Unrealistic Expectations - Men - What are they?

[Doll]

With all due respect to the ladies, drama is one thing, stupidity is another.


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One more  unrealistic expectation- what a woman does (drama  or just expressing her thoughts) is stu-pi-di-ty.
Are you hearing, sisters? 

[Doll]

I'll tell you my husband's unrealistic expectations (they are still unrealistic after 10 years of marriage): he thought that a FSU woman had to "marry in" the 1)country 2) his family 3) his house 4) his life.
"Marry   in" is the key term. She (me) had to keep nothing Russian- language, food, habits, mentality, etc.
Actually, many AM think the same.
I don't.

[Misha]

I'll tell you my husband's unrealistic expectations (they are still unrealistic after 10 years of marriage): he thought that a FSU woman had to "marry in" the 1)country 2) his family 3) his house 4) his life.
"Marry   in" is the key term. She (me) had to keep nothing Russian- language, food, habits, mentality, etc.
Actually, many AM think the same.
I don't.

I will agree with you. I do find it odd when men marry women from another country, yet do not want to eat food from her country or hear her language    In our home, we simply take turns. When my wife cooks, she invariably does it her way with Russian cuisine, and when I cook I do everything but Russian. It provides variety, I like it, my wife likes it and everybody is happy 

[Doll]

Good for you, Misha!

[Spoon]

I will agree with you. I do find it odd when men marry women from another country, yet do not want to eat food from her country or hear her language    In our home, we simply take turns. When my wife cooks, she invariably does it her way with Russian cuisine, and when I cook I do everything but Russian. It provides variety, I like it, my wife likes it and everybody is happy 

I'm in agreement, I love hearing my wife speak Russian, lover her cooking and love having Russian nic-nacs around the house - I expected nothing less when I married her

[ML]

One  of the good results  is that  I had two Christmas's this year and will  have two Easters.

[calmissile]

Russian Easter = April 15th this year?

[Boethius]

Orthodox Easter.  It is celebrated by all Orthodox Christians, not just Russians.

[Anotherkiwi]

That young women are attracted to middle aged men.  This is often followed with poll examples citing George Clooney and Brad Pitt.
 
Sorry guys, but none of you look like a cleaned up Brad Pitt or George Clooney, nor do you have their cash.  

How do you know?     Mel Gibson had a smokinhotkova for a girlfriend - could he be a member here? 

[Boethius]

LOL, Kiwi.

However, remember, Mel did not pursue his RW, she found him (and his billion dollars).  She also was found to have lied about him hitting her and threatened to blackmail him when their relationship went south.  That would be more suited to the Unrealistic Expectations - Women thread.

Sadly, the years of abuse have taken their toll on Mel's looks.  So, while he is wealthier than Brad Pitt and George Clooney combined, he no longer competes with them in the looks department.  He certainly doesn't look "twenty years younger than his age".

[Daveman]

I'll tell you my husband's unrealistic expectations (they are still unrealistic after 10 years of marriage): he thought that a FSU woman had to "marry in" the 1)country 2) his family 3) his house 4) his life.
"Marry   in" is the key term. She (me) had to keep nothing Russian- language, food, habits, mentality, etc.
Actually, many AM think the same.
I don't.

Interesting...   Obviously a woman needs to "relate to" country, his family, his house, his life...  where is the balance between adaptation and losing oneself or the flip side of controlling behavior? (though accusations of the latter is what some RW seem to pull directly from their hind parts whenever something doesn't suit them or they don't get their way). I mean, it would be ridiculous unrealistic to believe that she would live on a Russian island inside USA, though I hear some do make that attempt.


So, with those being unrealistic expectations, what is/are actually realistic?

[Muzh]

One more  unrealistic expectation- what a woman does (drama  or just expressing her thoughts) is stu-pi-di-ty.
Are you hearing, sisters? 

Did I say that?

[Muzh]

I'll tell you my husband's unrealistic expectations (they are still unrealistic after 10 years of marriage): he thought that a FSU woman had to "marry in" the 1)country 2) his family 3) his house 4) his life.
"Marry   in" is the key term. She (me) had to keep nothing Russian- language, food, habits, mentality, etc.
Actually, many AM think the same.
I don't.

When our son was born, I begged my wife to pass as much Russian culture and tradition to him and I would do everything possible to pass my PR traditions to him.

