destroy family rights in the USA and have done a very good job of it by infiltrating our "liberal" media and public schools and enforcing political correctness and destroying true freedom of speech.  Gay militants have gone into churches and spewed their hatred of religion in the house of God.  Gays now enjoy special rights in the workforce and all throughout Hollywood. If homosexuals want to get married they can in certain churches, but that is not enough for them.  They now demand that the States and the Federal government recognize their unholy "marriages".They have forced the military into accepting them being openly Gay when it is a distraction to the military objectives and most troops do not like it.  Don't ask don't tell was a very good solution because the homosexuals willing to serve under that policy were not the drama queens, pardon the pun.  Now that they can openly serve it will never end there.  Soldiers who look at a homosexual the wrong way or speak to them in the wrong tone of voice will be accused of "harassment".  Soon there will be homosexuals demanding sex change operations at the military's expense.  Then there will be individuals with both male and female genitalia demanding to serve.  What a FUBAR!!
</blockquote>In the post quote above - the blue text represents that which is relevant and topical to RWD. The red text is that which is explicitly prohibited by RWD's TOS.

For that reason, the warning level has been increased.

- Dan    « Last Edit: May 29, 2011, 03:33:09 PM by Admin  »     
 

[BoozeBaron]

I got lost - and gave up on this thread, when the topic was split like 20 times ...

I understand the reason it was ("I'm thinking of leaving .... blah blah blah" vs. Greg's compelling story) -

Not big on swan songs and forum suicides... Either way, stay or just go...

My bottom line, is like others have said - Don't come here for relationship advice - that's what your mates and family and church are for...

But DO read others' remarks and experiences about travel, and safety and 'where to go' (and where not to go) and of course, scams... The rest is on you to decide... If you can't make a relationship "work" locally, seriously doubt you can abroad (my 2 pence)

[tfcrew]

Who said "Let me give you some good advice, don't take anybody's advice "?

[GQBlues]

"If you and I agreed on the same thing, then we'll both be wrong!"
Steven Tyler

[Admin]

I have recieved some good advice on here from some members  mostly Kuna,JR I/O thanks for that by the way but now i feel for all the good advice on here there is a alot of bad advice aswell and peoples jaded opinions on things ect. Also i dont intend to type pages and pages of trip reports also so not much point being on here realy....
 
AsH

Addressing the original subject, everyone who visits RWD should exercise their free choice to come and go as they please. If anyone does not find what they are looking for here at RWD, I encourage them to find a more appropriate venue.

On those occasions when someone finds they are not interested in participating here at RWD - for whatever reason - I can understand those who offer some constructive suggestions for improvement and then, if those are not implemented - move on. I have registered accounts at various sites and encountered the same sort of 'chill' that others complain about here at RWD. The choice is pretty straight-forward - for me, anyway. I look at it at a net-sum equation. If the overall benefit of participation outweighs whatever negatives I find, then I stay and participate until such time as the equation becomes a negative. What that occurs, I tend to drift away and just not return.

At this point, I am going to lock this topic and move it to a more appropriate forum.

- Dan