Wrong thing to say to a FSUW?

[ML]

Like it matters, but to be more specific.  I am 55, but look in mid 40's.  No drinking, smoking, lifetime runner, Army paratrooper, stay in top shape, optimistic person.  'Nuff said.  Ciao.

Come on now Sund; you first said you looked 10 years younger.

55 minus 10 is 45.

But now you are hedging and saying mid 40's.

Just how 'mid' is it?

Do you really look 46 and are tying to claim 45?

Truth in advertising should apply.

So please clarify; is it 45 or maybe 44 or 46 . . . or just give us the value for  one standard deviation.

[Ranetka]

Like it matters, but to be more specific.  I am 55, but look in mid 40's.  No drinking, smoking, lifetime runner, Army paratrooper, stay in top shape, optimistic person.  'Nuff said.  Ciao.

That's not good enough as most men in mob business look 15 years younger. You may wish to reconsider your beauty routine.

[Daveman]

... Seriously, you've got a 25 year age difference and you'll have many obstacles to overcome. You'd be ahead of the game to go ahead and end this one now.

He is already married.  No need to jump off the Scream Machine as it's clicking toward the top... stay aboard and enjoy the ride. 

[mendeleyev]

Sund, you must forgive members for having a smile over your age and looks designation. It is very common for guys to excuse large age differences with the claim that they look and feel much younger than they are. They're nice guys really. Don't fret, we're not even going to give you a hard time for adding an extra word at the front of the name of your wife's country. 

Personally I've learned not to judge a man's age by his looks and instead have discovered that the foolproof method of evaluating such factors to be the design of his oxygen tank and the number of circles worn on the tires of his wheelchair are much more accurate indicators. Sort of like trees and dog years.

I'm mid to upper 50s and my lovely wife is 10 years younger but in our family it is she who looks 10+ years younger. Alas, I don't have her genes, nor her jeans either. If she were to discover that I even hinted at her age I'd be sprouting tulips by Spring. 

[Gator]

Sleepycat,

You have cancelled your plans for a WOVO trip to see a woman you met during your last trip.  Even though you had three dinner dates with her during your last trip, you never resolved the very important issue of future children.  This is something you should have done on your first dinner date.

In the "Saved by Mila" thread, you made a WOVO trip to meet one woman whom you had met before, only to discover when you arrived that she had no interest in you.  We criticized you for not determining this before you made the trip. 

THE THIRD TIME YOU DO THIS, please ask serious compatibility questions during the first meeting, or better yet, before you meet them.     If they do not speak English, use an interpreter who can clarify any possible misunderstanding before wasting your time on incompatible women.

[Faux Pas]

He is already married.  No need to jump off the Scream Machine as it's clicking toward the top... stay aboard and enjoy the ride. 

Which is even more surprising that the delusions continue. He's already married and still trying to convince himself of his youthful looks for a "man" of 55. She's obviously alright with it, for the time being anyway. He'd do well to accept the reality

[sleepycat]

THE THIRD TIME YOU DO THIS,

I'm not sure if there is going to be a third time to be honest...
Too bad I have already bought the plane ticket for the return trip for May 2014 prior to finding out the lady had changed her mind.
The plane ticket is non-refundable and non-changeable so I will soon have to make a decision:

Do I cancel the trip and waste the plane ticket, or do I go ahead with potentially another fruitless trip and waste more travelling expenses?

It seems the rules of this game is very much stacked against me and maybe I should cut my losses and get out.
May have to drop my standards a little bit and date local women instead...LOL

[GQBlues]

I'm not sure if there is going to be a third time to be honest...
Too bad I have already bought the plane ticket for the return trip for May 2014 prior to finding out the lady had changed her mind.
The plane ticket is non-refundable and non-changeable so I will soon have to make a decision:

Do I cancel the trip and waste the plane ticket, or do I go ahead with potentially another fruitless trip and waste more travelling expenses?

It seems the rules of this game is very much stacked against me and maybe I should cut my losses and get out.
May have to drop my standards a little bit and date local women instead...LOL

I don't believe that for a minute, but that's neither here or there. Date locally for a myriad of reasons not least of which is you finding someone that is compatible with you and your ideals and IS already there with you.

You can still keep the ticket for your pending trip but just start re-assessing your outlook about what you need to do and know next time around. IIWY, start questioning yourself and search for better ways for you to become a 'better' you. Start mingling socially especially with and around women. Find your comfort. Use whatever knowledge you gained from this and find a way to channel that when you start associating with women in Ukraine.

Life's got to be more than just hitting dating agencies in Ukraine, flipping through silly pages for a pretty face then paying for stupid dates that never had a chance.

[Daveman]

...
The plane ticket is non-refundable and non-changeable so I will soon have to make a decision:

Do I cancel the trip and waste the plane ticket, or do I go ahead with potentially another fruitless trip and waste more travelling expenses?

