Help! i'm addicted

[mies]

Actually, I think that's all AJ in one jump.

Oh, only one person. But still this is absolutely awesome!!! I knew who was on that photo, but i didn't realize it was taken with time lapse 

[Muzh]

 
Most sex tourists don't post other than Albert and Pike.  I am not convinced JamesDH is a sex tourist.

Yea? If you say so. I don't know the guy.
 
BUT the statement of not thinking about sex anymore? Is he a used car salesman?

[Gator]

That makes me wonder.... The gal is 32. Mature. The guy is 53. Immature. No age difference felt.

 
 
   I realize you are pragmatic, yet I found this hilarious.
 
 

Why would a 32 y.o. girl with mommy-instinct be with a 53 y.o. immature man if she can satisfy this instinct with 25 y.o. ones? 

We don't know her and know little about James.  Maybe she feels James charming, attractive and stable.
 

So it seem to me that if you don't wanna any red flags or surprises or whatever you should look for your age or grow up and be a mature man.

JamesDH's dilemma (???????) -  Perhaps he really likes the 32-yo woman yet fears/avoids commitment. So he looks for reasons why it is wrong rather than focusing on reasons why it is so good.
 
 
 

[Gator]

BUT the statement of not thinking about sex anymore? Is he a used car salesman?

Good point.  We need some elaboration.
 

[Gator]

JamesDH,
 
The age disparity between 53 and 32 could be problematic yet is not unreasonable IF the two of you are compatible and aligned in most respects.  It takes time to discover that, however.  The greater the age gap, the more time you should take to advance the relationship.

[JR]

Gator, do you like this thread?
 
James, are you back yet?

[Donna_Pedro]

Gator, do you like this thread?
 

I always new that this board had an unusual concentration of people with decreased mental abilities due to sperm-toxicosis, but this is way too much even for this place...

[ML]

Quote from: JamesDH on Yesterday at 08:45:09 PM<blockquote>I knew sex tourism would come up at some point.
When you're 53 there is not much sex tourism going on.
I hardly even think about it anymore.

</blockquote>

Hmmmm..... this is actually a very bad sign if you are seriously considering a 32 y.o. Justifies your fear of divorce in 5 years.

Yes, and he should be telling the women this up front.

When a man is accused of sex tourism here, most of the women and many of the men scream that the man must tell the women up front of his intentions.

But in this case, we have no such screaming.   

[mies]

Yes, and he should be telling the women this up front.

When a man is accused of sex tourism here, most of the women and many of the men scream that the man must tell the women up front of his intentions.

But in this case, we have no such screaming.   

people should be open about their intentions and (dis)abilities from the start. And yet, James' dis-interst in sex must not be a "deal-breaker". Maybe James' 32yo friend is frigid and not interested in sex either. Let's say, due to some childhood issues. Hence - looking for older partner and not wanting sex. Who knows.. who are we to judge. But it would make sense for James to clarify this with her. Maybe the gal is thinking "thanks God he isn't another maniac who wants to jump in bed first thing, he takes the time to learn my personality and after we get to know each other and trust each other we'll be having a blast" and James thinks "thanks God, this should not last too long. We'll get married and then I can relax and don't need to do it anymore."

[Ranetka]

Mies,
you talk as if I have broken up with her. I have not. We communicate daily.
Her heart is not broken, neither is mine.

Does she know you are showering yourself with other girls and considering visit someone else?

[ghost of moon goddess]

Please keep to common sense, you risk a thread verging on nonsense! 

To be honest, I don't find it funny to get  that guy laughed at by a forum audience. 

[JR]

You're damned is you do and damned if you don't.
Don't go and you're a keyboard romeo.
Do go you're a sex tourist.
James didn't mention having sex with any of them. Or did I miss something?
He also didn't mention that he mentioned not thinking about sex a lot anymore.
It's all about the Ds. People are bored so they'll jump on anything )))) Hey that sounds rather sex touristy
 
 

[Muzh]

Please keep to common sense, you risk a thread verging on nonsense! 

To be honest, I don't find it funny to get  that guy laughed at by a forum audience. 

Ghost, what makes you think we think it is funny?
 
What I see is a serious case of cold feet or an aversion to commitment. Either way, he is coming across as a player and by bringing it to the open, maybe he can find some justification.
 
Seen it before many timess.

[chivo]

Kid in the candy store.
I took some time off last year to get myself out of that mode.
I had a long talk with myself and decided to focus on being serious. I limited myself to women who were a real chance at being my wife. No less than 10 years younger, No kids or kids grown, English level..some or better.
It was going fine until this girl came along. She was only 32 but I chatted with her anyway. Soon I was on the plane to visit her. I had planned to see two during that visit. One 46 and her. I never made it to the 46 year old.
We had the greatest time together. We laughed, we played, we talked about life.. it was fantastic but all the while I'm thinking "I can't fall for a girl of 32. Never works out".
Then came the second visit a month later. Better than the first. We had the greatest time together and both cried when I left.

