Help! i'm addicted

[JamesDH]

It started out innocent enough. "I'll go over and find a nice Russian girl and settle down".
now it's become an addiction. I've been over about 12 times and planning another next month for the whole month!
I've lost all control. I need RW anonymous or something.

Just now I've been writing a girl and after only 5 letters she is already saying that she loves me etc.. Any normal man would recognize that as a flag but I can't stop.
i can't stop writing her and a half a dozen more!!
I'm looking at my calender trying to decide how to see them all in just 3.5 weeks. It's bad.. Real bad.

  HELP!!!
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[Gator]

James,
 
You seem like the classic kid in the candy store.      
 
Do you consider your interest in RW to be seriously focused on marriage (to the right woman)?   
 
If you are serious, you will not pursue women who profess their love before meeting you.  Some people have a constant craving for candy, and enjoy tasting all varieties.
 
If you believe yourself to be serious, it sounds as if you have not met the RW who is ideal for you (the one who makes you forget about all other women).   Or you have not recovered fully from your last serious relationship. 
 
Keep trying, and give Turbo a call.  You have been at this for only two years.  It took Turbo many, many years.  It took me 6 years, only to marry the wrong woman.

[Donna_Pedro]

It looks like someone has too much spare time on his hands. And money. I suggest a quality psychoanalyst. He will both rid you of money and fix your self esteem.

[Misha]

Just now I've been writing a girl and after only 5 letters she is already saying that she loves me etc.. Any normal man would recognize that as a flag but I can't stop.
i can't stop writing her and a half a dozen more!!
I'm looking at my calender trying to decide how to see them all in just 3.5 weeks. It's bad.. Real bad.

I just hope your not using a pay-per-letter agency 

[JamesDH]

Kid in the candy store.
I took some time off last year to get myself out of that mode.
I had a long talk with myself and decided to focus on being serious. I limited myself to women who were a real chance at being my wife. No less than 10 years younger, No kids or kids grown, English level..some or better.
It was going fine until this girl came along. She was only 32 but I chatted with her anyway. Soon I was on the plane to visit her. I had planned to see two during that visit. One 46 and her. I never made it to the 46 year old.
We had the greatest time together. We laughed, we played, we talked about life.. it was fantastic but all the while I'm thinking "I can't fall for a girl of 32. Never works out".
Then came the second visit a month later. Better than the first. We had the greatest time together and both cried when I left.

Crap!!! Now I see what's going on. I'm trying to get her out of my mind by showering myself with other girls.
that explains it. I'm not even interested in the other girls. They are a blur to me.
Darn it!! I can't be falling for a girl of only 32. Statistics show.. failure is assured.

Now what?

[JR]

XXXXX!!!!!! wrote a nice long reply and boom, it gone!!!!
I'll give you the condensed version: Look James, stop being a pussy over some statistics and go get her already!!! Look at TurboGuy and WRVW. Their age gap is greater than TurboGuy's mother's age and by every indication they are happy, Happy, HAPPY!!! Their are NO guarantees PERIOD! You could marry the 46 yo and be divorced in six months.
 
nuff sed

[mies]

sex tourist detected.

"stop being a pussy over some statistics and go get her already!!!"
that is if this 32yo will still want James after he had been "showering himself with other girls."
I wonder if James officially broke up with her or just stopped writing 

[ghost of moon goddess]

Crap!!! Now I see what's going on. I'm trying to get her out of my mind by showering myself with other girls.
that explains it. I'm not even interested in the other girls. They are a blur to me.
Darn it!! I can't be falling for a girl of only 32. Statistics show.. failure is assured.

Now what?

JamesDH, the above written is not amusing, it is sacrilegious 

Just now I've been writing a girl and after only 5 letters she is already saying that she loves me etc.. Any normal man would recognize that as a flag but I can't stop.
i can't stop writing her and a half a dozen more!!
I'm looking at my calender trying to decide how to see them all in just 3.5 weeks. It's bad.. Real bad.

  HELP!!!
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There is no need in an insightful look into a mind of JamesDH to understand the type of his addiction 

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sex tourist detected.

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[Faux Pas]

JamesDH


Well, there you go. Right from the mouth of babes. 


12 trips, really? I seem to remember your first dalliance that didn't work out as you had hoped and you seemingly quit posting. In any event, you didn't strike me as a sex tourist. Of course it matters not what I think but, these RW posting here have other ideas.


12 trips? You must have went every other month

[JR]

tru nuff mies....
 
don't guess James, DO! Find out.

[Jumper]

sex tourist detected.

"stop being a pussy over some statistics and go get her already!!!"
that is if this 32yo will still want James after he had been "showering himself with other girls."
I wonder if James officially broke up with her or just stopped writing 

 
 
 
????????? oh wait! i've changed my mind , we had a great two visits,but  you're now too young for me.. 
If serious, you should have made that call, before getting on the plane.
 
Really it seems to me you are likely showering yourself with girls about *her* age,
not actually older ?
 So unless you came to some final idea about  age difference,  and are now only dating women closer to your age, it seems  a lame excuse.
 
If she's truly compatable, amazing, and who you think is best for you, age shouldn't be a big factor.
 
If you can't get past the age difference, you certainly can exercise enough self control not to visit someone you know isn't capatable to your ideals.
playing with someone who thinks its a serious scenario  ,vs girlfriend isn't going to fly well here..
 
