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Author Topic: Closed book or open book?  (Read 1432 times)

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Offline Obtuso

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Closed book or open book?
« on: May 13, 2014, 07:13:18 AM »

I was reading a blog about Ukranian woman and I came across and interesting
article about the "closed book" mentality of the people in this country.

Here is an interesting excerpt:

"The reality is that all people in Ukraine must constantly discern who is trying to take from them, and who is not. This culture is harsh and there is a lot of deceit. So, the percentage of people in Ukraine who are closed is much higher than in the United States where I grew up.

As a result, a large percentage develop behavior patterns that are those of a closed book, never allowing someone to truly get inside their little circle.

Sure, if you live in the same neighborhood, work at the same place, are a friend of their family already, they will let you in. In fact, many I would consider open the moment that you actually get into their community.

But, you are a foreigner coming over here, trying to convince her to leave her mother, family, and everything she is comfortable with to be with you and you are only staying here for a couple of weeks before going back to your cushy life.

Besides that, most of you couldn’t really attract a winner in your home country, and you are going to both attract and keep this girl from leaving you? That’s a joke, and that’s why..."

Here is the link for the full article:

http://loveukr.com/ukrainian-girls-cost/

It shed some light about the true chances that one has in building a successful relationship
with a FSU woman. For those who travelled, what you think about this?
Did you encounter mostly people with a closed mentality?




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On a lighter note "LONELYONE" charged again with another "Keyboard Romeo"
post declaring his love to the imaginary woman of his dreams "Nadezhda".

http://find-bride.com/blogs/view/all/1256

Read my post "These Dudes Need Our Help" in the "In-Country Services and Agencies" group,
if you don't know what I'm talking about.

I know that I'm being mean. Its like watching someone fall from a skateboard.
After the laughter, one should help the one that fell off, but in this case it's just
not possible to tell this guy to join us here in the forum. He has a lot of reading to do.
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Offline Jumper

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Re: Closed book or open book?
« Reply #1 on: May 21, 2014, 04:57:42 PM »
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But, you are a foreigner coming over here, trying to convince her to leave her mother, family, and everything she is comfortable with to be with you and you are only staying here for a couple of weeks before going back to your cushy life

There's some truth to that of course.
IF you are going over to stay for a couple weeks , and expect to convince a woman to leave her country ,her family and friends.

I dont think anyone would advise someone to attempt that.


While i understand the truth in the generality she makes,
shes also setting parameters that do not need to exist
nor ones that every couple conforms to?

Nothing stops a couple from taking more time, more visits, to a point they understand their relationship is what has become the most important, not the location either lives.


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