I wouldn't cancel the trip.  I'd take this time to learn how to get on the right track with the process.  You have plenty of time between now and may.  Design a meeting plan.  Start here:
http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=14615.0


Write/communicate with hundreds between now and then.  Unless you're a hunchback with leprosy, you'll absolutely find a few who are very interested in you and go from there.  It's a numbers game with wildly varying percentages of attraction and compatibility. 

It seems the rules of this game is very much stacked against me...

The rules are stacked against everyone everywhere. Chances are, with women you meet and date anywhere you will not wind up taking that meeting all the way to marriage.  Put the odds in your favor by doing your preliminary work by communicating with as many as humanly possible and filtering out those not really interested, those without a very high level of compatibility, etc..


It really isn't rocket surgery or Mt Everest.  One deliberate step at a time will get you there.

[Jumper]

It really isn't rocket surgery or Mt Everest.  One deliberate step at a time will get you there.

Well it might be a bit like Mt Everest above 26,000 feet?
 but I've a morbid sense of humor, and perhaps much like Everest,
 it isn't the getting to the top that generally kills you , its after.
(since you're exposed longer and too long within the dead zone on your return)
 

[Gator]

I'm not sure if there is going to be a third time to be honest...

You have paid for the ticket so go.  However, you must have a different approach because your past attempts fell short.  Ask Mila for advice for what you should change.  She has met you and she could get feedback from some of the women you met.

[southernX]

I'm not sure if there is going to be a third time to be honest...
Too bad I have already bought the plane ticket for the return trip for May 2014 prior to finding out the lady had changed her mind.
The plane ticket is non-refundable and non-changeable so I will soon have to make a decision:

Do I cancel the trip and waste the plane ticket, or do I go ahead with potentially another fruitless trip and waste more travelling expenses?

It seems the rules of this game is very much stacked against me and maybe I should cut my losses and get out.
May have to drop my standards a little bit and date local women instead...LOL

sleepy cat,

start now !!
time to re think your approach and results so far,
go back to basics and re do your homework on you and that type of person/partner you are actually seeking ,
 then look for that person carefully with due thought ,dont get too distracted away from the criteris you set
contact mila again ,as she has met you before  ask her for honest input/advice  on improving your self in the search & the type of lady you are seeking ,  try it , you might be surprised at  the results

use the ticket ,  advise any potential match up you are coming in may , stay positive and stick to your new plan ,

kharkiv is agood city , lots of potential there

SX

[sund]

Ha ha Faux Pax; your name matches your response.  BTW, I am viewing this message from over a year ago, and wanted to tell you that my gorgeous Ukrainian wife and I (25 years younger than me), are enjoying the 1 month birthday of our daughter.  Your cynicism of me proved that you are a FAUX PAX.  Enjoy eating your words for Valentines (alone), if you are still searching for your Slavic lady.

[Faux Pas]

Ha ha Faux Pax; your name matches your response.  BTW, I am viewing this message from over a year ago, and wanted to tell you that my gorgeous Ukrainian wife and I (25 years younger than me), are enjoying the 1 month birthday of our daughter.  Your cynicism of me proved that you are a FAUX PAX.  Enjoy eating your words for Valentines (alone), if you are still searching for your Slavic lady.

Well good for you Mr. Stud with the mid 40's looks or is that upper 40's now even though your upper 50's? I hope your wife is a good one because in just a few short years you'll be 60plus and she'll still be lingering in the mid 30's. I suggest you start now on the no fat diets, viagra and vats of Rogaine. Be sure and come back in a couple of more years with an update. Color me interested! 

[Gator]

Ha ha Faux Pax; your name matches your response.  BTW, I am viewing this message from over a year ago, and wanted to tell you that my gorgeous Ukrainian wife and I (25 years younger than me), are enjoying the 1 month birthday of our daughter.  Your cynicism of me proved that you are a FAUX PAX.  Enjoy eating your words for Valentines (alone), if you are still searching for your Slavic lady.

First, congratulations for the birth of your little princess.   


Second, many a man has made his way to RWD claiming to look much younger than his actual age.   Rarely is it true because psychology studies found most men have a higher opinion of themselves than facts will bare.  We usually hear such from men trying to justify why it is reasonable for them to marry a much younger FSUW.  We chuckle and caution the men to be very careful.

Third, your post to FP reveals you are harboring much spite from a year ago.  Be careful, as entrenched spitefulness is detrimental, making you appear not as young as you belive you are. 

Fourth, if you are so proud of yourself, please post a selfie of you and your new daughter (no photos please of you with babies from your prior marriage ).   RWD women members will be the only ones allowed to comment. 

[Jumper]

Sund, Congrats!

(We have a 5 month old )


A ton of men over the years have come here to say they look ten years younger, so many its just become a running joke..
maybe some do, most don't.

How you guys handle the age difference as a couple is what is actually important, nothing else.

FP is happily married ,and has been for some time.
Like myself, he is quite lucky his wife puts up with him though!!
(and they share the same name, perhaps patience runs in the name?)


Anyway-
Good luck to you and your family!