 
 
 

[milesaweek]

Sounds like the advice is: : Go big or stay home!

[Jumper]

Sounds like the advice is: : Go big or stay home!

HeY! that's always been my motto..

[JamesDH]

I knew sex tourism would come up at some point.
When you're 53 there is not much sex tourism going on.
I hardly even think about it anymore.

I admit I'm a little immature and she 's very mature.
I do not feel any age difference when we're together. That's why it was so easy to return for the second trip, even against my better judgement.

It's a classic problem. I know in my logical brain that it's not right but my heart says it is right.

Follow your brain? Follow your heart?
My biggest fear is that I will marry her and she will leave me after 5 years or so and I'll be single again at 58 years old or older.

[mies]

My biggest fear is that I will marry her and she will leave me after 5 years or so and I'll be single again at 58 years old or older.

Follow your brain? Follow your heart?

How do you know you will not be single at 58 anyway?

it doesn't matter what to follow. Everyone will die anyway, sooner or later. Whether you will be happy with the outcome of your actions will depend only on your subjective view of it, and not on the actual objective result. So what's the difference will it make what is the basis for your decision?

you broke the heart of 32yo woman, mind it - 20 years your junior, and are playing this like doing it out of best intentions, even worse - blaming "statistics" and "the others say it's not ok" - not capable to take responsibility for your decision. 

On a different note - probably you did a favor for her. After (if) she will emotionally recover from you dumping her, she will find for herself someone more suitable. Maybe she already had. So... don't take my words too seriously. It doesn't matter what you did to her, and to other women you met without intention to build relationship with them. Many people do exactly same thing.
 

[mies]

HeY! that's always been my motto..

what an amazing photo! It looks unreal - the close distance they manage to keep between each other, and how high they fly! 

[JamesDH]

Mies,
you talk as if I have broken up with her. I have not. We communicate daily.
Her heart is not broken, neither is mine.

You make a good point. Live for today. Let tomorrow take care of it's self.
I may be dead before I'm 58 but in that time I will have loved and been loved.

You are right. Many people do the same thing. I see it quiet often from the girls. I think they get online and go crazy. Jumping from one to another. I did it in the beginning. Now I'm doing it again but I know why and I will stop.

[mies]

Mies,
you talk as if I have broken up with her. I have not. We communicate daily.
Her heart is not broken, neither is mine.

You make a good point. Live for today. Let tomorrow take care of it's self.
I may be dead before I'm 58 but in that time I will have loved and been loved.

You are right. Many people do the same thing. I see it quiet often from the girls. I think they get online and go crazy. Jumping from one to another. I did it in the beginning. Now I'm doing it again but I know why and I will stop.

In that case, I apologize. I might have misread your lines about "showering yourself with other girls" in the wrong way. 

good luck!

[Ade]

what an amazing photo! It looks unreal - the close distance they manage to keep between each other, and how high they fly! 

Actually, I think that's all AJ in one jump.

And my personal opinion is, that if you're mad enough to do that, then hunting around the FSU for a wife is going to be a piece of cake.

[Nat]

I admit I'm a little immature and she 's very mature.
I do not feel any age difference when we're together. That's why it was so easy to return for the second trip, even against my better judgement.

That makes me wonder.... The gal is 32. Mature. The guy is 53. Immature. No age difference felt. Something doesn't add up. Women who wanna be mommies for their husbands often look for younger hot boys. The same with men - those, who look for younger hot girls should be prepared to be daddies for them, to be the mature on in the family. Why would a 32 y.o. girl with mommy-instinct be with a 53 y.o. immature man if she can satisfy this instinct with 25 y.o. ones?
So it seem to me that if you don't wanna any red flags or surprises or whatever you should look for your age or grow up and be a mature man.

[pitbull]

I knew sex tourism would come up at some point.
When you're 53 there is not much sex tourism going on.
I hardly even think about it anymore.

Hmmmm..... this is actually a very bad sign if you are seriously considering a 32 y.o. Justifies your fear of divorce in 5 years.

[Muzh]

SNIFF! I smell something coming from Denmark.
 
Ladies, I'm with you.
 
Meanwhile I'll 

[Gator]

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Actually, I think that's all AJ in one jump.

Exactly.  Time lapse.  That is why his name is Jumper.   You changed your name and we respect your reasons for the change, whatever they were.
 
 

And my personal opinion is, that if you're mad enough to do that, then hunting around the FSU for a wife is going to be a piece of cake.

Not to fear, Jumper did those jumps routinely in his younger years with almost the sane degree of difficulty as you rebooting your computer.

[Gator]

I knew sex tourism would come up at some point.
When you're 53 there is not much sex tourism going on.

Some of the worst offenders are in their 50s, reliving their youth, and rebounding from a divorce.   In fact a young hot woman is an essential part of a man's divorce recovery kit.
 

I hardly even think about it anymore.

Hopefully "it" is sex tourism, and not sex.  If you hardly ever think about sex, I suggest you avoid young women.  Young women have a fire in their loins.  In fact, some RW in their 40s are peaking while some "hardly even think about it anymore."

[Gator]

 

SNIFF! I smell something coming from Denmark.
 
Ladies, I'm with you.
 
Meanwhile I'll 

Most sex tourists don't post other than Albert and Pike.  I am not convinced JamesDH is a sex tourist.