Crap!!! Now I see what's going on. I'm trying to get her out of my mind by showering myself with other girls.
that explains it. I'm not even interested in the other girls. They are a blur to me.
Darn it!! I can't be falling for a girl of only 32. Statistics show.. failure is assured.

Now what?

Tell me you're kidding with this. Come back and tell us all that this was just some big joke. It is, right?
 
You can't be serious. If you are please stay home and spare that poor girl the mental abuse. That's what.

[GQBlues]

Classic.
 
Yeah, I can't think of too many men in their advance years who wouldn't be in the same predicament as you if they had a chance to spend an entire month of fun, laughter, and good time with women as young as, or as pretty as, the likes of Selena Gomez. Plus or minus a scale or two.
 
For the most part, it really is 'par for the course'. Such is life in the MOB.

[ghost of moon goddess]

Ghost, what makes you think we think it is funny?
 
What I see is a serious case of cold feet or an aversion to commitment. Either way, he is coming across as a player and by bringing it to the open, maybe he can find some justification.
 
Seen it before many timess.

Muzh, I did not like one post because of its humorous undertone which I found out of place, IMHO.

I agree, it's a serious case of cold feet.
There are many nice and sincere people who wear their hearts and hopes and dreams on their sleeves . And, unfortunately, they became/become/and will become "easy meat' to a certain kind of people. Sadly

[Gator]

I agree, it's a serious case of cold feet.
There are many nice and sincere people who wear their hearts and hopes and dreams on their sleeves . And, unfortunately, they became/become/and will become "easy meat' to a certain kind of people. Sadly

Having "second thoughts" is not bad.  Please, let me explain.
 
The RW venture is different.  It has long periods of little activity other than correspondence/communication.  Then the meeting occurs, and because timetables are compressed both parties tend to go "all in,"  especially knowing that the next meeting may be months away. 
 
This is not the way that boys and girls have learned to date.   Consequently, some people may allow their emotions to get ahead of themselves.  If so, it is smart to hit the pause button and ponder for awhile. 
 
If both parties decide to continue, the commitment is even stronger than before.  OTOH,  if one party backs out definitively while the other party is thinking marriage, there will be pain.  It hurts but the pain would have been greater if they had married.

[JR]

Gator stop making sense and start making fun)))
 
James are you back yet?

[ghost of moon goddess]

Having "second thoughts" is not bad.  Please, let me explain.
 
The RW venture is different.  It has long periods of little activity other than correspondence/communication.  Then the meeting occurs, and because timetables are compressed both parties tend to go "all in,"  especially knowing that the next meeting may be months away. 
 
This is not the way that boys and girls have learned to date.   Consequently, some people may allow their emotions to get ahead of themselves.  If so, it is smart to hit the pause button and ponder for awhile. 
 
If both parties decide to continue, the commitment is even stronger than before.  OTOH,  if one party backs out definitively while the other party is thinking marriage, there will be pain.  It hurts but the pain would have been greater if they had married.

Having "second thoughts" is good.  Please, let me explain.
I always admire anybody who takes the unpopular line and defends their position robustly! Moreover,  whether we like or agree with his/her  Posts is irrelevant to the prime purpose of a forum. What is more important is that we give time to what another person says, why they take a particular view and the way they choose to express themselves.

The subject of this topic is a serious one and clearly affects some contributors/readers in a big way. Whatever my emotions on this thread, I am a hundred times more upset by a lack of awareness of what is acceptable and what is downright ill-mannered vulgarity, which is clearly observed in one post, in my opinion, of course.

[JR]

I always new that this board had an unusual concentration of people with decreased mental abilities due to sperm-toxicosis, but this is way too much even for this place...

So I guess you fit right in, lead us my queen
 
James are you back yet?

[Nat]

We don't know her and know little about James.  Maybe she feels James charming, attractive and stable.

Does he sound stable to you?

[Gator]

The subject of this topic is a serious one and clearly affects some contributors/readers in a big way. Whatever my emotions on this thread, I am a hundred times more upset by a lack of awareness of what is acceptable and what is downright ill-mannered vulgarity, which is clearly observed in one post, in my opinion, of course.

A forum does not sink to the lowest common denominator, yet comes close at times.  Thus, it can be unpleasant for those with elegance and grace. 
 
Moon Goddess, I really appreciate your insights and opinions, and please continue to express them even if something takes you offstride. 

[Gator]

Does he sound stable to you?

 
 
Succinct intelligence manifested.

[Donna_Pedro]

So I guess you fit right in, lead us my queen
 
James are you back yet?

OK, you have made your point. Btw, do I know you?

[Nat]

 
 
Succinct intelligence manifested.

What's your problem, Gator? Did I offend you somehow? Because I don't remember calling you nasty names or anything like that... Or have you started picking at my posts without any reason?