So far he likes meat jello, borscht, anything his Grandpa cooks, arroz con habichuelas, tostones, amarillos, empanadas (his favorite) and pernil.

He will say a few Russian words to his family when the wife skypes with them and now he's got in the habit of saying "carajo oye."

Not to mention he has two Christmases; American (12/24) and Russian/Puertorrican (1/6). So he has developed into a real Ukrarrican.

[2tallbill]

Nooooo,, I think most men look to the FSU because they are looking for women who have ethics that would not allow them to be Strippers...

It's really too bad that a lot of women sell their bodies because of economic reasons... My view on feminism does not allow things like this.

Surely Liliya was talking about a professional ballerina or something like that.

[Gator]

Not to mention he has two Christmases; American (12/24) and Russian/Puertorrican (1/6). So he has developed into a real Ukrarrican.

Never knew Puerto Rica religious calendar coincided with Russian calendar.   Gifts for both Christmasses? 
 
Did you like Rum Diary?  Hunter Thompson fan?   Well, not everything in his life - "I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me. "

[Darth_Budda]

Surely Liliya was talking about a professional ballerina or something like that.

Yes she was,, it was cleared up...

[Daveman]

So, with those being unrealistic expectations, what is/are actually realistic?

Excellent question there Daveman!  Since they all ignore you, I'll try it this time...


So, Ladies, what is a *realistic* expectation for a woman's "adaptation/integration" to a new culture?  Certainly it varies woman to woman...  so throw some out there...

[Doll]

Excellent question there Daveman!  Since they all ignore you, I'll try it this time...


So, Ladies, what is a *realistic* expectation for a woman's "adaptation/integration" to a new culture?  Certainly it varies woman to woman...  so throw some out there...

What women expect from their husbands?
It used to take good 4 years to get through immigration process till GC, this period being shorter now.
So, the first year or two most women need help-cars, food, clothing etc. to be paid by husbands. Depends on the age.
Emotional support during  adjustment in the country, patience.
Only few husbands understand what it is- to start living in another culture.
 

[Muzh]

Never knew Puerto Rica religious calendar coincided with Russian calendar.   Gifts for both Christmasses? 
 
Did you like Rum Diary?  Hunter Thompson fan?   Well, not everything in his life - "I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me. "

Christmas in Latin America is Epiphany. Santa is an American invention. Yes, he gets presents on both, the lucky devil.

The Rum Diary and Duke? I have talked to Bill Kennedy about Hunter since Bill interviewed him for a job at the paper where Bill was the editor. Bill lives around here and I bump into him quite often. His daughter Kathy used to date a friend of mine. He said this guy wanted to write a book and wanted the paper as his platform, which is nothing wrong. Problem is there were things he wanted to "explore" that you could not print in a newspaper. I was too young to have met Mr. Thompson when he was in his drunken stupor down in the island but boy, I would have given anything to have done that.

Also, understand this is was past the fact. The Rum Diary and Gonzo journalism is something I learned of way past their prime when I moved to NY.

[Hammer2722]

Last time I checked, Puerto Ricans celebrated Xmas same as Catholics. I should know being a full blooded Puerto Rican!!!!

[Boethius]

Muzh is talking about Día de Reyes - I assume, Muzh?

[Muzh]

Muzh is talking about Día de Reyes - I assume, Muzh?

Absolutely.

I know that Santa is celebrated on 12/24 in PR. I mean, what do you expect after more than 100 years of occupation? But also, Hammer, being a full blooded Puertorrican you SHOULD remember putting grass is a shoe box for the camels when they come bringing the toys.

[Gator]

Ah, the Three Kings day.  Makes more chronological sense than Christmas Eve.   Do you celebrate July 4th or some other day of independence? 
 
Cool stuff about Hunter Thompson.  He was even too old for me.  Definitely a decadent man, yet he sure could coin a phrase.
 
 
Hammer, do you know 20 different Latin dances?  If yes, you are still a few short of the Muzh.    

[Muzh]

Ah, the Three Kings day.  Makes more chronological sense than Christmas Eve.   Do you celebrate July 4th or some other day of independence? 
 
Cool stuff about Hunter Thompson.  He was even too old for me.  Definitely a decadent man, yet he sure could coin a phrase.
 
 
Hammer, do you know 20 different Latin dances?  If yes, you are still a few short of the Muzh.