How and where to find the AM who would like to live in Russia (or Europe)

[ghost of moon goddess]

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Another observation, though very rough, that UW seems more easily leave their land than RW. I'm not sure the economic factor is the only determinant in this anomaly.

Perhaps, Ukrainian souls are not as sensitive and deep as those enjoyed by Russians 

Ah, Russians, how you love to imagine your uniqueness 

[Belvis]

Ah, Russians, how you love to imagine your uniqueness 

That's right "Russian soul" is a good conception to explain everything even if in reality one has no clue to

[Aditya]

Actually your chances are very slim, but there always are exceptions.
but i bet there are many asians, arabs and other residing in america looking for a russian girls.

[GQBlues]

oops

The most rational post in the thread so far...

[Eduard]

The most rational post in the thread so far...

And then there were two...

[ML]

Ah, Russians, how you love to imagine your uniqueness 

Comes from too much reading of Gogol?

I know he was born in Ukraine; but was his lineage Russian?

[Gator]

What should I lower in your opinion?!

I don't pay too much attention to the appearance and don't expect for ALL our interests to be the same, isn't that enough?!

I retract my statement about high standards.  Nevertheless, nothing positive is happening.   You have been away from RWD for a period and I was thinking that you had finally met someone who happily occupied your time.  As it turns out, you paint a very bleak picture.
 
Your description of your dates seem as absurd to me as Eduard's statement that most AW in Tampa Bay are fat.   I say absurd because I live in Tampa Bay and I see many fine looking women.  Regarding men, I know many, many happily married men.   And in my bachelor days, 98% of my single men friends treated women decently.
 
I have two sons, 32 and 28, and I see their lives firsthand.   Both have university degrees and both are professionally employed albeit at not high income positions.  They and their friends are not like the type of men you seem to be meeting.  Most friends seem normal and some are married with children.  Admittedly, there are a couple of friends from the darkside.   
 
In contrast your description of men suggests all single men are from the darkside or oversexed expats from the East. 
 
My older son has just purchased a home, yet he has not had a loving relationship in 10 years.  He seems content with being single.   He feels that he does not earn enough money to undertake the responsibilities of a family.  And by now most of the good women are married.   In contrast my younger son has been with the same woman for 4 years and they live at my home while his career in advertising gets underway in a slow economy and she completes her graduate studies. 
 
 
What is the explanation for your situation?   Could it simply be the economy?   The economy is certainly restraining my two sons.  Yet their behavior is still decent.   

[ghost of moon goddess]

Comes from too much reading of Gogol?

I know he was born in Ukraine; but was his lineage Russian?

Gogol said that Russian and Maloross (Little Rissian) souls are the souls of twins – being native, equally strong and complementing each other. Giving priority to one over another would be detrimental to the two.

It's unbelievable but Russia and Ukraine still lay claim to Gogol, disputing over his roots and claiming him as a 100 per cent Russian/Ukrainain writer, respectively 

[Vasilisa]

Perhaps, Ukrainian souls are not as sensitive and deep as those enjoyed by Russians 

Ah, Russians, how you love to imagine your uniqueness 

I have no idea what you are talking about. This thread is not about the Russians but about me and my preferences, there are a lot of Russians who feel fine living in the US.

[Vasilisa]

Actually your chances are very slim, but there always are exceptions.
but i bet there are many asians, arabs and other residing in america looking for a russian girls.

Errr, no! Been there, done that, perephrasing the Russian saying:"You can take the guy out of the UAE, but you can't take the UAE out of the guy), so no Arabs and Indians, maybe Chinese...I haven't tried them yet.

[Vasilisa]

I have two sons, 32 and 28, and I see their lives firsthand.   Both have university degrees and both are professionally employed albeit at not high income positions.  They and their friends are not like the type of men you seem to be meeting.  Most friends seem normal and some are married with children.  Admittedly, there are a couple of friends from the darkside.   
 
