Women with Children - more strongly worded advice

[Maxx2]

I remember in 1968 a deck of Playboy playing cards scattered along Fremont Avenue. The street didn't stay littered for long.


40 pages of info. What's the general synopsis of getting hitched to a woman with kids?


1) What of the naive belief that being a really great step-dad might get you an extra dose of appreciation from the wife?
2) Or is there a greater possibility of getting placed in a very distant second place in the attention and affection of the mother?
3) Will a teenage stepson vie for "man-of-the house"?
4) Will a mother see the need to have her son escape the military draft do anything to have this happen?
5) Will the man be expected to empty his IRA to provide a ivy league education for the step-kids?


Was any of this discussed? What did I miss?

[BC]

I remember in 1968 a deck of Playboy playing cards scattered along Fremont Avenue. The street didn't stay littered for long.


40 pages of info. What's the general synopsis of getting hitched to a woman with kids?


1) What of the naive belief that being a really great step-dad might get you an extra dose of appreciation from the wife?
2) Or is there a greater possibility of getting placed in a very distant second place in the attention and affection of the mother?
3) Will a teenage stepson vie for "man-of-the house"?
4) Will a mother see the need to have her son escape the military draft do anything to have this happen?
5) Will the man be expected to empty his IRA to provide a ivy league education for the step-kids?


Was any of this discussed? What did I miss?

Following logic there could be a 3a.. Will a teenage stepdaughter vie for "woman-of-the-house"

[LiveFromUkraine]

Not, just marriage with Jmana.

 All that matters, I am not a stripper now and I can support my kid. Strip club had some regulations at least, This weirdo's house did not.

I took the below bolded to mean you stripped when married to your second husband because of some medical bills. 

I don't work as a "stripper "anymore. I had no idea what it was until we found out about his sister. I only worked there when I was married to jmana  part time and only when I had a huge medical bill in 2008 due to my ectopic pregnancy with the second husband. Nobody gave a crap about my problems, but I had to take care of my business and focused on my goals despite everything else.

[Southpaw1982]

I am reposting it. It reminds me of the hard times and bullying I had to deal with when that animal was making my life hell and nobody would listen. It shows how kind people are. He will continue to cover his ass for his actions for the rest of his days. I don't care, it is between him and God, but I hope someone has any common sense to straighten that man out.



If anyone has any questions, please send me a personal message. I do realize I will never be able to change this guy, I think I covered everything that needed to be mentioned regarding my son's safety, Alina's safety and her kid's. If shit hits the fan and my son, Alina or Maria gets either hurt or sexually exploited, you will all have the source of enough info to help the situation. In mean time, he will continue to sugarcoat his presence and BS people online. 
I have a deep gratitude for making out of this hell in one peace. Thank you for your attention and I apologies if it caused some disturbance on here. But I felt like I had to speak up and not be afraid. 

P.S. So predictable...Of course he has to say something nasty to have the last word... LOL, Joker...

[GQBlues]

Which hubby?  She ended up stripping while in two marriages apparently. ...

Which marriage were we talking about all these time, LIU?

...Yes, smoking pot is legal in some states now as well yet some are demonizing Jmana. ..

Not back then, no?

Porn is legal as well yet YOU don't have a problem demonizing jmana from watching?...

Teen/kiddy porn is legal for you? Since when?

...She made a choice to put herself into a bad environment.  You really believe strip clubs are a healthy environment to work in?...

Again, she stripped for the benefit of her lazy hubby before. Why do you think doing it again to support her education is all of the sudden 'wrong'. She could've very easily worked elsewhere too while she was married, Why is that NOT wrong for you, too?

...Choosing to become a stripper isn't about bettering yourself.  If she wanted to better herself, there were plenty of other ways to go about it....

Who ever said it was? certainly not me. What she got OUT of stripping, education, is. You are so caught up with her stripping and never once considered what her situation at the time was. 4 years removed from her own country  with no support system, yet you state what you would do had it been you. I would hope anyone born into this country would already be fully aware of what they can do and their available options in life. But reality dictates otherwise because the fact is, many folks born into this society still do not and many resort to even worst environment SP ever did.

Imagine that, eh?

[Southpaw1982]

I took the below bolded to mean you stripped when married to your second husband because of some medical bills.

I was a single when I did it again, It was my business already. Why the f are you worrying about that? He can f around and have fun and I could not? Hypocrites...lol

[LiveFromUkraine]

Not back then, no?

So now it is legal it is ok?  hah 

Teen/kiddy porn is legal for you? Since when?

Talk about extreme examples.  You saying he was watching porn with illegal minors?

Again, she stripped for the benefit of her lazy hubby before. Why do you think doing it again to support her education is all of the sudden 'wrong'. She could've very easily worked elsewhere too while she was married, Why is that NOT wrong for you, too?

