My wife is lazy!

[ML]

Another interesting observation.

Notice that in this thread, the guy gets bashed by almost everyone.

And then notice in Aloe's thread that her guy gets bashed by almost everyone.

But isn't that fairly common here;
 i.e. the women take the side of other women, and the men take the side of women, except in the case of obvious scams.

Talk about being PWed.

[Faux Pas]

I wouldn't be so quick on the troll label. Actually, sounds like some serious concerns to me. They had an agreement the OP says. He feels like he has held to his end and she hasn't.


Dude, you had to know she was of the princess mentality before you married her didn't you? Marriage is for better or worse (to half of the people anyway). What you do is, if you wish to stay married is you voice your concerns without arguments, threats of violence or divorce and you both work to resolve the problem. Keep in mind, regardless of what the problem is, once you're married, it is always half of your problem.

[BC]

Dude, you had to know she was of the princess mentality before you married her didn't you? Marriage is for better or worse (to half of the people anyway). What you do is, if you wish to stay married is you voice your concerns without arguments, threats of violence or divorce and you both work to resolve the problem. Keep in mind, regardless of what the problem is, once you're married, it is always half of your problem.

Is that akin to 'we make the bed we lie in.'?

[Jumper]

Another interesting observation.

Notice that in this thread, the guy gets bashed by almost everyone.

And then notice in Aloe's thread that her guy gets bashed by almost everyone.

But isn't that fairly common here;
 i.e. the women take the side of other women, and the men take the side of women, except in the case of obvious scams.

Talk about being PWed.

 
lol
As far as observations ,
spoken like any single and still looking man.
 
 
A man dictating house chores, the exact level of performence expected,and  a set time frame for them to be done, certainly isn't PWed right?
 
 He also typically isn't married ,or for long.
(or he is speaking  to his maid ,or a submissive spouse)
 
It's just a real world observation,  that might clash with some since of fairness.
 
Life isn't fair..
the waaambulance siren is wailing..............
 
 
 
 
 I wouldn't suggest the OP roll over and ignore something bothering him, or their prior agreement.
But it wouldn't hurt for him ponder whether he is being reasonable , if whats bothering him is truly important to their life together and interaction.
 
It isn't a case where he is thinking about marrying someone and making an evaluation of compatabilty, he is already married.
 
 

[Muzh]

I wouldn't be so quick on the troll label. Actually, sounds like some serious concerns to me. They had an agreement the OP says. He feels like he has held to his end and she hasn't.


Dude, you had to know she was of the princess mentality before you married her didn't you? Marriage is for better or worse (to half of the people anyway). What you do is, if you wish to stay married is you voice your concerns without arguments, threats of violence or divorce and you both work to resolve the problem. Keep in mind, regardless of what the problem is, once you're married, it is always half of your problem.

FP, how old do you think this guy is? From what I read in the OP I'd say he is 19 or 20. So how old do you think she would be? 17?
 
I ask you this because the advice you gave him is like spitting into the wind.

[Turboguy]

when I get angry I think of divorcing her because of it. But when I calm down, I don't want to divorce her.

What should I do?

You might try YOGA.  That might help keep you from getting angry.  Otherwise maybe try some of the more violent video games.  That might keep you from being calm.   At least one or the other would keep you from vacillating. 

[Faux Pas]

Is that akin to 'we make the bed we lie in.'?

That's pretty close. When one commits to love, honor and obey, one also commits to carrying excess baggage 

FP, how old do you think this guy is? From what I read in the OP I'd say he is 19 or 20. So how old do you think she would be? 17?
 
I ask you this because the advice you gave him is like spitting into the wind.

I would say not much older than that. The chances he'll heed any of the advice is remote I'm sure but, it needed to be said. Didn't it?

[Muzh]

I would say not much older than that. The chances he'll heed any of the advice is remote I'm sure but, it needed to be said. Didn't it?

Absolutely. Question is, is he listening?

[Hammer2722]

OP states his wife lived with her parents before the marriage and did nothing around the house. How is this now a surprise to him? If he knew what she was like before the marriage then he knew excatly what kind of wife he would be getting. Maybe he thought he would change her habits once they married. Another delusional man.....

[Faux Pas]

OP states his wife lived with her parents before the marriage and did nothing around the house. How is this now a surprise to him? If he knew what she was like before the marriage then he knew excatly what kind of wife he would be getting. Maybe he thought he would change her habits once they married. Another delusional man.....

Perhaps he didn't know enough to recognize it. The OP reeks of inexperience (and youth). He was expecting something different than what he got (chose). Sounds like he had a fantasy and found a woman to put in it. The woman has a different fantasy

[mies]

What should I do?

I think it depends on how often and how much affection she gives you. It may be cheaper to hire a cleaning lady and a hooker. Buying few more packs of socks and underwear/clothes will not hurt either - this way you can do the laundry less often.
 
A one visit of a cleaning lady costs $50 where I live, and she does really good job cleaning everything, dusting, vacuuming the carpet and so on. If you live alone there won't be too much mess and you can have your apartment cleaned once a week.

[mies]

Bottom line is,  I kept a neat crib when I was a bachelor and just because I got married, doesn't mean I've forgotten how to do these things anymore.

Maybe the OP has lived with his parents or mom until he got married. He does not know how to clean, he never did.
Just an assumption 

[Muzh]

Mies, absolutely on the money on both counts. 

[veritas]

I think it depends on how often and how much affection she gives you. It may be cheaper to hire a cleaning lady and a hooker.

 

[CanadaMan]

Read Aloe's posts.
Read WV's one and only post.

Everything fits like a glove.

-the cleaning issue
-2 year marriage
-her parents giving money
-her attending university now
-both content with the physical side of relationship
-his getting angry about the cleaning issue and 'thinking'/threatening divorce

Either Aloe's husband, or much much more likely, a troll 'borrowing' from Aloe's personal story.