In contrast your description of men suggests all single men are from the darkside or oversexed expats from the East. 
 
My older son has just purchased a home, yet he has not had a loving relationship in 10 years.  He seems content with being single.   He feels that he does not earn enough money to undertake the responsibilities of a family.  And by now most of the good women are married.   In contrast my younger son has been with the same woman for 4 years and they live at my home while his career in advertising gets underway in a slow economy and she completes her graduate studies. 
 
 
What is the explanation for your situation?   Could it simply be the economy?   The economy is certainly restraining my two sons.  Yet their behavior is still decent.

Thank you, Gator, but very often you could be surprised to see the dating behavior of the people around us and their preferences. For example, the Pakistani guy who looked very nice and seemed to be a lovely friend and a decent guy turned out to be a complete control freak and selfish  in a closer  relationship, so... 

[Misha]

I am curious as to what your dating strategy happens to be. Are you using dating sites? How do you filter and do triage? It is surprising that you aren't finding more average guys.

[Vasilisa]

I am curious as to what your dating strategy happens to be. Are you using dating sites? How do you filter and do triage? It is surprising that you aren't finding more average guys.

The local dating websites. I don't go to the bars, etc. Of course the strategy is more like: I feel a lot of enthusiasm, then I go to several dates in a row, then I lose any enthusiasm and stop any dating, now I am in the process of another dating wave, that's the reason why I am here:)

I've read the dating experience of other divorced RW here, in the US, their experience is about the same,  it's not hard to find a guy, it's hard to find the ONE you are looking for, there are women who are looking for more than 4 years' time.

[Misha]

Dating is a numbers game. The more potential candidates you meet, the more likely you are to find someone that will be worth dating. However, it should be easier IMHO for women as most should receive more offers for dates than men will have women agreeing to dates.

[Vasilisa]

Dating is a numbers game. The more potential candidates you meet, the more likely you are to find someone that will be worth dating. However, it should be easier IMHO for women as most should receive more offers for dates than men will have women agreeing to dates.

I also have to work:)

[Misha]

Dates can be quick, even if you work. A lunch/coffee date should last less than an hour.

[Vasilisa]

Dates can be quick, even if you work. A lunch/coffee date should last less than an hour.

I have 3 different jobs. Work weekends and late nights. Have business trips.
I have also subscribed to a learning course online, also have to do it sometimes.

[Misha]

I have 3 different jobs. Work weekends and late nights. Have business trips.

Again, a date should not last days or even hours, it can be a quick coffee at Starbucks. I am sure that you have a few hours spread out over the course of every week.

[Vasilisa]

Today is actually my first full day off since August. So I was doing laundry, broke the washing mashine and I am having a date tonight, hopefully a nice one as it's not the first one with this guy

[Vasilisa]

Dates can be quick, even if you work. A lunch/coffee date should last less than an hour.

Yeah, explain this to the guys I meet.

[Misha]

Have fun! But, I wouldn't recommend asking him whether he would be willing to move to Russia 

[Misha]

Yeah, explain this to the guys I meet.

It is not that hard. You say: I have an hour between jobs, and I will leave at X. If you are meeting at a café, they won't chain you to the table 

[Vasilisa]

Have fun! But, I wouldn't recommend asking him whether he would be willing to move to Russia 

Already done. I know for sure he doesn't like it here, in TX, but he has never been to Russia yet.

[Vasilisa]

It is not that hard. You say: I have an hour between jobs, and I will leave at X. If you are meeting at a café, they won't chain you to the table 

The middle eastern guy would start whining that he wouldn't be able to come for lunch but he could come in the evening but he will drive for 30 minutes' time so 1 hour is not enough, then he would ask to take 4 days off work as he wants to invite me to somewhere and when you say "no", he will whine and whine and whine and complain untill you change the phone number

[Manny]

May I ask your age Vasilia? And how long you have been in the US?