She should have worked somewhere else.  That is what I have been saying all along.  I take it you are all for that girl from Duke who got into porn to pay for college as well?

Who ever said it was? certainly not me. What she got OUT of stripping, education, is. You are so caught up with her stripping and never once considered what her situation at the time was. 4 years removed from her own country  with no support system, yet you state what you would do had it been you. I would hope anyone born into this country would already be fully aware of what they can do and their available options in life. But reality dictates otherwise because the fact is, many folks born into this society still do not and many resort to even worst environment SP ever did.

Imagine that, eh?

Nope, I am calling out your post stating that questionable decisions are ok if they are to further your education and better yourself.  Stripping and working in that environment isn't about bettering yourself.  In fact, that type of environment tends o get girls screwed up into many other bad things like drugs and prostitution. 


You made it sound like she had no other options which would be bs.


If it was all about bettering yourself and getting an education, there were better way to doing it.  I don't really know how many times I have to say it. 

[Southpaw1982]

. You are so caught up with her stripping and never once considered what her situation at the time was
Imagine that, eh?

GQBlues, that is the only thing they got ...and at the time the money I was making was the only way to sustain my living and independence from a man... Weak minded people! They don't understand it is just a job. If cleaning toilets paid well, I would be doing that, but it would not mean I like to consume crap, right? LOL

[LiveFromUkraine]

I was a single when I did it again, It was my business already. Why the f are you worrying about that? He can f around and have fun and I could not? Hypocrites...lol

You just stated you did it only when married to jmana and part time.   I am trying to get your story straight, that is all.  It seems it is changing in every post.

[Southpaw1982]

If it was all about bettering yourself and getting an education, there were better way to doing it.  I don't really know how many times I have to say it.

Like what, smart ass?  What is done is done. I know how to move and it fed me. I don't feel bad about it. There were lots of single moms I worked with...Nobody was shitting all over them.

[Hammer2722]

You just stated you did it only when married to jmana and part time.   I am trying to get your story straight, that is all.  It seems it is changing in every post.

Good luck with that! 

[mies]

You sure are preoccupied with porn.  Do you think about anything else??

jmana, quit bullying your ex wife.

[mies]

I suggest you go back to the courts and give them your evidence.   As far as I know, there is nothing stopping you from taking matters into your own hands right now regardless if there was a custody case or not.



You should be taking action if your child's safety is at risk.

I think so too. This should be done. Also, after that, jmana  will have very little to no chance to bring another victim of his behavioral issues into the USA.

At the same time, I do start feeling certain... compassion or perhaps a pity, for he clearly is a socially unadjusted person on many levels, and he just do not seem to be able to have the "normal" relationship.

[jmana]

Which hubby?  She ended up stripping while in two marriages apparently. 


Yes, smoking pot is legal in some states now as well yet some are demonizing Jmana.


Porn is legal as well yet YOU don't have a problem demonizing jmana from watching?


She made a choice to put herself into a bad environment.  You really believe strip clubs are a healthy environment to work in? 


Choosing to become a stripper isn't about bettering yourself.  If she wanted to better herself, there were plenty of other ways to go about it. 


We just gotta disagree on it.

It wouldn't have mattered how much I made.  We had no problems paying our bills or in putting food on the table, in fact we always had a surplus    It was never enough for her (or her family who was always begging).  Greed knows no boundaries. 

[mies]

  Especially considering the lady was black, and all I had to do was whip out emails where she is calling people ni__ers and making fun of every race but her own.  Didn't exactly go over well if you know what I mean

manipulation of law-enforcement and justice.
cunning.

[LiveFromUkraine]

Like what, smart ass? 

hah My ass better be smart, I paid enough money to educate it.   

[Southpaw1982]

You just stated you did it only when married to jmana and part time.   I am trying to get your story straight, that is all.  It seems it is changing in every post.

Yes, for 2 years in 2003 and 2004...Then I got divorced in 2006 from jmana. Then I started college in 2008, had an ectopic, when medical bills rolled in, I could not pay even working 2 jobs, . I went dancing part time on 3rd shift again, then stopped when my BF proposed.. Then got re-married in 2009. I never danced in 2009 and ever since. So WTF? My second marriage got rocky and I left a second husband, he needed a rehab. I moved on, graduated, got a job moved to FL...How terrible is that?? No, I should have stayed and worked minimum wage? I don't know what you want from me people???

[jmana]

manipulation of law-enforcement and justice.
cunning.

Manipulation of law enforcement?  What, showing this lady that the person who made the call was a lying racist?  Come on.  She calls black people ni__ers in front of my kid.  I had more reason to be calling child services than the other way around!

[Muzh]

Yes, for 2 years in 2003 and 2004...Then I got divorced in 2006 from jmana. Then I started college in 2008, had an ectopic, when medical bills rolled in, I could not pay even working 2 jobs, . I went dancing part time on 3rd shift again, then stopped when my BF proposed.. Then got re-married in 2009. I never danced in 2009 and ever since. So WTF? My second marriage got rocky and I left a second husband, he needed a rehab. I moved on, graduated, got a job moved to FL...How terrible is that?? No, I should have stayed and worked minimum wage? I don't know what you want from me people???

Don't you know?
 
You are a sassy little thang. Stop that and know your place. Bow down to the man.
 
Eh, what the hell. You are a woman. So it really doesn't matter what you do. 

[Southpaw1982]

hah My ass better be smart, I paid enough money to educate it.   

Good! (Now, show it) So did I,  and I knew what was best for me at the time. Got it? Despite people's pity opinions. I took care of myself. NOTE: I have never done drugs or been to jail, at least. True, I was NOT willing to waste my life pleasing jmana and his twisted fantasies, even if he had a million dollars, I would not want anything to do with him. Period.

[LiveFromUkraine]

Yes, for 2 years in 2003 and 2004...Then I got divorced in 2006 from jmana. Then I started college in 2008, had an ectopic, when medical bills rolled in, I could not pay even working 2 jobs, . I went dancing part time on 3rd shift again, then stopped when my BF proposed.. Then got re-married in 2009. I never danced in 2009 and ever since. So WTF? My second marriage got rocky and I left a second husband, he needed a rehab. I moved on, graduated, got a job moved to FL...How terrible is that?? No, I should have stayed and worked minimum wage? I don't know what you want from me people???

I don't want anything.  I just didn't believe you 100% just like I didn't believe jmana 100%.  I was explaining why and got into a tangent with GQ over a topic of what is acceptable to better oneself through education.

Don't worry, there are men here that will automatically accept what you say because you're a woman.  They say they believe in equality but it's a farce when in reality they automatically take up the side of a woman.   These men are more like drama queens and need to make up things to help support their fragile egos.   

Good! (Now, show it) So did I,  and I knew what was best for me at the time. Got it? Despite people's pity opinions. I took care of myself. NOTE: I have never done drugs or been to jail, at least. True, I was NOT willing to waste my life pleasing jmana and his twisted fantasies, even if he had a million dollars, I would not want anything to do with him. Period.

I did show it by not blindingly accepting what you said.  You are always tied to jmana through your son. You both need to fix this for his sake.

[mies]

Yeah really.  I would say that about most kids his age, but he's not like that.  He still hides his eyes when he sees boobs in a movie

I am wondering why at my 35, the porn NEVER popped up on my computer screen in all these years and years of internet surfing and multiple computers. My computer doesn't have any "parental supervision" blocks on it.

So I don't really buy into the story of "accidentally popped up, the search word was similar to porn."

Also, what was that story the SP was telling about you giving your son your old phone with undeleted search history containing some porn, and you start telling that this was a used phone and someone must have browsed those sites before you? You do know that you sound as a lying child, don't you?
That excuse would be OK for a child, but for a 38 yo man? Come on. Have some respect for our eyes (reading this) and ears (listening to it).

[Southpaw1982]

Manipulation of law enforcement?  What, showing this lady that the person who made the call was a lying racist?  Come on.  She calls black people ni__ers in front of my kid.  I had more reason to be calling child services than the other way around!

You confused me with Paula Dean... LOL you are pathetic, you don't know what else to come up with...Unless you have something to back it up with, don't even peep on here, coward lol

[LiveFromUkraine]

I am wondering why at my 35, the porn NEVER popped up on my computer screen in all these years and years of internet surfing and multiple computers. My computer doesn't have any "parental supervision" blocks on it.

So I don't really buy into the story of "accidentally popped up, the search word was similar to porn."

Also, what was that story the SP was telling about you giving your son your old phone with undeleted search history containing some porn, and you start telling that this was a used phone and someone must have browsed those sites before you? You do know that you sound as a lying child, don't you?
That excuse would be OK for a child, but for a 38 yo man? Come on. Have some respect for our eyes (reading this) and ears (listening to it).

It didn't accidentally popped up.  He was on a site that was either a porn site or was tied enough to porn it would pop up those kind of things.   

[jmana]

You confused me with Paula Dean... LOL you are pathetic, you don't know what else to come up with...Unless you have something to back it up with, don't even peep on here, coward lol

Oh I do have emails where you called people Ni__ers, and Fa__ots, and lots of other racist and bigoted names, but out of respect for your privacy I won't post them here, unless you want me to?